“Obviously ‘bihet’ offends a lot of bisexuals, so we need to come up with a better term for bisexuals in m/f relationships.”
How about… and hear me out… this may sound crazy…. but you… continue to call us bisexual… because (and I realize this gets confusing for you people so read this next part slowly) it turns out we continue to be bisexual regardless of who we’re dating.
Okay, this shit gets me all heated up. I’m just a cisgay dude up in here, but I have Some Opinions about this nonsense.
Bisexual people in relationships with folks of the other gender are not only themselves still bisexual (I’m really ashamed of a bunch of all that this shit even needs to be said, like c’mon), but their relationships are queer.
Yes, I just said that straight people can be involved in queer relationships without they themselves being queer.
The reason for this is simple: folks who are in relationships with queer people will always have to deal with their partner’s marginalization impacting their relationship. Always. Even if their bisexual partner chooses to be entirely stealth about their queerness (and that’s their right, by gods, fight me about it), their relationship is still impacted by that very choice existing. It’s a facet heterosexual relationships never have to negotiate.
Frankly, bisexual folks have to deal with active marginalization from multiple angles: heterocentrist and homocentrist. And in case I actually have to say this aloud? We should not be fucking marginalizing our own, y’all. That makes you a bad person, and you should feel bad.
To sum up: Bisexual folks are queer as hell. Straight folks can be in queer relationships without themselves ever being queer. And FFS please stop harassing bi- and pan-folks already, man. It’s 2018. Find hobbies that are not shitty.
Fact: Bisexual people in different gender relationships are basically straight, and bisexual people in same gender relationships are basically gay. Baking powder is basically flour so you can more or less use them as substitutes for each other. Tigers are basically large house cats and make suitable pets. Money is basically paper so you can get away with paying for goods and services using the A4 sheets you’d find in a printer. Pillows are basically just feathers so as a substitute if no pillow is available just rest your head on a live duck.
Women in unicorn hunting couples are just as much fuck ugly, manipulative demons as their goon boyfriends, and should be dragged just as hard for being creepy predators
I have had MULTIPLE women present themselves as single on dating apps and then deep into the conversation drop that they have a boyfriend and are looking for a threesome. They know bi women aren’t interested in being a fun experiment or birthday gift (actual scenario presented to me), so they try to pull a bait and switch. It’s more insulting and creepy than just having the dude ask me for it straight up.
At first I thought this was magical creature discourse and now I’ve got mental whiplash
so many people asume that bisexuality works like this:
but it differs from person to person
for me it is more like this:
or some days this:
for some people it works like this:
or
it just depends on them and their feelings
some times people are more attracted to one gender rather than the other, that does not make them any less of a bisexual
Reblogging this for any bi followers
FINALLY something that explains it right!!!!!
THIS
Basically as long as both colors exist on the pie chart it counts no matter if it’s 1% & 99% or a 50/50 split or anything in between in either direction. Also worth noting is that attraction to nonbinary people does not invalidate bisexuality, and bisexuality does not automatically imply attraction ONLY to both binary genders, if you’re attracted to more than one gender you qualify to call yourself bi.
(you do not have to call yourself bi if you feel like a different term suits you better, even if you meet the requirements to qualify)
How many people have to be raped because they are bisexual, how many have to be violently abused because they are bisexual, treated differently in the workplace because they are bisexual before I stop hearing “biphobia is just misdirected homophobia, bisexuals don’t face oppression for being bisexual they only face discrimination”.
How many of us literally have to die before this bad discourse dies too?
This is intense. If any of my followers want me to start tagging things, let me know. But I felt like I needed to reblog this because I’ve been seeing a resurgence of the bi-discourse on this blue hellscape and I am so goddamn tired of it.
We are here and we have a complicated set of issues that need to be addressed AS THEIR OWN ISSUES, not as misdirected other issues. Intersectionality is a thing. Please don’t forget us or throw us under your discourse bus.
Bisexual character written by a straight person: Oh! I don’t like labels. I don’t like to pick sides. I just like people. I like to shop at two different grocery stores. I like to eat at Burger King and McDonalds, if you know what I mean. Let’s just say I wear two different socks. I prefer ketchup AND mustard on my hamburgers. I’m just gonna say that I own two different pairs of underwear. I don’t want to be like one of those people, but how about I just say that I like to drink my coffee from two different mugs?
You aren’t embodying any stereotype, these people just don’t want to see a real person in the loose aggregation of tropes they use to justify their societally-supported hatred. Even bi women who actually DID think they were lesbians until they realized they were bi aren’t doing any damage to anyone else by understanding themselves.
Fact: bisexuals make up a majority of the LGBT population.
Fact: the majority of bisexuals are closeted.
Theory: If all bisexual people came out, straight people would no longer be the majority.
Do we really make up a majority? Cause the way we’re erased i had no idea. Like really. I thought we were in minority…
The Human Rights Commission of San Francisco released a groundbreaking report on Bisexual Invisibility in 2010 which revealed that, even though only 28% of bisexuals are out (compared to 71% of lesbians and 77% of gay men.) bisexuals out-number gays and lesbians combined, Many studies have followed which verify this data.
Bisexual Invisibility more like Bisexual Invincibility
reblogging for the last comment
I’ve had a lot of bi people tell me “I thought bisexuality was almost nonexistent?” when I brought this up.
Bisexuals make up the majority of the LGBTQ+ community and a huge percentage if not the majority of people in general.
It’s easy to feel like you’re alone if you’re bi or questioning. The most powerful thing we can tell bi youth is ‘you are not alone’. It’s what saved my life as a kid.
All my bi siblings are more than welcome here!!! I love yall!
“Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.”
(From the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto, Bay Area Bisexual Network, “Anything That Moves”)
“In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.” -From the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto
So maybe people can stop saying bisexuality’s inclusion of nonbinary folk is ‘new’. Signed, a bi nonbinary person.
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