Clearly the nineteenth century Russian word translated as “lovemaking” in Super Karamazov Bros has a different meaning than the usual twenty-first century English sense of that word. Bit of a double-take there.
Comes up in PG Wodehouse too. Something like “He was making love to her right on the park bench.”
Jane Austen: as soon as they were alone in the carriage together he at once began making violent love to her.
Me: {O,O}/
One also sees this in narratives of opera. In general, if the date is before 1912, s/lovemaking/hitting on.
I kinda enjoy reading stuff like that with straight up modern interpretations. It spices them up.
anyone can learn sign language! 🙂 Lot of autistic people use it, as far as I know, as well as people with other disabilities.
As for your identity, nobody but you can decide how you identify. Hard of hearing is a term that is usually used for people with hearing loss. If your problems with understanding speech come from auditory processing disorder or from something similar, that’s not quite the same thing and not every deaf person would welcome you into community. Its… complicated issue, sadly and I can’t tell you “yes you can” or “no you can’t”. In the end, its up to you.
Also, @andreashettle has lists of blogs who do have APD! 🙂
Hope that helped,
Mod T
EVERYONE should learn and use the sign language of their region! The deaf/HoH community would love it if you could communicate with them in their preferred language! As a nonverbal autistic, I use ASL to talk to family but I am stuck using text-to-speech/speech-to-text for most other people because no one who is not deaf/HoH thinks they are “allowed” to learn it.
LEARN SIGN. You are allowed. You are requested to.
Don’t claim deaf/HoH if you aren’t – just say you are nonverbal or semiverbal. Not being able to speak or understand speech is not the same as deaf/HoH, we just use the same tools to work with the mouth-noise people.
I’ve been told by a member of the Deaf community that I can call myself HoH if it makes life easier for me – the problem with turning the sound into words is in my brain, not my ears, but the end result is much the same. By requesting HoH accommodation such as subtitles or sign language I’m more likely to make it more common.
Same with me – I hear just fine – words just get turned into noise before I can grasp them most of the time. I avoid the deaf/HoH claim because I have seen people get mad about it and since it isn’t really the same thing it’s easier to avoid offending people and just admit my brain hates mouth noises 🙂
Oh my, just reminded with my younger cousins coming up.
I was actually the only grandchild on both sides and not spoiled at all until I was 14. (With the youngest born a few years later.) My mom was not working then, so it looked like an even better idea for her to watch the new baby the whole first summer after my aunt went back to work. Not only because family and trustworthy, but most daycares won’t take children who aren’t toilet trained yet. It worked out pretty well for everyone. We watched both of them a lot after that, too.
So yeah, I was out of school for the summer and usually didn’t mind helping look after the baby. What I did mind were the filthy looks and nasty comments we kept getting whenever we went anywhere, with some people filling in their own assumptions about what must be going on.
My mother thought it was kind of funny. I really did not, and not just because I was 14 and easily embarrassed anyway. She also wasn’t dealing with the worst of the judgments there, other than maybe doing a terrible job of raising me.
But, that did make an impression. I was certainly aware of the hostility too often aimed at teen mothers before that, which is kinda hard to miss. But, that experience really helped bring home how ridiculously common it is, and how quick some people are to jump to judgy assumptions. Not to mention just how openly unpleasant some people feel entitled to be with that. Nobody could possibly deserve that shit, and certainly not for getting pregnant.
A few months back I posted a review of a YA book I really enjoyed. II promptly received a PM from someone I do not know asking for a PDF of the book.
As it happens I don’t know how to turn Kindle books into PDFs, though it’s probably possible. But even if I did, I would never do this. Yes, even though the person said they’re poor.
Why? Because it’s actually possible to read books for free. Right now I have about 16 books checked out digitally through my local library, with another 15 on hold. I’ve made many recommendations to them and they almost always eventually purchase the books I recommend. Then I get to read them, fun!
You do have to wait in a queue for popular books, and you won’t be able to read new books as soon as they come out. But it’s really a much better system than begging strangers for PDFs on social media. And authors benefit.
I get that it sucks to not afford things, but I have no patience for people who don’t even try to investigate ethical, legal options for consuming media before jumping to piracy.
#GrowingUpUgly
When guys in middle school would get dared by their friends to ask you out and see if you say yes as a joke
How about growingupugly and then turning out sort of okay looking but you don’t know for sure because your self esteem is shot and you’re convinced you look awful?
#GrowingUpUgly Being so wholly convinced of your hideousness that as an adult you now literally cannot even imagine that someone would pay you a compliment and mean it; the only conceivable thing that could be happening is that they’re either a) taking the piss like the boys in school used to or b) so repulsed by you that they feel sorry for you and are telling you you’re pretty because they think you need to hear it.
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