I know firsthand what it’s like to be caregiver for a disabled person who needs lots of daily help, but they can communicate understandably and do not have any cognitive or mental issues.
That person will purposely do things to make caregiving harder than it needs to be and they know how to get everybody in the household yelling at each other over something ridiculous. If everybody around them is having fun, they will find some cutting remark to ruin it or decide they want to leave and we have to go when they want to. They will want to make plans and minutes before go time, after everybody else set aside time and got ready, they decide they don’t want to go anymore and we end up not going. It’s not a matter of not feeling well, it’s them knowing we have to drop everything for them and jerking that chain when they feel like it.
That is not the same thing as someone who can’t make their communications understood refusing to cooperate because they can’t tell you why they don’t want to do that thing. The lack of cooperation is the communication. Do the detective work.
An example: if they resist you putting their shoes on, have meltdowns when the shoes are on or get aggressive when they see their shoes, they’re telling you something. The shoes might hurt their feet, or they have an issue with their feet, ankles, knees or legs, or the shoes could remind them of a trauma and they want them to go away. There’s a lot of things it could be.
There is a difference between someone being difficult on purpose because they enjoy making the world revolve around them and someone who has no choice but to be difficult to communicate with you, and so many caregivers of autistic people refuse to see it.
Some of the behaviour above is characteristic of people who feel they have no control over their life, and are trying to get a sense of control over something by demonstrating that they can inconvenience people.
Giving people more power over their life/themselves isn’t always possible, especially if the reasons they feel powerless are things like economic anxiety.
so apparently my friend owns a haunted photograph and he’s literally just told me this after two fucking years when he KNOWS how much i love haunted artefacts i can’t believe the audacity
i was like “how haunted are we talking here, is it just a vaguely cursed image or does it actually have Demonic Properties”
and he said “well i’ve never seen the actual image because my dad keeps it in a sealed envelope inside a safe, but whenever he takes it out you can hear voices screaming for help and you feel sick and sometimes you see dark figures moving around in your peripherals”
okay so, firstly, how is it that we’ve been friends for 2 years and this information has never come up, and secondly why the fuck do you still have it
according to his dad the image is of a man riding a model train set and it was given to him by a mysterious stranger in a pub who refused to tell anyone his real name
this is. this is literally a horror movie. this is a direct-to-video minimal-budget terribly-acted horror movie made by a bunch of film students in the nineties. i absolutely love it
me: “bring it round here and we can do the ouija board on it"
him: “nah, i try to stay away from that kind of stuff. if i don’t understand it then i don’t fuck with it.”
bold words from a man who stores haunted artefacts in the basement of his goddamn house
I scrolled back up to confirm this wasn’t onetimeidreamed
Reposting this as my last account was randomly terminated.
Back in March, my stepfather was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. It has really taken a toll on our family. Recently, we found out this will probably be his last Christmas with us.
Our family is poor so we were wondering if you could donate to his PayPal to help us make this a Christmas to remember.
In addition to this, we are selling Prayers for Darcy bracelets to help get him to the United States for treatment at Envita Medical Centers. Our goal is $100,000. Bracelets are $6 each, and you can send the payment here.
Furthermore, I have proof of illness for anyone who asks. I just don’t want to clutter up this post with medical documents as people will be less likely to read it.
weirdest thing about videogames is finding new clothing/armor for your character on dead NPCs like “its such a shame greg died but thank god his pants are just my size”
It’s such a shame this spider died. Good thing he was carrying pants, a helmet, and a sword.
It’s my opinion that like if a white supremacist/Nazi is going to be reformed. They need to do so willingly. The only times I’ve heard of successful rehabilitation of fascists is when they made the conscious decision to no longer be one anymore and seek atonement. People who try to like hug and change fascists that don’t want to change are fucking morons
Correct. I was crypto-facist for a few years, and the people trying to hug me didnt change me because at that point I wouldnt have listened. It was only when I started to see the movement for what it was that I was finally able to listen.
I’m not derailing your addition but I’m horrified you’re only 18. When did you become a fasc?
Yeah trust me it *is* horrifying. I’m ashamed of who I was and I think my only atonement is to talk about how damn easy it is to become one when you’re young.
This is gonna be a long post.
For a little bit of background, I am a mixed race person, half brown and half white. I was raised in a Muslim family and am still closeted around them.
I started to have issues with Islam at around 12 or so, when I first started to get the idea that I might be gay. Now I never would have admitted that was my reason. If you had asked me I probably would have said “logic” or something. Because of that I went hard into atheism and atheist circles.
Now people hate to admit this but ex-Muslim spaces are predominantly right wing. Ex-Muslims often see the left as “too tolerant” towards a religion that hurt them. This was the only community I had though, and I read through everything. I was 13.
The other thing that people hate to admit is that, especially when you’re young, being mixed race is so damn hard. If I acted “too white”, following my mother’s German/Austrian traditions, I was accused of hiding my true nature. But if I acted “too brown” I was just another camel jockey. So I hid my “Indian” customs from others and tried passing as white. Especially online.
So I’m not saying this is all youtube’s fault or anything. I was raised to believe that the brown half of my family was lesser and stupid. And with my hatred of Islam, I believed it doubly.
Then came Anita Sarkeesian. I was watching pewdiepie and from there my recommendations were all set. If I’m remembering the pipeline it was pewdiepie – Philip Defranco – Chris Ray Gun (sp?) – Thunderfoot – Sargon – etc. But I was pretty much acquainted with all of the right wing youtube of the day.
Funnily enough, I found her through Thunderfoot. That got me into antifeminism, and more specifically, GamerGate.
I was primarily on the subreddits KIA (Kotaku In Action) and TIA (Tumblr In Action). Both made fun of the SJWs. I kid you not, I would gleefully wait for “Sanity Sunday”, where the people would talk about how feminism is disgusting, cultural appropriation is fake, the wage gap isnt real, etc. I would scroll through this tag for hours.
I got most of my youtube recommendations from those subreddits. This led me from GamerGate to more fascist lines of thinking, such as watching videos about why BLM is a terrorist organization, why all muslims were evil rapists, and why I was fundamentally right to reject my Indian heritage and follow my “correct” heritage.
From here I delved into “race realism”, and I believed it all. I had to. This was the only community I had felt safe in. One of the fash guys even offered to shack me up at his house if my parents kicked me out for being atheist. I was 15.
To say that again, I was 15 and believed that white was right, blue lives matter, “we wuz kangs”, etc. I never would have called myself a fascist or a Nazi. How could I? I used my brown skin as a token, so that people could point to me and say: “See, we aren’t misogynistic and racist! We have this brown girl right here.” But I believed in all the things the Nazis did. I’m not going to pretend I didn’t. I will never pretend I didn’t.
But then something happened. I admitted to myself, and to a few others, that I was gay. And suddenly, the homophobia that I had molded myself in, it didn’t fit right. I happened to, by accident, click on the reddit thread of GamerGhazi, the opposition to GamerGate. And after a long bout of introspection I found out that they were accepting of gay people, that the things I had been experiencing were common, that maybe, just maybe, we didn’t need a white ethnostate.
I don’t want to be dramatic but that accidental click saved my life.
From there it was a road of recovery. I deleted all my old accounts, made new ones, and started to read leftist theory. I found better friends, cut out old people. So now, just about two years later, I’m healing.
I think that’s everything. I probably got some times and dates wrong because I’ve been trying to move on from it. But if you need more info or anything like that, please let me know.
Reblogging for anyone who’s struggling with being an ex-fascist. Feel free to message me as well, I know how scary it can be.
This is a fascinating read if you’re interested in just how the alt-right works, and how it recruits people.
It’s also fascinating to me because I was an atheist long before New Atheism appeared. And at first I was happy about it, because omg! people talking about this weird thing I usually kinda have to hide! And there was a lot of content on youtube that was, like, “how critical thinking works” or series about why way out there things like creationism sound hard to argue with when master manipulators talk about it. And I loved all of that.
But that eventually led me to stuff like–as this person mentions–thunderfoot, and I remember looking at it and just being baffled. We were supposed to be rational, and here this guy was ranting about feminism.
And like… I’d been in culty feminist circles, even. I liked the idea of debunking or reexamining concepts like “privilege” or “shut up and listen” or “people with this identity get to talk more.”
But it just seemed so weird and mean and off point. I wonder now why I was resistant to it, when some folks aren’t.
hey did you know that socially transitioning kids are actually far less likely than their peers to believe in gender stereotypes? almost like no one is telling them they have to be girls because they like dresses or have to be boys because they want to play with the truck………
olson kr & gülgöz s (2017). early findings from the transyouth project: gender development in transgender children. child dev perspect. doi:10.1111/cdep.12268
so yeah about childhood transition being a conspiracy to ‘fix’ gnc gay kids….
Being a good person is a choice. Don’t let people fool you into believing that truly good people never have bad thoughts, are never tempted by the easier path, by the low road, never mess up or act out selfishly. Never believe a person can be good without making a conscious effort.
Every single time you do something good, you’ve made a decision to make the world a little brighter.
Goodness is not an inherent trait, it is a choice. Keep making it! I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’m rooting for you!
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