It’s also really annoying how white people are acting like the white nationalists marching in Charlottesville are all virgin nerds that nobody wants to fuck.
In actuality, half them boys are married with children and the other half have WHITE girlfriends who want their racist Nazi boyfriends to finally stop playing games and be committed to them.
White people acting like racist white men are losers that no woman wants to fuck invisibilizes white women’s perpetuation of and active participation in white supremacy.
This also allows white supremacy to be othered and implies that it is both caused by societal rejection and is itself a cause of rejection.
But it’s not, people don’t join the Klan cause they can’t get laid. And being a nazi don’t stop you from having a social life. Our culture does not punish racism and antisemitism, it produces it.
Also calling bigots virgins or bad at sex is gross.
“I don’t like someone so I’m gonna imply they can’t get any.” Grow the fuck up.
^^^^^^ This is definitely a white tactic.
This is why “humanizing your enemy” really means.
It’s not an attempt make
bigots cuddly or agreeable in the eyes of the public. It’s to make sure you
know them when you see them – so you can recognize an attack coming
from inside the PTA barbecue, and defend yourself, rather than focusing
all your attention on weird-looking outsiders, and get taken by
surprise.Painting these bigots as as sexually inferior is also harmful to people who are actually asexual and/or aromantic, because it often makes people suspicious that we are anti-social “loners,” and we might “crack” or be susceptible to fascist recruiting techniques.
(Writes the quintessential middle-aged “Bleeding-Heart Liberal,” who happens to be a virgin, and didn’t even know that there was a name for asexuality until a couple of years ago, but realized it fit her perfectly as soon as she did).
Tag: dehumanization
Chadari (aka Burqa)
I’m sharing these photos to remind you and myself, that beneath each Chadari is a determined and beautiful Afghan woman. Covered by cloth is a brave mother holding her child, a courageous sister buying groceries, a determined daughter making her way to an education center, a bride-to-be choosing her wedding outfit, a pregnant woman on her way to the hospital, a frail grandmother visiting family, a loved friend shopping for a birthday present…..and the list goes on.
To wear a Chadari may or may not be each woman’s choice, but despite this fact, they are still WOMEN. Being covered doesn’t lessen their worth as women. I don’t ask you to like or agree with Chadari, I sure don’t. All I ask of you as you browse through these photos, is to think of those who wear the Chadari, as what they are…people.
With that one post about medical discrimination that I’m pretty sure I’d reblogged before, I was also reminded of one simple observation from a Gyasi Ross piece I ran across again recently. A good enough summary that it stuck in my mind:
I don’t think it’s possible to see a stranger as a human being and talk to them like that. They didn’t see me as a human. I was something less. I’m not overly sensitive – sometimes people are just rude. No racism, no sexism, no anything other than everyday mundane rude behavior.
This was different.
That came up in a different context, but I think it applies just as well to what the OP there was getting at. (Among so many other situations.)
It’s usually not that hard to tell when you are just not getting treated like a person. I get so tired of the amount of invalidation and gaslighting some people will engage in because that makes them so uncomfortable to even acknowledge.
Though it can give you an unfortunately good idea of how much credit they are also affording you as a human being who is worth something. That denial behavior is disrespectful enough on its own.
And that’s before we even get to the Just Worlding BS that too often gets trotted out to justify treatment that they will even admit was wrong at all, and why that must have been understandable if you were not just imagining there was a problem. I don’t even have the energy to go into that very much.
But, again, that type of victim blaming/respectability politics response is not so compatible with viewing the other person as a Real Person, who deserves respectful treatment as much as anyone else. No matter how they try to turn that around.
That’s a little too good an indication of their priorities, and they are demonstrating that your not getting treated like shit is somewhere way down on that list.
If someone is not inclined to see you as a Real Person, there is no way to make them. That is an impossible expectation, which should never be laid on you to begin with. That is just not something that is within your control, and anyone who suggests otherwise is not acting in your interest. At all.
(All of which of course leads to any number of huge problems on a practical level. I wish I knew how to address basically any of them in useful ways.)
One example I just ran across of another British headline convention I will probably never get used to: Hornchurch fun day to support neuroblastoma girl
Not a dehumanizing way of phrasing that, not at all.
I mean, that’s one type of situation where using “person first” language would actually be a big improvement, limited space or no. Please just find some other way of conveying the necessary information.
Just made me think of some case a while back where the headlines kept referring to “Tumour Boy”. And I kept reeling back every time I saw it.
I was initially thinking that those sound sorta like questionable supervillain sidekicks, but Tumour Boy is apparently also a band from Beijing! Guess that works too.
Urocyon's Jaunts 2.0 