could you maybe explain the drag queen thing i dont get it im sorry

robotvee:

anxiousneighbour:

transanalogyhoppip:

chrysalisamidst:

poppunkvampire-deactivated20171:

drag queens often perform incredibly catty misogynistic stereotypes of womanhood and use a huge amount of misogynistic slurs and transmisogynistic slurs. it’s also incredibly common for drag circles to excuse or actively engage in racism, see Shirley Q Liquor, who wears actual blackface onstage (which RuPaul defended publicly and insisted wasn’t racist). and when RuPaul’s Drag Race was called out by the trans community for frequently using transmisogynistic slurs and then designing a game on the show where the goal was literally to “clock” trans women, the drag community rose to defend him, and he got away with a weak-ass fauxpology. additonally, drag is a performance, so the performers can shed womanhood (particularly the dangerous territory of DMAB womanhood) at will, and do not actually experience misogyny or transmisogyny in any real way. drag culture also often blurs the lines between drag and non-cis genders as a way of excusing transmisogyny, which perpetuates attitudes in queer communities that non-cis genders are performative and therefore to be judged on how “well” they are performed. this often makes cis queer spaces very uncomfortable for trans people; people will openly clock you and comment on your ability to “pass”. I have no problem with drag as a gender expression, or with DMAB people who express femininity, but I have a huge fucking problem with drag culture.

FUCKING THIS. 

can we also talk abt how trans women are routinely excluded from and abused in queer communities while drag queens are so fucking adored that they’re basically the face of queer communities. go to a queer club, drag queens everywhere, trans women barely visible. go to a pride parade, drag queens fucking everywhere, no trans women visible. cis ppl will pay money to go see a drag queen perform but will refuse to associate w trans women. double fucking standards

I’m bringing this back because fuck I’m mad.

RuPaul’s Drag Race and Drag Culture USED to be two very different things. However, as more young gays watch RuPaul, they are more influenced and it shows up in the culture. Now, Drag Culture is basically a Drag Race fan base.

Not to mention, the racism in the show. A great example is a queen named The Vixen who appeared on Season 10. RPDR has a something called a “villain edit.” Every season, they find the bitchiest queen and edit all of their appearances to come off as a real bitch. Sometimes, it’s accurate, many times, it’s not. The Vixen constantly called out the other queens, show, and the LGBT community for its racism. She was very passionate and got into heated arguments. Now, there were a few assholes on season 10 and any of them could have been edited badly, but The Vixen was chosen for the villain edit.

Now, she defended herself on the Reunion episode (that’s where all the queens come back and discuss the drama). She called out the editing and walked off. Some queens defended her, but RuPaul didn’t care. He yelled “I come from the same place she does!” as a defense, without actually sympathizing with her and owning up to the show’s editing. Now, he’s not the editor, but at the end of the day, it’s his name on the show and he created it from nothing.

Drag Race has done some great things for the LGBT community. It discussed the Pulse Night Club attack, violence against gay people in other countries, and helped many other LGBT issues. But it has also done some really shitty stuff. The few transgender queens that were on (before their transition) are used as defenses by the fans against his/the show’s transphobia.

Honestly, that makes some sense.

There have of course been people with all kinds of different attitudes and reasons doing drag all along. But, a lot of the more recent criticisms haven’t matched up too well with my own experiences as somebody who used to know a number of people in the drag community. That was also before Drag Race hit, and as part of a smaller local community overall.

baamilk:

dare-i-say-asexual:

Can we please be the generation that stops putting up with the family child molester? The grown uncle who dates teenage girls, the husband who makes uncomfortable comments about young women’s clothing, or the cousin who raises red flags with their behavior towards children but no one wants to talk about all need to go. Children, especially young women, are expected to “keep the family together” by not making a fuss over incredibly traumatic behavior. Children don’t deserve to suffer trauma for adults’ feelings of togetherness. They’re more worthy of protection than predators. A healthy family is not built on the backs of abuse survivors expected to live their lives in silence without justice, support, or protection.

grrlgeek72:

olofahere:

slinkanorabundyblr:

wodneswynn:

Look, sometimes murders of crows will blacken the sky at your coming and ravening wolves are gonna follow in your wake, and you’re just gonna have to deal with that, and everybody else in the Costco is just gonna have to deal too

What do you mean deal with it? That sounds absolutely wonderful, more friends.

What you’ll have to deal with is the busybody at Costco saying, “You can’t bring your ravening wolves in here! No pets!”

“They’re not pets, they’re service animals! They help me deal with the anxiety of boxing my own stuff!”

jenniferrpovey:

dailyoverview:

Detroit is the largest and most populous city in the state of Michigan, with 4.3 million residents in its metropolitan area. It is best known as the center of the U.S. automobile industry, housing the headquarters of General Motors, Ford and Chrysler. Detroit is also a major port on the Detroit River, which is shown flowing through the city in this Overview — does anyone know why the river has two shades?

Instagram: https://bit.ly/2Bh5BKW

42°19’53.0"N, 83°02’45.0"W

Source imagery: Nearmap

If you think the answer is “pollution” you’d be wrong. My guess is the brown stuff is actually mud stirred up by recent dredging. The Detroit River runs between Lake Erie and Lake St. Claire and is kept navigable by dredging. Looking at a couple of other maps, it appears the brown stripe maps to the primary shipping channel.

That’s a guess anyway. Any Detroiters have a different answer?

(Also, the Detroit River may, in fact, not be a river at all…)

lamardeuse:

gravedelight:

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this is the best most concise takedown of safe space critics I’ve ever seen

Moquette

clatterbane:

Gosh. After seeing a t-shirt design someone is offering based off some old bus seat upholstery, I did a little searching to try and see how close that pattern is to some currently in use here. (It looks pretty similar from memory. But, bus seats.)

No luck with that so far, but I did find something else interesting. Evidently, London Transport Museum is offering a variety of furniture and home items in public transportation upholstery fabric! In case anyone desperately needs more of that in their life.

Just a few examples:

Quite a variety of patterns available, too.

Except on the hot water bottle cover, which only offers two pattern choices. It’s also the cheapest item, other than a Christmas ornament in a single pattern. (On sale now!)

Moquette

Moquette

Gosh. After seeing a t-shirt design someone is offering based off some old bus seat upholstery, I did a little searching to try and see how close that pattern is to some currently in use here. (It looks pretty similar from memory. But, bus seats.)

No luck with that so far, but I did find something else interesting. Evidently, London Transport Museum is offering a variety of furniture and home items in public transportation upholstery fabric! In case anyone desperately needs more of that in their life.

Moquette

golbatgender:

gaypeopletwitter:

3) They don’t owe it to you to tell you what their assigned gender was. (You might find out, like if you’re literally sleeping with them, but seriously, unless you’re literally doing naked things with them, which isn’t even a guarantee that you’ll see the “original plumbing,” it’s rude to ask.)

star-anise:

marigoldwitch:

Growing up my parents taught me that if you’re too sick to [insert responsibility here] then you’re too sick to [insert something that makes you happy here].

It took me a really long time to unlearn this. When I would get sick or have a “bad day” I would deprive myself of anything that made me happy. Watching movies, eating something I enjoyed, going for a walk, playing video games or just browsing online looking at funny cat videos. I wouldn’t let myself do these things because I was always told that if I’m too sick to go to work, or do homework, or go to school then I must be too sick to play Mortal Kombat or watch Unsolved Mysteries lol.

Whenever I wouldn’t feel good, which I later learned as an adult was due to sleep deprivation caused by my ADHD and depression (and of course the depression itself would cause me to feel like shit), my parents would tell me “if you’re not throwing up, then you’re not sick.” And when I would stay home from school (or even work in my later teen years) my parents would make sure that I didn’t have any “fun.” No TV, no movies, no games, no going outside, no arts and crafts, no books, no nothing. Just lay in bed and feel miserable.


I’m happy to say that I no longer do this to myself. Now when I’m having a bad day or I’m sick (cold, flu or whatever) I allow myself to do the things (within reason lol) that I actually love doing. If I’m not too sick to step outside for a few minutes then I’ll go for a walk. I’ll watch my favorite movies and if it’s a bad day or a cold (something that doesn’t hinder my appetite too much) I’ll eat my favorite foods. I don’t guilt trip myself anymore for having a “sick day.”

Just because you’re sick (whether physically, emotionally or mentally) doesn’t mean that you can’t do things you enjoy. You’re not any less sick because you watch TV. You’re not any less sick because you’re playing video games. 

Actually you SHOULD be doing these things when you’re not feeling good because they make you feel better. The better you feel, the faster your heal. 

Yeah, those rules are useful for when parents aren’t sure a little kid is actually sick, or just pretending; malingerers will generally go, “Okay yes, I would rather spend the day at school than be super bored.” And when they go to school everything’s fine.

But we’re grownups now! You’re the boss of yourself! And if you know that you’re actually sick, that if you went to work you’d be miserable and unwell, then you pass the test those rules were supposed to be.

At which point: Take care of yourself and cheer and comfort the sick as much as possible.