closet-keys:

in the notes:

– “no men are criticizing the judge, you’re making up something to be mad about”

– men criticizing the judge

The judge did say some very fine things, however, the one thing I have seen her criticised for is this: ‘‘Our Constitution does not allow for cruel and unusual punishment. If it did, I have to say, I might allow what he did to all of these beautiful souls, these young women in their childhood, I would allow some or many people to do to him what he did to others.’’ – source

Which is basically advocating rape/abuse as punishment.

Which is not okay.

prokopetz:

“Inappropriate student-teacher relationship” doesn’t always mean something sexual. My high school art teacher’s drug dealer was one of her own students, and you better believe he got straight As in that class – like, what are you going to do, give your weed man a B- because he doesn’t understand pointilism?

My favourite thing about this post is people getting offended that the sixteen-year-old drug dealer doesn’t understand pointilism.

prokopetz:

“Inappropriate student-teacher relationship” doesn’t always mean something sexual. My high school art teacher’s drug dealer was one of her own students, and you better believe he got straight As in that class – like, what are you going to do, give your weed man a B- because he doesn’t understand pointilism?

Source: scrotus-potus

beautifuldistraxtion:

farfirifirefly:

commanderabutt:

chelle-the-zbornak-queen:

nowacking:

Good Guy Burglar

no you don’t understand.

he fully knew that he’d be arrested for breaking and entering but he still reported this.

he know he’d go to jail, but he put human decency before his own freedom and called out this disgusting sexual perversion.

and if you don’t think that’s the tightest shit ever get out of my face.

My question is how the hell does this guy have the morality to report it but breaking into someones house is okay for him?

What an oddity.

Think of it this way:

You can fall on hard times and turn to theft even though you know it ain’t right.

You don’t fall on hard times and suddenly become interested in diddling kids.

^^ exactly

prokopetz:

It’s definitely a positive thing that all these sexual predators in Hollywood are getting outed, but I hope we’re also prepared to make the connection between these allegations and exactly why so many former child stars end up dead or institutionalised before they turn 30. These are not unconnected phenomena. Like, I realise the whole “former child star meltdown” meme is a comedy goldmine, but maybe some awareness of what we’re really laughing at?

The Myth of the Male Bumbler

spooniewifey:

roachpatrol:

jumpingjacktrash:

sptrashcan:

As a man who frequently worries about the apparent ease with which I could stumble into accidentally hurting women, it is a great relief to consider the possibility that the people who profess to blunder into sexual harassment may be fucking liars. Maybe my lifetime track record of zero hilarious molestation mishaps isn’t a lucky coincidence. Maybe I can have an unlimited number of cordial conversations with women without tripping over my tongue into an outrage.

The patriarchy hurts everyone, indeed…

i think my female followers might be surprised that a story like this fills men with relief, but yeah, it is good to know that these ‘accidental’ villains are playing dumb as part of their scheming bullshit.

i mean, there’s times when you get surprise privelege-checked upside the face and it hurts like hell, i’m not denying we can be sexist by accident and cry when we get called on it, nobody likes a sudden guilt+scolding combo and not everyone will be a grownup about it. but that gets conflated with these stories of sexual misconduct, and it’s terrifying.

so it’s actually really comforting to understand that sex criminals promote that conflation on purpose to protect themselves. it’s not something we have to buy into.

you won’t sexually assault someone by accident. these assholes know they got told no, and consciously chose to ignore it.

yeah it’s like the ‘helpless creep’ who ‘doesn’t know any better’. truly awkward men are awkward to other men too! they misread cues and get into conflicts with *all* their peers. but predators use the *appearance* of haplessness to ignore women’s social signals and tresspass all over their boundaries, then play the victim when women get mad, and other men give them a pass cuz the predator hasn’t bothered *them*.

“There’s a reason for this plague of know-nothings: The bumbler’s perpetual amazement exonerates him. Incompetence is less damaging than malice. And men — particularly powerful men — use that loophole like corporations use off-shore accounts. The bumbler takes one of our culture’s most muscular myths — that men are clueless — and weaponizes it into an alibi.”

Very relevant: Meet The Predators

From the conclusions:

Second, the sometimes-floated notion that acquaintance rape is simply a mistake about consent, is wrong. (See Amanda Hess’s excellent takedown here.) The vast majority of the offenses are being committed by a relatively small group of men, somewhere between 4% and 8% of the population, who do it again … and again … and again. That just doesn’t square with the notion of innocent mistake. Further, since the repeaters are also responsible for a hugely disproportionate share of the intimate partner violence, child beating and child sexual abuse, the notion that these predators are somehow confused good guys does not square with the data. Most of the raping is done by guys who like to rape, and to abuse, assault and violate. If we could get the one-in-twelve or one-in-25 repeat rapists out of the population (that is a lot of men — perhaps six or twelve million men in the U.S. alone) or find a way to stop them from hurting others, most sexual assault, and a lot of intimate partner violence and child abuse, would go away. Really.

(Also: Predator Redux)

Mythcommunication: It’s Not That They Don’t Understand, They Just Don’t Like The Answer

The same seems to apply to just about any type of creepy predatory behavior. It’s all a matter of degrees, and as they say abusive behaviors do tend to run together.

The major problem is coming from a relatively small percentage of hardcore repeat predators who are aware their attentions are unwanted and just don’t care about the harm they’re doing–not bumblers accidentally violating boundaries.

As Cliff Pervocracy put it in an older post (We are the 95%):

The one big lie at the center of all these little lies is: “If you were in my place, you could have done the same.”…

So when you hear all the totally plausible ways it could have been you, realize: nope, probably couldn’t have been. Most people don’t struggle not to commit rape… just as the vast majority of people don’t have trouble restraining themselves from torture or murder…

This is part of why I talk about consent so much. It’s not just to keep well-intentioned guys from accidentally raping. Most well-intentioned guys don’t really have that problem. It’s to help well-intentioned guys (and girls, and everyone else) see how vast the gulf is between them and rapists.

If affirmative, negotiated, freely given consent is the norm, then rapists lose the ability to say “I just didn’t know.” They can no longer make anyone think “but regular sex looks practically the same.” If romance doesn’t work a damn thing like rape, rapists can’t hide behind “I was trying to be romantic.”

Again, the same applies to harassment. And it keeps coming up whenever a known serial harasser’s patterns of behavior gets public attention. This endless focus on the potential for bumbling and legitimate misunderstandings just offers the hardcore predators plausible deniability. The rest of us don’t have to go along with that and help preserve that cover.

The Myth of the Male Bumbler

The Washington Post: Roy Moore allegations prompt reflections on fundamentalist culture in which some Christian men date teens

fialleril:

When Roy Moore, then 34 years old, asked 17-year-old Debbie Wesson
Gibson whether she would date him, Gibson asked her mother what she
would think.

According to The Washington Post’s investigation into Moore’s alleged pursuit of teenage girls, which was published Thursday, Gibson’s mother replied, “I’d say you were the luckiest girl in the world.”

That
attitude of encouraging teenage girls to date older men, rather than
shielding girls from men’s advances, sounded familiar to some people who
read the Post story that has shaken Moore’s bid for the U.S. Senate.

“It’s
not so uncommon that people would necessarily look at it askance,” said
Nicholas Syrett, a University of Kansas professor who recently
published a book on child marriage in America. “The South has a much
longer history of allowing minors to marry, and obviously there’s some
courtship or dating — whatever you want to call it — leading up to
that.”

That courtship of underage girls is especially common in conservative religious communities.

“We
should probably talk about how there is a segment of evangelicalism and
home-school culture where the only thing Roy Moore did wrong was
initiating sexual contact outside of marriage. 14 year old girls
courting adult men isn’t entirely uncommon,” Kathryn Brightbill, who
works for the Coalition for Responsible Home Education, tweeted Friday, prompting a flurry of responses from other people who also had watched teenagers date much older Christian men.

Ashley Easter, who grew up in a fundamentalist Baptist church where
courting was the norm for teenagers, said, “That was the first thing I
thought of with Roy Moore.” In her church community in Lynchburg, Va.,
Easter said, fathers had complete control over whom their daughters were
allowed to date, and she could see how a father might set his teen
daughter up with a much older man.“A woman’s role is to be a
wife, a homemaker and someone who births children. The man’s role is
generally to be established and someone who provides the full income,”
said Easter, who runs the Courage Conference for survivors of church
sexual abuse. “It may take longer for a man to reach stability. While a
woman of 15 or 16, if she’s been trained for a long time looking after
her younger siblings, in their eyes she might be ready for marriage.”

(13 November 2017)

My first thought on reading this was, “Thank God somebody said it.”

Ashley Easter’s first thought when she heard the allegations against Moore was mine, too. Because I grew up with exactly this. I could go home to my mom’s church tomorrow and hear the pastor say exactly what Brightbill says here: that the only thing Roy Moore did wrong was initiating sexual contact outside of marriage.

And this is exactly why he may very well still win the election.

The Washington Post: Roy Moore allegations prompt reflections on fundamentalist culture in which some Christian men date teens

lavenderenergy:

haiweewicci:

nativeamericannews:

Sacajawea: If Not For Her, We Could Be Saluting the British Flag

Few women in U.S. history have had more influence on the nation’s history than the young Lemhi Shoshone woman, Sacajawea. It’s very likely that Lewis and Clark would never have reached the Pacific Ocean had it not been for her help. White settlement would have been different. Indian wars throughout the western half of the country would have been altered. We might even be saluting the British flag rather than the American flag. Sacajawea’s role was gigantic.

MY GIRL. She is of our tribe and we are so proud of her out in Inyo County. The Lewis and Clark thing was just a small part of her epic life.

She was actually born with the name Poi Naipi (Little Grass Maiden). She and two of her friends (Nai Nukkwi, Patsu Naipi) were kidnapped by a hostile band of Hidatsa, who had a strange practice of replacing their own dead children with the children of other tribes.

Poi Naipi’s “adopted” parents didn’t like her much so instead of sending her home they freaking sold her to a drunken French guy named Charbonneau. This man was bastard incarnate. To put this into perspective: He had once been stabbed in the face in Manitoba when he was caught raping a young girl there. At this time, being forced to marry him, Poi Naipi was about 9 years old. And, he already had one other child bride.

He was very abusive, he drank a lot, and at some point Poi Naipi started calling herself Tsaikka Tsa Wea. It means in our language, “One Who Carries a Burden.” You see how this got corrupted to Sacajawea over time.

At one point on the L&C expedition Clark caught Charbonneau beating Tsaikka Tsa Wea and her newborn son. Well, Clark and Lewis beat the crap out of Charbonneau and told him to knock it off. Later, after the expedition, Clark paid for Tsaikka Tsa Wea’s son to go to school and live in his home.

That’s not even the cool part though. As an older woman Tsaikka Tsa Wea said “To hell with this, I’m going home.” This was a pretty big thing to do, understand that she had practically been raised by her abusive scumbag husband and it is very hard for women who have been systematically abused since childhood to learn to stand up for themselves, especially against their aggressors. But, she did it. Traveling all by herself, she found the Northern Shoshone encampment on Wind River, where Chief Wusik-He was with some Eastern Shoshone (and some Western at the time) (this would later go on to be the permanent Eastern settlement, those guys are still out there today). She was reunited with her brother, who by that point had been named Daigwani of the Northern Shoshone. Everybody welcomed her home, her friends, her family, and she broke down crying to hear them call her their “Lost Woman” (Wadze Waipu). For her resilience and cunning she was appointed the personal advisor to Wusik-He. As a very old woman was buried with the name “Chief Woman,” later her son and her nephew were buried on either side of her. Those graves are still there on Wind River today.

Poi Naipi and the Wide Ridge Clan, never forget you, your story is always being told. Miikwa katukan, tunna wunupuhantu tung’atiwan naangwunupuhantu

Source: indiancountrytodaymedianetwork.com

reverseideologie:

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femmebosskoopa:

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sardonicblisters:

yayfeminism:

A New Hampshire Republican State Representative anonymously created the “Red Pill” subreddit.

Wow.

these aren’t just bullshitter dweebs in their mom’s basements trolling the internet, these are men who formulate the way we implement laws and who govern the way we live our lives.

^^^ Hello, yes, everyone needs to see this. It’s not always a bunch of nobodies trolling around on 4chan. It’s, doctors, lawyers, judges, businessmen, bankers, law enforcement, etc. People who have pulls on society. They literally don’t see other groups besides themselves as human or equal

…holy shit like this is bad really really bad but so much clearly so if you’ve ever read the scum that floats to the top of the Red Pill. Like basically he was just outed as the creator of a neo-nazi misogynist pro-rape forum explicitly to recruit online loners and groom them like it’s EVERYTHING we’ve been saying these people do but this is like, the hive.

For the anon asking why not trust red pill guys

Fuck Conservatives

Fun fact: the Red Pill was 90% of the reason I left reddit. I think it’s important everyone understands why, without having to subject yourselves to actually looking at the subreddit.

The Red Pill is a confluence of gross misogyny, rape culture, and vile social darwinism, all tied up under the banner of it being the “truth” behind some grand lie that is PC culture; that is to say, taking the red pill to withdraw yourself from the Matrix, a metaphor nearly as dated as the ideals they espouse.

If you think I’m exaggerating, I’m not. I spent nearly two years on reddit before toxic bullshit like this drove me out. These people build an elaborate construct about treating women like property and sexualizing children because ~evolution~ programmed them to like it, and ~evolution~ can’t possibly be wrong, as though club-wielding Neanderthal brutes are something to aspire to and not something we left behind millennia ago.

They’ve created an incredibly detailed fantasy about how women are evolutionarily predisposed to react to certain behaviors of “alpha males” (another false equivalence; the theory of the alpha male comes from a since-disproved theory about wolf behavior), and how the trick to success in sex is about taking on these characteristics which, spoiler alert, explicitly encourage treating women like garbage.

I cannot overstate how incredibly toxic the Red Pill is and how disgustingly large the community became by the time I left reddit. I wish I could say I was surprised that a Republican senator founded it, but this is the kind of shit they’ve been legislating for years.

Why am I not surprised?

For all you god damn motherfucking doubters, this is not fake, sources include:

Time Magazine: http://time.com/4756308/robert-fisher-new-hampshire-mens-rights/

CBS: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/new-hampshire-rep-revealed-as-founder-of-misogynistic-website-refuses-to-resign/

Boston Globe (Behind a Paywall): https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2017/04/26/lawmaker-accused-starting-red-pill-forum-reddit-won-resign/RD057SBlGTwLoOMC9lLVLM/story.html

Local News Stations (as they are tended to be considered most credible)

WMUR (Local news station): http://www.wmur.com/article/state-lawmaker-admits-saying-some-injudicious-things-about-women/9562347

WRAL (also local news station): http://www.wral.com/the-latest-governor-wants-lawmaker-to-resign-over-comments/16666205/

and of course

Snopes Confirms: http://www.snopes.com/2017/04/25/legislator-reddit-redpill-forum/

Source: yayfeminism