Stop commenting on people’s mobility aids. I don’t care if they look too young to use it. I don’t care if they don’t look like they really need it. I don’t care if they’re not using it like you’d expect them to. You know nothing about their body or why they use it. Them using their mobility aids in public is not bothering anyone. Leave them alone.
yo, by the way, don’t buy anything from Fabletics. i just got off the phone with my credit card company, and although i’ve managed to reverse the unauthorized$49.95 they charged me this month, they’ve apparently been doing this since february. let me repeat that, they’ve taken $200 from me and not made it known. all because i bought a pair of on sale leggings a few months back.
so, every few weeks they have a sale. generally a “buy 2 for the price of one if you sign up for free!” sort of thing. like a regular old clothing retailer, you add your items to the cart, say sure, you’ll give them your email address to save your details, and then enter your payment information. then you get your stuff a couple weeks later. but what they don’t mention is this fun little bit of fine print:
yeah, they save your credit card number. and charge it repeatedly. (even more concerningly, i had my old card that i used for the original purchase cancelled a couple months ago after some unauthorized payments started cropping up. i haven’t interacted with Fabletics since, but somehow, they’re charging my new card?)
it should also be noted that they also send out about 4 marketing emails per day, and this is what your “payment notification” looks like.
hint: it’s the middle one. which looks just like a regular promo email.
long story short, they draw you in with a sale, ask you to sign up for an account, and then start quietly charging you $50 a month that you can only get back if you get in touch with them within a couple of days. also, even if you try cancelling over the phone or through a live chat, they’ll hassle you to keep your membership and word everything cryptically.
ah, yeah, and a lot of people are still getting charged after cancelling their memberships. i mean hundreds. and Fabletics refuses to refund their “subscription.” it’s literally a scam.
tl;dr,don’t buy from Fabletics, and if you do, very carefully monitor your credit card bill for months afterwards. don’t be like me and get scammed out of $200 without knowing it. (my card provider is currently contacting Fabletics in an attempt to get that hefty chunk of cash refunded, but who knows if i’ll get it back. probably not.)
So how do you tell which parts of your routine are load-bearing? I wish I knew, but some heuristics:
Things that are part of your access to food which you’ll reliably eat are often load-bearing. If you get a lot of your calories from the free food at work, you should expect changing jobs to one without free food will throw you off your game. If you rely on the corner store then you should expect that moving to a new place where you have to get int he car to get groceries will be a problem. Going vegetarian can screw up something load-bearing for a lot of people (and I say that as someone who believes that factory farming is morally horrible). Going on a diet is reasonably likely to fuck up something load bearing, and I suspect this is part of why statistically dieting doesn’t work at improving peoples’ lives or health.
Things that are part of the environments you spend the most time in are reasonably likely to be load-bearing.The length of your commute, the environment you work in, whether your bedroom is clean, well-ventilated, high-ceilinged, has natural light, whether you have any space that you don’t share with another person…. for some people ‘having a car’ is loadbearing because it’s a space that is theirs and will reliably have their stuff and get them places. For other people, living somewhere where they can get places without a car is load bearing.
Cleanliness needs are often load-bearing. This one especially sucks because you can get into a trap where your space gets chaotic/cluttered/awful and this breaks your brain and makes it harder to keep your space clean.
Pets are often load-bearing.
This might be influenced by who I hang out with, but I think personal time when you’re alone and no one has any claims on you is load bearing for a lot of people. Some people have their own room and know they need their own room, but lots of other people make do with a long commute where they can quietly listen to the radio, and don’t even realize that this is filling their need for introvert time until it changes.
I think people often have a particularly bad time if they have something load-bearing that’s considered ‘indulgent’ or a ‘luxury’, like ‘living in an apartment building with a pool’ or ‘having a big yard I can garden in’ or ‘having an ensuite bathroom with a tub’ or ‘having a soundproofed practice room’ or ‘having a grand piano’. But, like, having expensive load-bearing bits of your life does not say anything about you morally; it may mean that it’s harder for you to get your needs met, and it may not be a preferable situation, but it doesn’t make you selfish or greedy or bad. And, you know, trying to just not have things you need because you believe you’re bad for wanting them doesn’t often work out great.
as someone who lives with a mumbler, “brain” and “green” sound very similar when mumbled. that’s not surprising, that’s not witchcraft, that’s mumbling
but I can only hear “needle” and don’t get how you can hear “storm”.
they neither start nor end the same way. there isn’t even the same number of syllables.
That’s why it’s so freaky (Nb: I can hear both)
Yeah, I can hear both depending on which one I’m thinking about, and either way they sound pretty clear and not like sort-of-one-and-sort-of-the-other. It just straight out sounds COMPLETELY different depending on which one I’m thinking about. I don’t understand how either.
(Although I assume I could understand if I did some research. Basically, brains are fucking weird.)
I think it’s the same phenomenon when someone points out that song lyrics sound like *insert something ridiculous here* and then you can’t unhear it. Like your brain can be nudged to be predisposed to see/hear certain things and this isn’t any different. I guess it’s like the audio version of those uhh, foreground/background optical illusions. Except we’re used to visual tricks and not audio ones so much.
Yeah, I can hear both depending which one I think about.
You’re right about song lyrics, too. I heard “wrecking ball” as “rainbow” for the longest time and it’s still starbucks lovers in that one Taylor Swift song haha
As someone with auditory processing disorder, this is hysterical to watch from the perspective of an outsider.
Okay, no, being a roofer is not a hundred times more dangerous than being a cop
First of all how would you even gauge that
Well, occupational death statistics are pretty easy to find – and while it’s not 100, it’s still more than four times as deadly to be a roofer (47.4 deaths per 100,000) compared to a police officer (11.1 per 100,000).
Time blindness is the weirdest aspect of executive dysfunction and so weird as an experience to live with.
It’s like you see the clock, the clock says 3pm, you look at the clock again and it’s 3:02, then 3:05, and then you look again and it’s 8pm and WHAT THE FUCK.
You don’t even need hyperfocus. But hyperfocus is like the Warp Speed:tm: version cause when that hits, it’s 3pm and then it’s the next day and why is the sun rising and when did i last eat and oh god i need to use the bathroom. And oh, also, you’re EXHAUSTED. The act of your brain tunnel visioning on something drains you (but that’s another topic).
Time blindness is…. having the general knowledge that today is Wednesday, and you need to do something on Thursday. Thursday is logically tomorrow, but the mysterious void of time is like ‘that’s like next week or something.’
It’s knowing you have to do something in three weeks on the 21st. And as the days creep closer, the 21st is stuck in a constant state of still being 3 weeks away, despite the fact it’s now tomorrow.
It’s wild. ADHD is literally living in a constant state of “There is Now. And there is Later.” and there’s no in between; no dates, no times; no hours, weeks, or months. It’s just Now and Later, and oh god why is is X o’clock already!?
This might come as a shock to some of you but saying “I’m not informed enough on this particular topic to have an opinion” is about 100 times more respectable than being misinformed
I know in school they often teach us that ‘I don’t know’ is the worst possible answer and that you are better off making your best guess than admitting ignorance, but that’s because the educational system is a dumpster fire, and this is a habit that it pays to un-learn.
I’ve had 14 customer service jobs in 11 years (I get bored) and let me tell you that answering a customer with “I don’t personally know but let me go ask someone who does!” is a totally valid and respectable answer, probably even the BEST answer cause that proves you show initiative in finding things out and solving your own admitted ignorance.
We aren’t experts on everything and we aren’t SUPPOSED to be. Research is good for you! Do it!
my dad is an engineer and raised me like this, and yeah, it’s good parenting too – your kid asks you a question and instead of making up some shit or giving an opinion with no facts behind it, you look it up together, or do science to find out. it’s a bonding experience and it builds trust.
(maybe i should say dad WAS an engineer, as he’s retired now and building custom guitars instead of medical devices. but engineer is a mindset. you don’t retire from having the engineer nature.)
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