Tag: bi stuff

jacktellslies:

wanderlustexperience:

bisexualsaregreat:

rachelcockspert:

bisexualsaregreat:

Fact: bisexuals make up a majority of the LGBT population.

Fact: the majority of bisexuals are closeted.

Theory: If all bisexual people came out, straight people would no longer be the majority. 

Do we really make up a majority? Cause the way we’re erased i had no idea. Like really. I thought we were in minority…

The Human Rights Commission of San Francisco released a groundbreaking report on Bisexual Invisibility in 2010 which revealed that, even though only 28% of bisexuals are out (compared to 71% of lesbians and 77% of gay men.) bisexuals out-number gays and lesbians combined, Many studies have followed which verify this data. 

There’s also been several studies that have shown that a large percentage of millennials don’t consider themselves exclusively attracted to one gender

Whaaaaat.

nonbinarypastels:

fandom-trash-is-here:

Here’s to the bisexuals who never “experimented” in school
Here’s to the bisexuals who always knew they were bi
Here’s to the bisexuals who have to deal with biphobia from the LGT+ Community
Here’s to the bisexuals who have only been with one gender of their sexual attraction
Here’s to the bisexuals who are still in the closest
Here’s to the bisexuals who still hear “you’re either gay or straight”
Here’s to the bisexuals who have never had sex, don’t have a high sex drive or don’t have sex often despite media that normally portrays us as having orgies and threesomes day and night
Here’s to the bisexuals that are men and women who get told “so you’re straight/gay now?” When they’re in a f/m or m/m or f/f relationship
Here’s to the bisexuals who are still being denied their existence
Here’s to the bisexuals who are terrified about coming out due to abuse, rejection and/or abandonment

(Please add if you can!)

Here’s to the bisexuals who are nonbinary and constantly have people tell them that being bi ‘erases’ nonbinary identities.

Here’s to the bisexuals who are polyamorous and worry that they’re being a ‘bad bi’ by ‘enforcing stereotypes’.

Here’s to the bisexuals who prefer one gender more than another and worry they’re not ‘really bi’.

Here’s to the bisexuals who date online and have to deal with getting messages from people who fetishize bisexuals because they listed their sexuality in their profile.

Here’s to the bisexuals who don’t disclose that they’re bi to the people they date because they don’t want to deal with biphobia.

Here’s to the bisexuals who are 20+ years old and have never been kissed, had sex, or been in a relationship.

Here’s to the bisexuals who are sex-repulsed and constantly have to explain that experiencing sexual attraction =/= wanting to have sex.

Here’s to the bisexuals who live in unaccepting communities and find it hard to meet other LGBT+ people because of it.

Here’s to the bisexuals who feel more comfortable only dating other bisexuals/multisexuals.

fierceawakening:

discouroborose:

im uncomf with the “bi women who prioritize women vs. bi women who prioritize men” shit for so many reasons and ive tried to put them into a coherent post for ages but i cant so here’s a list of Feelings i have about it

  • the only concrete definition of “bi woman who prioritizes women” that i’ve come across is “bi women who dates women primarily or exclusively (exclusively is better) and definitely is not dating a man at this exact moment in time”
  • and look:
  • if i was going to repress all attraction to all genders except for one i’d probably take the path of least resistance and “decide” to only act on my attraction to men because do you know how much easier my life would be if i “acted straight”? do you know how many people have implicitly or explicitly suggested i do so? do you know how many “gay celibate mormon” ~inspirational articles have been posted to my facebook feed since i came out? 
  • so like, if that were at all an option for me i think!!! i would’ve done it by now, i even heavily considered it at one point!!! but it feels like going back into the closet, like hiding part of yourself away so other people can ignore it. it’s incredibly damaging to my mental health, and that’s just when i’m attracted to women generally, if i actually fell for a specific woman and wanted to be with her?? it would kill me.
  • and people act like this is different because it’s coming from a different direction, it’s Radical but it’s the same thing, it’s just asking me to hide away a different part of myself because it happens to make you uncomfortable
  • its just political lesbianism by another name because bi women aren’t allowed to call themselves lesbians now but we’re still expected to act like them
  • and that’s the thing, the whole thing relies on the idea that your attraction is political, that who you date and sleep with and love is a political statement, and it’s not!! my entire life is not dictated by politics, i’m allowed to do things because i want to and not in service of The Cause. 
  • people act like asking us to “prioritize women” is so easy, like we’re boycotting men the same way we’d boycott a racist movie, instead of asking us to prioritize their politics over our own personal, intimate romantic and sexual desires
  • like i Get if you’re not attracted to men you think that that attraction is trivial (esp if you’ve experienced compulsory heteronormativity and were once convinced that you were attracted to men but realized that attraction was false) but it’s not, it’s as real and strong as my attraction to women
  • and you don’t have to understand that, you just have to respect it
  • the whole thing feels like some kind of violation, like a stranger walked into my home and demanded i started decorating differently, except it’s not my home, it’s my head and my heart but they’re so casual about it it’s like THEY think it’s my home, like an external representation of how i live my life instead of a very personal, intimate representation of my own thoughts and feelings
  • and ALSO i hate the idea that i need to “prioritize” women or men, that i need to frame my attraction in terms of social classes instead of in terms of individuals. 
  • if i date a man, and i prioritize him over random women i don’t know, i’m not prioritizing men over women, i am prioritizing a loved one over strangers???
  • similarly, if i date a woman, and i prioritize her over random men i don’t know, that’s not a political statement, that’s just…me being a human being and considering the feelings of someone i know and love over someone who has no connection to me?? oh my god
  • also what’s with the equation between prioritization and romantic relationships…the person im dating may or may not be more important to me than my platonic friends but if they are it’ll be because of my specific relationships with those people, not because romantic relationships are by default the most important relationships in any given person’s life
  • also what’s with the assumption that all bis are monogamous. if a bi woman is dating a man and a woman at the same time, what’s her status?? who is she prioritizing?? We Just Don’t Know
  • AND what about people who identify as neither a man nor a woman? what about people who identify as both? where does this leave us?
  • anyway my point is i don’t prioritize women over men OR men over women, i prioritize the people i know and love and my relationships with them over people i don’t know but happen to share a social class with. 
  • which goes back to the politicizing. you can prioritize certain groups in your activism (there’s cases where you shouldn’t, but like, it’s a thing that happens) but someone’s dating life isn’t activism and they’re not obligated to bring their activism into the bedroom. 

holy crap, this.

also, like: when i got out of an abusive relationship with a woman, you better damn believe i wanted to date a man again

even though i am more strongly attracted to women

did i “prioritize men” out of trauma? are we even doing that “well as long as it’s TRAUMA then it’s OK but otherwise no” thing?