there’s not really much discussion of child neglect on here so i guess i have to do it
p l e a s e don’t shame neglect survivors for not knowing “basic” things like how to eat a balanced diet, when to go to the doctor, how to drive, etc. you know these things (usually) because a caring adult taught them to you. we didn’t have that. we often enter adulthood knowing jack shit about how to take care of ourselves. we know we’re missing information, and we feel so fucking lost.
it’s okay to, if you have a friend who’s experienced neglect, try and help them learn how to take care of themselves. saying things like “hey, do you think you could try to eat at least one vegetable per day?” or “that infection looks pretty bad, do you want to go to a doctor?” is genuinely helpful. but belittling us for not already knowing these things is completely unproductive and unnecessarily cruel.
don’t be a dick to survivors.
Tag: child neglect
this is important!
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a tweet from Joshua Castille/@castillejoshua
“Ok I’m gonna say it… I’m a radical I believe that deaf children deserve a family who can sign in an official language. I believe that all children deserve ASL AS THEIR NATIVE LANGUAGE. I believe parents who deprive their deaf child of ASL are actively neglecting their child.”
The absolute state of the British government.
It’s not like you didn’t see it coming. Socialized medicine doesn’t work.
The majority of universal healthcare systems work just fine as long as they’re funded properly. The NHS has problems because we have a government that consistently cuts the healthcare budget, not because the healthcare system is “socialised” (it’s not, in fact it’s being privatised increasingly and that is where a significant amount of the underfunding and overwork issues are coming from).
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/mar/09/nhs-cuts-and-privatisation-have-brought-no-benefits
Also, the Daily Mail is a borderline far right tabloid and should only ever be taken with the largest pinch of salt.
Capitalist countries love to undercut any and all forms of socialism -domestic or abroad- and then point to the crises they create like “This is why socialism doesn’t work” while capitalism slowly fails around us
They most def found the taxpayer money to fund the wedding…
The daily mail is a right wing shit rag. The NHS in England & Wales is being crippled deliberately by the fascist tory party so they can speed up the privatisation process. This means people are left to die, the NHS is on the brink of an engineered collapse. Fortunately in Scotland the SNP controlled Scottish government has retained most control over the Scottish NHS, which is properly funded and flourishing! The English insist on voting for fascists though…
self care can feel dangerous if you were neglected as a kid
because your understanding of the way the world works is built on the belief that you are utterly worthless as a living thing. And so you’ve spent your life, desperate to earn the right to still be alive. You’re left with this fundamental belief that if you haven’t worked yourself to the bone for something, you don’t deserve it. So when you’re down, when you’re at your worst and feel sick down to your soul, when you absolutely need self care the most… you have a lifelong narrative saying- no, you earned nothing today, you did nothing to deserve this food, this sleep, this consideration, this rest. It’s backwards and you know it’s not true, but it’s so ingrained that literally just taking care of your base needs feels like cheating.
the sad part is usually when you try so hard to get over this- and when you start to make progress, you are called selfish for self care.
This is true, and a thing. People in your life will be used to you expecting nothing and constantly foregoing your own needs at the drop of a hat, so when you start taking steps toward actually… putting yourself somewhere near the top of the list, there will be an adjustment period. The decent people will be happy for you, and be understanding during the admittedly rocky process of learning how to trust in and fight for your self worth. The shitmongers will throw tantrums, and try to guilt you back into submission, and so should be kicked to the curb for collection at your earliest convenience.
My Parents for the last 30 years: you’re not sick you just need to try harder, if you believe you are sick you will be sick, think Positively.
Both my brother and I: grow up into sick adults in need of dire medical care for serious issues that will affect the rest of our adult lives, have been told repeatedly that medical intervention as a child would have spotted most of this and could have perhaps prevented some physical and mental trauma.
Parents: WHERE DID THIS COME FROM, HOW DID THIS HAPPEN, WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL US, YOU NEED TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE, HOW COULD YOU LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOURSELVES, WE THOUGHT WE RAISED YOU BETTER THAN THIS
My brother and I, separated by 4000 miles and an ocean: look directly into the camera at each other like we’re on the office.
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