Opinion | Asexual People Deserve Better From Our Medical Providers

thereisquiet:

fuckyeahasexual:

Part of the problem is the pervasive stigma against asexuality. It was only recognized as distinct from hypoactive sexual desire disorder in the most recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, published in 2013. Comprehensive education during medical training is needed to combat the stigma and ensure that health care providers have the knowledge, skills and attitudes to properly care for asexual patients.

I’m 25 years old with a doctorate and work in the medical profession. My PCP still tries to force me to get the HPV vaccine and makes comments about how I still “have time to find someone and have kids”. THIS is why we don’t trust doctors. It’s not even an issue of sexual orientation, it’s an overall issue of doctors listening to the patient.

Opinion | Asexual People Deserve Better From Our Medical Providers

Do you think most asexual people understand how awful it is to date a sexual person without disclosing beforehand? It makes me wonder if a lot of asexual people understand how powerful sexuality is for sexual people. Most of us don’t want relationships with people who just put up with sex. We want passionately enthusiastic sex partners. Being allowed to develop feelings for someone only to be told after the fact that sex is off the table is awful, it feels like being tricked.

aspergyneity:

geekandmisandry:

millenniumfae:

are you seriously under the impression that ace ppl dont know that others prioritize sex

why do you think we struggle with trusting our autonomy, why do you think we hesitate to date others and come out to allo partners

and no, you are not being ~tricked~. you developed feelings for an ace person that doesn’t view sex the same way you do, thats part of them as a person, the same person you had feelings for in the first place, and if you actually respected them as a person that’s not a trick. ‘being allowed to develop feelings’ are you kidding me what entitlement is this

yeah yeah passionate sex is what you want. but us ace people will stay concerned about our own safety and sexual rights before we begin to worry about your dating preferences. itd be nice if you people began meeting us in the middle 🙂

“Tricked”.

Holy shit that’s some grade A entitlement. Sure, it’s disappointing to know you’re not compatible with someone, but they didn’t trick you by not telling you something intimidate about themselves.

As an allo partner to an asexual man – the kind of perspective that this anon is claiming to speak for – all I can add is that if your feelings for an asexual person vanish the second they won’t fuck you in the exact way you want them to? If you feel “tricked” or “lied to” because their sexual feelings aren’t up to your standards, or may not be compatible with yours?

You don’t love them. Not only do you not love them, but you never did.

If it’s true love, then you will be able to talk about what to do next. If you honestly care about their sexual autonomy, then you will listen to them and take what they suggest on board and you will meet them in the middle, just like you would for any allosexual partner. You will check up with them regularly to see if things are still comfortable and okay in that area, you will respect their boundaries (and stand up for them if you see other people disrespecting them), and you will not hurt them over who they are. Discuss with them what you would like, yes, but do not force or pressure or manipulate. 

I hate that these are simple, “don’t abuse your fucking partner” statements but it apparently, sadly, bears reminding for some people.

If they don’t want to have sex with you then of course it’s up for you to decide if you still want to continue a relationship with them – you don’t have to remain in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil you or makes you unhappy. I understand the fear that it can cause – am I going over a boundary? Are they being honest about being okay with this? What if I’m hurting them and they’re just not telling me? – and if you’re not used to the idea of someone having love but no desire, then it can certainly fuel some insecurities. If you really just can’t match well with an asexual person, then fair enough…

…But that’s not actually what anon is saying here – what they’re saying is they’re not only sad that an asexual person might not want to have sex with them despite them at least believing that there’s shared romantic feelings involved (which is honestly where this “tricking” shit comes from, because creepers gonna creep apparently), but they’re sad that any sex they might have with that asexual person won’t be enthusiastic enough for their standards.

That’s the sentence here that truly, deeply disgusts me: “Most of us don’t want relationships with people who just put up with sex. We want passionately enthusiastic sex partners.” I mean yeah, I’m disgusted by all of it, but people have noted above why the “tricking” comment smacks of entitlement – I want to really emphasise this sentence here about “enthusiasm” and “putting up with sex” because it’s not just entitlement to a sexual act, it’s entitlement to a specific sexual performance.

This person doesn’t just want sex with an asexual person, they want their ace partner to fake enthusiasm and sexual passion that they might not even have – during an act that they might not even enjoy. What the actual fuck is wrong with you, anon?

As I said, I’m dating an asexual man, and having discussed it – and we’ve discussed it a lot over the years – we’ve reached the compromise in which we do have sex. He is not passionately sexual, he’s described it as being like folding laundry in terms of interest – but he makes me laugh and he makes sure I’m feeling good, and he does it because he loves me. Why in the fuck would I complain about that? If he told me tomorrow that he never wants to touch me again then I will fucking deal with it because fucking him – much less trying to convince myself that he isn’t asexual – means so much less to me than loving him does, and I have done my best to let him know that.

Fuck off back to space, you absolute cock – you do not speak for me, or anyone else; just because you don’t understand or respect asexual people doesn’t mean they have to pretend to be someone else for you.

So I usually don’t post stuff like this but…

aegipan-omnicorn:

caristars:

dwarf-scum:

asexualdoctorwho:

i-write-your-imagines:

Right so today in class my math teacher, a human who is taller than our door and probably more awkward than it, casually mentioned how he isn’t married and how he never really felt attraction to any gender.
So a pan girl in my class puts up her hand and asks if he was Asexual.
One confused state and three queer people explanations later…
HE WAS BEYOND EXCITED TO FIND OUT THAT HE WAS VALID AND SEEN AS AN ACTAUL HUMAN TO THE LGBT COMMUNITY.
I shit you not.
My way too tall and way too smart and way too dorky and way too awkward maths teacher lived his entire life thinking that he was strange and abnormal for not feeling any attraction to anyone.
And a class of insane grade elevens changed that.

Awhile back I was explaining asexuality to my therapist and at some point she just like froze and was like ‘wait… maybe i’m asexual’ and got really excited and said she was gonna do more research on it herself. Which was not at all what I was expecting to happen when I told my therapist I was ace, but it was def a happy surprise.

EDIT: 

i just realized i had originally meant to reblog this to my main, whoops! but i guess it goes okay here too lol

Reblog to help an ace figure themselves out.

When I came out to my mom as ace, she tried to convince me that that’s just how everyone felt, and no one really felt sexual attraction like they always suggest in media or movies, and it took a while of explaining but eventually she started understanding that sex wasn’t some compulsory thing humans had to do and other people did experience attraction. Turns out she thought she was broken for her entire life until she found out what being asexual was, and she’s so much happier now.

[Image description: Text art with abstract graphic illustration on
a light grey field. The text reads: “Being Ace can mean growing up
Assuming you’re Straight and Never Understanding why you don’t fit in
with everyone Else.” End Quote. The words are in varying sizes of the
Franklin Gothic Medium font.

The text is arranged on
either side of a vertical line, stretching from the top edge to nearly
the bottom edge, and colored in a gradient from black through grey, to
white, and purple (the colors of the Asexual Pride flag). This line
starts out straight, but curves, in a serpentine fashion, around the words: “you,
don’t, fit, in, with,” and returns to straight as it passes between the words
“everyone” and “Else”.

Many straight, black, vertical,
lines of varying widths fill the bottom of the image, contrasting with
the purple end of the central line. Description ends]

Some Ace-based art I made for Pride Month, 2018.

Hint: Aces ain’t straight, even though they may look like it at first glance.

Once you name something, you see it everywhere.

aegipan-omnicorn:

aegipan-omnicorn:

So, while I was at the hospital, this week, one of the care attendants coming around to check my vitals, etc., trying to make cheerful small talk, was talking about the temperature of the room, and whether I was comfortable. 

Said something to the effect of: “All women want to be hot.”

Years ago, before I realized that asexuality was a thing, I would have chalked up my cringe reaction to the fact that such a comment was cliche and sexist. But as he said it, this time, I could feel, in the moment, that my reaction was actually a recoil of disgust, and it probably had always been.

All I could think is: Wow! I’m really, really, Not Straight, aren’t I?

In the last couple of years, my realization that I’m Ace has been entirely figuring it out by hindsight, as an intellectual exercise. Since I’ve made a decision to stop looking for a relationship, it seemed like a great big non-issue.

But that one line of casual conversation really brought into focus just how far my own orientation is out of whack with society’s expectation.

I’ve been thinking about my initial reaction of (what I finally identified as) disgust, to the idea of being “hot.”

Because I’m actually one of those asexual people with a high libido (fantasy=good), and generally have always considered myself sex-positive, which could be why it took me so long to name the feeling.

But I think it’s a power thing.  It makes me really uncomfortable to imagine my presence sparking feelings in other people that I’m just not capable of feeling for myself.  It makes me feel like a target.

You know?

what-even-is-thiss:

To any people that think they might be aro/ace or on the aro/ace spectrum let me tell you something.

The moment I first realized I was asexual I was 14 years old. I was alone in my grandparent’s computer room and I read the definition online and immediately knew I was asexual. I did not have a moment of clarity or happiness. I cried. I literally fell off of the grey computer chair and had to suppress my sobs as I leaned over on the floor and pulled at my hair. It felt like I had just been given a death sentence. A guarantee that I was a freak and not something anybody could love.

Over the next year I tried to fix myself. I did things that I will not go into, but know that I inflicted trauma on myself. I hurt myself both physically and emotionally. More than once I wished I was any sexual orientation other than asexual. As problematic as that might have been, it was something I wished for. I felt like freak. I felt like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I seriously considered entering myself into a sexual relationship to see if that would “help”. The very idea of it made me want to throw up.

Don’t do what I did. Do not. Do not hurt yourself. Do not put yourself in any situation that you’re uncomfortable with. If you’re not proud of being ace/aro yet that is fine. It is fine. You can get there. You can. I am 20 now and I love being asexual because it is fundamentally a part of me that is not something to be “fixed”. If you turn out to be ace or aro, Then you turn out to be ace or aro. If you don’t, then you don’t. And that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Whatever you are you are not something to be fixed.

I tell you this because I feel like I almost never see that side of an “asexual/aromantic awakening” as it were. Everyone else seems to have had their aha moment and been so happy. Finally felt a sense of community. It took me way too long to get there. If you weren’t relieved when you found out you were asexual/aromantic you are okay. You are going to be okay. You have a place in this community and you are going to be okay. You are lovable and worthy of belonging. If it takes you time to accept yourself that is okay. Just be careful. You are not something to be fixed. You are complete and whole just as you are.

Allosexual/alloromantic people can reblog. Exclusionists and aphobes do not interact.

hieveryoneiamace:

simplydaisys:

figuring out you’re asexual is like trying to find a nonexistent needle in a very large haystack except people keep trying to convince you that you’re just not looking hard enough or you’ll find the right needle eventually but the needle just isn’t there and yet everyone else’s is and then you wonder whether or not you actually have a needle and then you spot something that might be a needle but nope it’s just another hay strand and everything is confusing and now the haystack is on fire

And you’ve actually never seen a needle so every time they describe theirs, you just assume they are talking about a sharp hay strand until they say something that sounds different and you’re left thinking if they are actually making that up because they’ve heard that same description from somebody else or if they really do have another thing and in that case that would mean… you don’t have a needle?

aegipan-omnicorn:

rescuemepotts:

tomcats-and-tophats:

garliccloves:

classical-cacophony:

wardencommanderrodimiss:

this is too real

Note this doesn’t work for bi girls!! 

Mara Wilson is a bisexual woman

Boy bands are almost overwhelmingly cultivated around the easiest way to sell shit to young girls, which very heavily leans into societally dominant heterosexual love story narratives, which in themselves tend to focus on specific attitudes towards gender roles, presentation, and styles of attraction. 

Bi women are not straight so we do not conceptualize our gender and attraction the same way a straight woman would because we do not function under the same societal pressures and dynamics. Ergo, the marketing around and content within the songs by many boy bands can be incredibly alienating to a bi woman audience even if they still experience attraction to men because we often do not experience that attraction in a way palpable to or even considered by those cultivating the public image of these bands.

Accusing Mara Wilson, a bi woman, of bi erasure, for sharing an amusing anecdote on her own experience, is ridiculous. But it is also an incredible disservice to bi women like myself who are more than acutely aware that we are (and always have been) a far cry from this media’s target audience – and it is, in fact, a demonstration of the effects of bi erasure that people so stalwartly align us with heterosexuality that we’re accused of erasing ourselves when we talk about our alienation from mainstream m/f-focused media.

My parents wouldn’t let me listen to Backstreet or Nsync because they thought a 6 year old shouldn’t be interested in boys. But they let me listen to Spice Girls and I’m pretty sure that was the beginning of my gay awakening

[Image description: a string of tweets from Mara Wilson (quote):

Want to know if a woman in her 20s or 30s likes women? Ask them which boy band was her favorite growing up.

If she has to think about it for more than a second, or shrugs, or stares blankly, she likes women.

My girl friends all had crushes on boy band members and had strong affinities for them, but I could never muster up more enthusiasm than “I guess Howie is cute” or “Justin has a good voice.” (unquote)
Timestamped: 11/17/17, 4:34 PM. Description ends]

Note: the same is true for asexual girls.

Granted, I had aged out of girlhood by the time “boy bands,” as a thing, became the huge phenomenon of NSYNC and Backstreet
Boys (I entered first grade in 1970 – I’m right on the cusp between the last
of the Baby Boomers and the first of Gen-X’ers, depending on which
social scientist is doing the counting). But I basically had that same, blank stare, “give me a minute to think” reaction to teen heartthrob TV and movie stars, which, like the boy bands of the 1990s and early Naughts, were heavily packaged romantic properties.

And it never even occurred to me to think about which women I thought were attractive, because, growing up in an even more heteronormative generation than now, no one thought to ask my opinion on them. But if they had, I would would have had to stare and shrug and think a minute…

angry-old-asian-man:

allyonthego:

I keep seeing these posts about how sad or upsetting it is to see CHILDREN who identify as ace. So this is a friendly reminder to all my ace minors who may need to hear it today.

1. You are NOT sad, and no one has a right to be upset by your identity.
2. You do not need to explain, to an adult person or anyone else, what you consider sexual attraction, or why you think you are not experiencing it. No one has the right to ask you to question your own identity.
3. You do not need to listen to anyone trying to convince you you are probably more gay or more straight, or anyone trying to change the way you identify in any other way.
4. Asexuality is not about whether you have had or are having sex. If you self-identify as asexual, that is not you sexualizing yourself, and you are not harming yourself by taking on a label that MIGHT change in the future. and don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise. 
5. You are not required to keep an open mind that your orientation may change. It MIGHT change, and if it does, i hope you can welcome and enjoy whatever you are feeling when it arrives. But you aren’t required to participate in the rituals of dating, crushes, or experimenting just to prove that it’s really NOT what you want. 

I am a firm believer in self-exploration, and obtaining self-knowledge through questioning what we know about ourselves, and the world. But the way ace kids are constantly expected to provide answers for how we are the way we are, and what it means, and how we’re really really open to being something else, is just disgusting. It does more to turn kids AWAY from relabeling or reexamining themselves.

If you’re a minor, and you ID as ace, then you’re ace. You’re not broken, or alone, you’re not wrong, and you don’t need to answer for it.

Actually if anything, the adults are sexualising you for being so meddly with what you do with your own junk.

thoughts while driving home from work

moncarnetdenote:

autismserenity:

thegentlewomon:

acephobia-is-real:

mylittlscorpion:

garet-the-3rd:

autismserenity:

sirigorn:

autismserenity:

life-of-a-cherry-blossom:

autismserenity:

If you think of asexual as “not having a sex drive,” then you’d probably be surprised to learn that aces used to be a part of the bi community.

But if you think of it as “not having a sexual orientation,” then it might suddenly become clear.

Because in a world where so many people only ever think of, or mention, “gay or straight” as possible orientations, there’s not that much difference between “not having a sexual orientation” and “not being either gay or straight.”

When the question is only framed as “which of these opposite points does your arrow point to,” I don’t feel like there’s a huge difference between your answer being “point???????” or “arrow???????”

Ohhh, everything makes sense now (says the bi ace)

SWEEET

Which is I think why a lot of aces identify as bi or pan at some point in their lives before landing on “asexual.” If you know you’re not gay or straight, there’s much more awareness of bisexuality than of asexuality, so it makes sense that people would end up there by default. 

Yes! And if you were coming out 20 oror more years ago, there was basically zero awareness of any other things.

this perfectly describes my late teens, most of which I spent convinced I was bisexual because I was equally attracted to men and women. Thing is, I actually wasn’t attracted to either, and I thought that that weird uncomfortable feeling I got each time something was overly sexualized was because I wasn’t used to feeling lust and/or arousal, and those new urges were making me uncomfortable, instead of just being plain uncomfortable with sexualization. I didn’t even know that asexuality was a thing until I read about it in a fanfic a year ago.

Chiming in as another aro/ace person who identified as bi for a couple years before realizing the ace spectrum existed. The poster right above me pretty much describes exactly my thought process. Basically, it went:

I’m not gay, and I’m definitely not straight, so I must be bi, because I find people of many different genders attractive (notice i say find attractive, not attracted to). I chalked my icky-squirmy feelings when thinking about sex and to a lesser extent relationships up to lack of experience as I’ve never been in a relationship or even been on a date.

But then in the past year or two I finally learned about asexuality and one night I had this huge emotional revelation when things just clicked suddenly.

So yeah, until recently, bi is where i fit best, and where i felt most accepted.

Up until now I thought “ace ppl were bi/pan?? that makes no sense????’

But reading this I remember–I thought I was bi/pan too!! When I was in high school, I thought I was romantically attracted to men nd sexually attracted to women (I knew almost nothing about gender). I didn’t know about split-attraction so I was horrified of being some kind of freak and doomed to be alone and/or unhappy, to say the least.

People get all offended and insulted and furious about how aces identified as bi/pan, but you need to understand: I only did so because I didn’t know/think asexuality was an option. I wasn’t gay, I wasn’t straight. What else could I be?

At 15, when I was just starting to use the internet to learn about sexuality I came across this: “Bisexuality is the ability to reach down someone’s pants and not care about whatever you find.” And that was, I thought, the closest thing I could find about how I felt.

You might be thinking, “But this is such a wild contradiction to what asexuality is! How could you possibly be bi/pan?” In my experience at least, the logic was something like, “Being bi/pan is an attraction to all genders, but I don’t experience attraction to two+/any gender. Which is similar in that I’m equally indifferent to multiple/all genders. They cancel out, or something? I’m romantically attracted to men, sexually to women, they cancel out?”

When you don’t know what asexuality is, you’re going to come to some conclusions that may make no sense at all to someone else. And they might not make sense to you, either. But what choice do you have? You have to be SOMETHING, or so we’re taught.

And then once I realized I wasn’t REALLY bi or pan, I chose not to identify as anything, since no labels fit me. I thought it would be freeing, not having to worry about labels. But god, it was so lonely. Here I was, some kind of anolomy, brimming with so many questions and no answers. And this is why asexuality is an orientation, rather than a lack of a sexuality. Ahaha, high school was misery in terms of finding my sexuality.

I don’t know, does this make sense to anyone? It’s hard to explain, at least for me.

“I’m nothing” eventually became a common response for me as well.

and gee, I wonder if the feeling of “I’m nothing” contributes to the higher rates of suicidality for a-spec people, like bi erasure does for bi people

for that matter, I wonder if the double whammy of “what I am doesn’t exist” and “what I think I am doesn’t exist”, of bi erasure and the even worse ace erasure, does too

and by “I wonder if” I mean “I bet that….”

I relate so fucking much about everything said in this post. I also identified shortly as bi, then pan, before landing on the “nothing” phase, that made me feel like such a worthless human being. Finding out about asexuality was both a terrifying and liberating experience. It was hard at first coming to terms with it for me, but when it did happen there was this humongous feeling of relief, that I was normal

So when I first found out that asexuality was a part of the bisexual community before splitting up, it made a whole lot of sense already to me. It was pretty logical.

withasmoothroundstone:

itsdeadtome:

aphobephobe:

Ok, so I’m a little bit sick of the “asexuality is no longer medicalized” attitude a lot of people have taken recently, specifically in regards to asexuality and HSDD.

So, yeah, asexuality was officially given an exception in the DSM-V. 

That’s a huge step from before, when you could be diagnosed with HSDD simply for being asexual and having interpersonal difficulties because of it.

But, there’s still a couple problems.

 1: The patient has to self identify as asexual. Combined with visibility issues, you may get people who feel “broken” and distressed because of their asexuality, people who may be okay with identifying as ace if they knew about it. That’s one of the reasons we need to keep fighting for visibility. 

2. Here’s the kicker though. The asexuality exception is not included in the diagnostic criteria, but a different part of the text. The desk reference version, which is the smaller version most psychiatrists will use because the actual DSM is a monster of a book, only contains the diagnostic criteria. So, unless a doctor is very familiar with the update DSM, you could still be diagnosed despite identifying as asexual. Obviously, that’s a big fucking problem.

Now, wait up a second. The DSM is put out by the APA, an American organization.

So….it’s probably not used internationally. The international appx. equivalent to the DSM is the ICD (International Classification of Diseases). The current version is ICD-10, although ICD-11 appears to be poised to come out in 2018.

So, let’s explore HSDD in the ICD.

F52.0 Lack or loss of sexual desire 

Loss of sexual desire is the principal problem and is not secondary to other sexual
difficulties, such as erectile failure or dyspareunia. Lack of sexual desire does not
preclude sexual enjoyment or arousal, but makes the initiation of sexual activity
less likely.

Includes: 

   frigidity

   hypoactive sexual desire disorder.

found here.

A disorder characterized by a recurrent or persistent lack of desire for sexual activity. The lack of sexual desire is not attributable to another psychiatric disorder or to the physiological effects of substance use or a general medical condition.

found here.

The American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV TR)4 and the World Health Organization’s International Classifications of Disease-10 (ICD-10)5 established that the definition of hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) should include not only the lack or absence of sexual fantasies or desire for any form of sexual activity, but also the presence of personal distress and/or interpersonal difficulties.

found here.

So, I’m noticing a very distinct lack of the “asexuality exception” (yes I’m calling it that) in here. Combined with the “interpersonal difficulties” criterion, I’m not seeing much difference between this and the DSM IV. 

Ok, so if an asexual were to get diagnosed, how do they treat it?

Some women also benefit from counseling or sex therapy. Specialists can help them cope with any past sexual trauma. They can help women improve their self-esteem and understand their relationships with their partners. Women can learn how to talk about sex with confidence and express their needs and concerns to their partners. They might also introduce ways to make intimacy a bigger priority – and more interesting.

from here.

The use of testosterone appears to have a direct role in sexual desire and has been shown to increase desire, but its long-term use is limited by potential side effects, including cardiovascular and liver dysfunction. 

Antidepressants may help depression-related low desire, although many of these medications decrease sexual desire, at least initially.

Nonetheless, estrogens replacement therapy has been shown to correlate positively with sexual activity, enjoyment and fantasies.

When no causative medical disorder is found, individual or couples therapy is often recommended.

from here.

Yeah. So, my point here is not to freak anyone out (although I know I am a little bit). My point here is that while we should celebrate our victories, this is something that’s flown a little bit under the radar that we probably need to keep talking about, finding solutions for, and then campaigning about these issues.

If you’ve got more to add to this post, I’d love to see it. However, I am going to ask that we don’t discourse on this post. I know. I’m a discourse blog asking for no discourse. Just please, for once, let’s not.

Anyways. On that cheery note, I’m done. 

Another thing to note, some non-american countries also use the DSM (Hi from Canada) but will often not update as fast as it is changed. Without outing anyone I do know of people who have been diagnosed with disorders removed from the DSM several years after the new DSM had been published, this difference often depends on the medical colleges in the country and other factors including money, and how standardized psychiatric care is in a region.

A step in the right direction? Sure

Making it safe for any individual Asexual person to say they are Asexual in front of a mental health professional? Nope not at all.

Updates to the DSM don’t always make it through the USA very fast even. Often an updated concept in the DSM or in psychiatry in general can take upwards of 20 years to really catch on large-scale.  And there are always holdouts from earlier times.  I’m autistic.  In the mid-1990s I was undiagnosed with autism and rediagnosed with “psychotic since infancy schizophrenic since adolescence” by people who were very explicit I didn’t fit modern conceptions of schizophrenia.  They blamed my mother.  All of these views were quite typical of the 1970s and I found basically a description of everything they said about me and my mom in a book I think from 1971, by Frances Tustin about autism and childhood psychosis.  Autism was considered one particular form of childhood psychosis at the time, but was thought by many to never involve losses of skills and to require a minimum (yes minimum, not maximum – these were very different times) IQ, among many other things.  Anything else was described as infantile/childhood psychosis/schizophrenia.  They used the DSM-IV officially to diagnose me (in a way that nobody should ever use to diagnose anyone – they listed each criterion and made me describe myself in a way that fit it) but clearly were working from the 1971 definitions of things.  Psychosis is impossible to diagnose in an infant, and references to infantile psychosis are nearly always a coded reference to developmental disabilities like autism.  This is because, while most people think of psychosis as a loss of contact with reality such as delusions and hallucinations, there’s also a bunch of other traits that have long been associated with it that have huge overlap with autism which is why for awhile (I don’t know if still) you were not allowed to diagnose schizophrenia in an autistic person except under specific circumstances.  Because otherwise nearly all autistic people would meet the criteria.  It’s far more complicated than this, this is just the overview.  But I hope it’s an example of how not everyone changes their views at the same rate.  In France, it’s still commonplace to view autism through a psychotherapeutic lens and view it as the mother’s fault.  People who think updates to psychiatric concepts are without controversy and occur instantly haven’t been looking too closely.