Shep told his Mom the family architects made him nervous but his 12-year-old brother was probably the least accepting of the project.

One afternoon, not long after the family architects arrived, he grabbed a footstool and put his face right up to one of the Nest Cams.

“Hey, buttholes!” he said. “Why don’t you leave us alone?”

At first, nothing happened. Then there was a crackle of static, followed by a voice on the other end. “That’s a strike,” it said.

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This is. Absolutely horrifying. These people are licensed, payed child abusers. The casual comparison of their program to ABA (which tortures children for being autistic) should tell you all you need to know.

(via philosophy-and-coffee)

That’s genuinely terrifying. 1984 is not a family therapy handbook.

(via k-pagination)

Source: iamdanw

thenewinquiry:

“Deaf inmates are punished for missing count or mealtimes, though the announcements are made over loudspeakers they cannot hear. They are beaten by guards for misunderstanding orders, and, when they successfully lip-read one interaction and fail the next, they are beaten for ‘feigning’ their hearing loss. In addition, because prisons rarely provide certified ASL interpreters, the inmates struggle to defend themselves at disciplinary proceedings and have limited or no access to medical, mental health, or justice center professionals. They also lack access to any tailored social, educational, or rehabilitative programming. This, by design, is the nature of prisons—undesirables are hidden, with limited attempts at reintegration or socialization between the incarcerated and society (translating, on its face at least, to less manpower and money spent by the corrections system).”

Ableism, the English to Prison Pipeline, and the Plight of Deaf Inmates

Source: thenewinquiry

kantala13:

ndpsych:

hey-nicemarmot:

imakesensejournal:

furiousgoldfish:

good parents don’t raise children with flashbacks

good parents don’t raise children with extreme fear of touch

good parents don’t raise children who can’t say no

(continue the chain! reblog with “good parents don’t raise children” and write your own symptoms!)

good parents don’t raise children that fear their own emotions

good parents don’t raise children that don’t know what consent is

good parents don’t raise children to be silent about their reality

good parents don’t raise children that feel like their existence is a problem

good parents don’t raise children that hate themselves

good parents don’t raise children that feel guilty over basic needs (food, clothes)

good parents don’t raise children who are paranoid about whether their parents are mad or not (not at the children, just mad/not happy in general)

good parents don’t raise children who think “if I don’t get mad at someone else and pin the blame on them first, someone will get mad at me”

good parents don’t raise children who can’t ask for things and just learned to passive-aggressively hint at stuff instead

good parent don’t raise children who cry with confusion and happiness the first time someone accommodates their needs because the concept is so alien to them

good parents don’t raise children who feel they need to apologize for basic needs

good parents don’t raise children who think that anytime there a fight they might as well go down swinging, metaphorically or literally, because they are going to be hurt no matter what they do

good parents don’t raise children who blame themselves for uncontrollable events

good parents don’t raise children who think if they don’t make everyone around them happy they are worthless

good parent don’t raise children who expect to be mocked and ridiculed by the ones they trust

agaporae:

agaporae:

agaporae:

agaporae:

Controversial opinion, apparently: Don’t hit children.

It teaches them to obey out of fear, instead of for good behavior’s sake.

Even then, it has mixed results and often makes defiant children.

It causes long-lasting psychological issues that follow them to adulthood.

It ruins your relationship with that child because they will not trust you.

To everyone in the notes and my messages defending hitting children because I’m “spoiled” or from a different culture, I am a legal adult and my mother still spanks me. If I sleep in on accident she has no problem picking me up out of bed and hitting my butt with a shoe. She says this is strong discipline that I need to mature.

If you think what my mother does is wrong, what is different between my and a small child’s rights to bodily autonomy and a home without fear?

I would also like to say to everyone in the notes that was hit as a child, for or against:

You did not deserve it, under any circumstance, and I’m sorry you were hurt like that. Parents should not hit or otherwise physically harm their children and I hope you are okay, and if you aren’t, I hope you recover.

‘Cardgate’ Scandal Uncovers Widespread Disrespect of Autistic People

alliecat-person:

nosmag-blog:

‘Cardgate’ Scandal Uncovers Widespread Disrespect of Autistic People

Cards Against Humanity is a game whose own creators describe it as, “a party game for horrible people.” The game has been extremely popular, with several official and unofficial expansion packs available. Recently, a group of behavior analysts decided to get in on the fun by making their own expansion pack. Unfortunately, the result is anything but fun. In fact, it makes light of several abusive…

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This article nails the problem with behaviorist culture.

Please help me escape my abusive relationship for good

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

If you’ve been following me for a while, you more than likely know what’s going on, but for those who don’t know: I’ve been in an extremely toxic, abusive relationship for the past 6 ½ years with my son’s father. We have a 3 year old together. While I did leave him last year, I (stupidly) came back in March under the promises of “things would change” etc etc. He has been emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and financially abusive. I am cooperating with the state in applying for all kinds of state assistance I am eligible for. I have an apartment and have our most basic needs covered. I need help with covering rent at the end of the month as I can’t do it by myself (my rent is $936), I have no consistent means of transportation (there is no bus/public transit in the city I live in) and I really realllyyy don’t want to have to allow my abuser into my home just to help cover these bills. I can manage on my own, but I need help getting on my feet and establishing my independence in the time being.

Any resources, encouraging words (I have virtually no support system), or other help is so much appreciated.

My PayPal is c.newago@yahoo.com, or PayPal.me/bizaanideewin

Please please don’t send anon hate or criticism, I cannot stress how hard I am struggling with my own guilt and self-blaming right now

Miigwech

I’m having a sale on my website, if donating isn’t your jam.

www.bizaanideewin.com

BOOOOOOST

Bringing this back, with an update: I wasn’t able to survive on my own so I had to let him in. Lo and behold the abuse continues. Today he punched a hole in the bedroom door. My dad is going to cosign for a new apartment for me back in my hometown, as long as I cover the costs he is going to help me move. I’ve already got a rental application submitted. I’m done I’m leaving I’m OUT. I have tangible proof and I can break the lease without repercussions through the domestic violence clause in the lease.

I just need help with the intial moving costs and initial housing costs- the apartment I applied for is $645 a month, security deposit same amount. First months rent and security deposit due at lease signing. Moving costs are around $400 (it’s a 300 mile move so it gets expensive fast)

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE REBLOG

I’m almost 15% of the way there!! Please boost!

UPDATE: before my best friend came to get me to visit her, he and I got into a huge fight. He was screaming at me at the top of his lungs calling me a selfish bitch and a slut. He then proceeded to tell me Makoons won’t have any parents anymore if I call the cops.

Please boost!! I want to leave BEFORE this escalates!!!!

UPDATE: so it escalated last night. He’s in jail. He’s getting charged for domestic disorderly conduct or some shit like that. Once he’s released from jail he’s legally able to come back, if I take him off the lease I’ll be evicted unless I have a cosigner (which I do not have.) so my options are essentially continue dealing with this or move.

I also have venmo: @binesiikwens

Please help me escape my abusive relationship for good

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

indigenousmess:

indigenousmess:

If you’ve been following me for a while, you more than likely know what’s going on, but for those who don’t know: I’ve been in an extremely toxic, abusive relationship for the past 6 ½ years with my son’s father. We have a 3 year old together. While I did leave him last year, I (stupidly) came back in March under the promises of “things would change” etc etc. He has been emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and financially abusive. I am cooperating with the state in applying for all kinds of state assistance I am eligible for. I have an apartment and have our most basic needs covered. I need help with covering rent at the end of the month as I can’t do it by myself (my rent is $936), I have no consistent means of transportation (there is no bus/public transit in the city I live in) and I really realllyyy don’t want to have to allow my abuser into my home just to help cover these bills. I can manage on my own, but I need help getting on my feet and establishing my independence in the time being.

Any resources, encouraging words (I have virtually no support system), or other help is so much appreciated.

My PayPal is c.newago@yahoo.com, or PayPal.me/bizaanideewin

Please please don’t send anon hate or criticism, I cannot stress how hard I am struggling with my own guilt and self-blaming right now

Miigwech

I’m having a sale on my website, if donating isn’t your jam.

www.bizaanideewin.com

BOOOOOOST

Bringing this back, with an update: I wasn’t able to survive on my own so I had to let him in. Lo and behold the abuse continues. Today he punched a hole in the bedroom door. My dad is going to cosign for a new apartment for me back in my hometown, as long as I cover the costs he is going to help me move. I’ve already got a rental application submitted. I’m done I’m leaving I’m OUT. I have tangible proof and I can break the lease without repercussions through the domestic violence clause in the lease.

I just need help with the intial moving costs and initial housing costs- the apartment I applied for is $645 a month, security deposit same amount. First months rent and security deposit due at lease signing. Moving costs are around $400 (it’s a 300 mile move so it gets expensive fast)

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE REBLOG

I’m almost 15% of the way there!! Please boost!

UPDATE: before my best friend came to get me to visit her, he and I got into a huge fight. He was screaming at me at the top of his lungs calling me a selfish bitch and a slut. He then proceeded to tell me Makoons won’t have any parents anymore if I call the cops.

Please boost!! I want to leave BEFORE this escalates!!!!

UPDATE: so it escalated last night. He’s in jail. He’s getting charged for domestic disorderly conduct or some shit like that. Once he’s released from jail he’s legally able to come back, if I take him off the lease I’ll be evicted unless I have a cosigner (which I do not have.) so my options are essentially continue dealing with this or move.

I also have venmo: @binesiikwens

officialprydonchapter:

You know what?

Every parent needs to acknowledge that they have the potential to seriously fuck up their child.

Every parent needs to learn to see themself as a potential abuser, because every parent is a potential abuser.

Yes, even you, Mx. “I would never hurt my child.” Because a lot of the most abusive parents out there are parents who “would never hurt their child.” They’re people who believe, sincerely and strongly, that their deeds are “for the child’s own good.”

If you are a parent, you have a person in your care. Just because kids are “sill developing” doesn’t make them Not People. In fact, it means that everything that you do to them, every time that you ignore or belittle or hurt them in ANY way, will stay with them for the rest of their life. And they won’t think to themself, while it’s happening or after the fact, that you’re doing it to teach them a lesson. They’ll think to themself that you are angry with them, that you hate them, and that they are not good enough for you.

A problem with “behavior is communication”

alexeidarling:

butterflyinthewell:

realsocialskills:

In certain contexts, just about everything a disabled person does will result in someone following them around with a clipboard, taking notes on their behavior, and designing a behavior plan for them.

This is often called ‘listening to what the behavior is communicating’ or ‘keeping in mind that behavior is communication.’

I know that nothing I’ve ever done was intended to communicate ‘please put me on a behavior plan’. If anyone asked me, they would know with certainty that I don’t want them to do anything of the sort.

I’m not alone in this. Very few people would willingly consent to intense data collection of the kind involved in behavior analysis. Far fewer people would willingly consent to the ways in which that data is used to control their behavior.

A lot of people never get asked. People do these things to them that very few people would willingly consent to — without asking, and without considering consent to be a relevant consideration.

Somehow, an approach that involves ignoring what someone might be thinking gets called ‘listening to what is being communicated’.

That is neither ethical nor logical. Behaviors don’t communicate; people do. If you want to understand what someone is thinking, you have to listen to them in a way that goes beyond what any behavior plan can do.

Collecting data is not the same as listening, modifying behavior is not the same as understanding what someone is thinking, and disabled people are fully human.

I think a better phrase might be “people use behavior to communicate” because I know I do. I have very specific stims that pop out when I’m in distress and they’re a warning signal that might as well mean “I’m in trouble!”

My mom can tell when I’m in pain by how I’m acting. She can’t tell what part of me is in pain, but she knows my pain cues. (I get very quiet and listless unless I’m having a full on SIB meltdown from said pain.)

Soooo yeah, I think “people use behavior to communicate” is probably better.

Because everybody does that! We nod our heads for yes, shrug for “I don’t know” and point to indicate something. Body language can express things words don’t.

It’s just when autistic people use their own body language, it gets called weird and “therapied” to look not-weird.

…I mean, that’s what I always took “behaviour is communication” to mean. That the behaviour had a purpose (so to speak) and didn’t need to be therapied away.

homosexuallibrarian:

i find it really angering that abusive friendships aren’t addressed as much as abusive relationships. they’re both very much alike, horrible, and do a great deal of damage. its hard to talk to someone about leaving an abusive friend and feel like you’re being taken seriously