tilthat:

TIL that an 8-year old girl had the Grand Wizard of the KKK as a pen pal

via reddit.com

Coming from the ironic original title of a film project, based on the artist’s own experience as a child. From the article/interview:

Christy Chan was around 8, the child of Chinese immigrants and living in a rural part of Virginia, when her family began receiving mysterious letters. As the sole English speaker in her household, Chan routinely translated everywhing that came her family’s way-pamphlets in the mail, notes from teachers and dentists. Then some new letters began arriving. They were formal, typed, with crosses on them. At the bottom they were signed, “The Wizard.”

They were from the Ku Klux Klan-the letterhead explicitly said so. The K.K.K. wanted Chan’s family to leave. But Chan was just a child, only vaguely understanding the words “white supremacy” even as she read them to her parents. So she wrote back to the Wizard, decorating her messages with glitter, trying to persuade him that she and her family were nice people.

Film trailer on her website

Vermont’s Only Black Woman Lawmaker Pulls Out Of Race In Wake Of Online Threats

feelingbluepolitics:

This is horrific.

“Her safety has been compromised by the actions of people who harbor intense, hateful, racist beliefs.

“Vermont Attorney General T.J. Donovan has launched an investigation into the online harassment and threats that played a part in Morris’ decision to withdraw from the House race, according to the VT Digger. The attorney general’s office will partner with the Vermont State Police in the investigation.

“Morris will finish out the rest of her term and will be replaced at the end of the year.”

Arresting and punitively sentencing those responsible for the threats is a critical first step.

Vermont’s Only Black Woman Lawmaker Pulls Out Of Race In Wake Of Online Threats

Conspiracy Hoaxer ‘Side Thorn’ Arrested on Federal Weapons Charge

operation-razorteeth:

“According to the criminal complaint they confronted pastor Frank Pomeroy and accused him of perpetuating the shooting “hoax.” They also told Pomeroy that he was lying about his 14-year-old daughter Annabelle — who died in the shooting — saying the girl never existed.” – wow, what pieces of shit.   

Conspiracy Hoaxer ‘Side Thorn’ Arrested on Federal Weapons Charge

anaisnein:

clatterbane:

tilthat:

TIL Cursing while on the telephone with someone is a Class 1 Misdemeanor in the State of Virginia

via reddit.com

Any person who uses obscene, vulgar, profane, lewd, lascivious, or indecent language, or makes any suggestion or proposal of an obscene nature, or threatens any illegal or immoral act with the intent to coerce, intimidate, or harass any person, over any telephone or citizens band radio, in this Commonwealth, is guilty of a Class 1 misdemeanor.

(From the relevant Code of Virginia section.)

Does this cover instant messaging on a smartphone

Yep, looks like they’ve kept up there.

(”Over any telephone” includes, for purposes of this section, any electronically transmitted communication producing a visual or electronic message that is received or transmitted by cellular telephone or other wireless telecommunications device.)

‘I Can Now Say It’: Elementary School Principal Comes Out As Transgender

lizardtitties:

goodstuffhappenedtoday:

Best quotes:

Parents were given language to use with children to discuss Daniels’ transition, stressing it is important to accept everyone as they are and to know that Daniels is “the same caring person.”

“I just explained Principal Daniels looks like a boy, but inside feels like a girl,” one mother told her children, “and they’ll probably notice some changes when they see him.”

Parents WBZ-TV talked to were supportive.

“I don’t think it’s a big deal, he has lot of courage for coming out and I hope he’s the principal for many years to come and I hope people are nice to him,” one father said. “He’s a nice guy, I’m sure he’ll be a nice woman.”

(NB: The Principal says people can use he, she, or they pronouns.)

In 2013 in the UK, a transgender teacher called Lucy Meadows killed herself after her existence resulted in a large amount of national media attention. She had been teaching at the school under the name of Nathan, but chose to return at the end of summer one year as an openly transgender teacher. The school sent parents a letter explaining this, and one parent, claiming his child was confused, started a petition and started talking directly to the media. Eventually, she had a press pack outside her door every day, as did the parents of her ex wife.

The culmination of this was the Daily Mail columnist Richard Littlejohn writing an opinion piece in which he accused her of “putting his (sic) own selfish needs ahead of the wellbeing of the children”. 

I’m putting this here because it’s been five years since she died. I’ve thought about her for five years. Things almost certainly won’t be easy for this teacher at all, but just being able to come out like this and have parents be supportive is a really huge difference to how it was for Lucy, and it’s slightly staggering to realize how much things have changed in such a short time.

‘I Can Now Say It’: Elementary School Principal Comes Out As Transgender

I had been following that mess to some extent for a while.

The situation was already to the point that some people targeted had been advised by Google’s internal security to post something explaining the (already reported to police) harassment on their doors–and hope the cops would actually stop long enough look at it 😦–in response to the swatting threats.

(As came up not long ago in discussions of the totally inadequate to the point of criminal negligence police preparation/response after that guy in was murdered in Kansas. But yeah, just one indication of what’s been happening there.)

But, what Mr. C heard from Liz yesterday had him extending an open invitation for them to crash on our couch anytime, if they need to get well away ASAP. And let’s just say he’s not prone to overreaction.

Guessing that was at least partly thanks to the further backlash expected after that article got published. But yeah, the situation really is looking that bad. And I think he’s feeling even worse than I am that there’s not much concrete we can do to help.

The Dirty War Over Diversity Inside Google

Via Liz Fong-Jones. Having trouble choosing limited quotes that even come close to doing this horrible mess justice, and I would definitely recommend reading the whole article.

Since August, screenshots from Google’s internal discussion forums, including personal information, have been displayed on sites including Breitbart and Vox Popoli, a blog run by alt-right author Theodore Beale, who goes by the name Vox Day. Other screenshots were included in a 161-page lawsuit that Damore filed in January, alleging that Google discriminates against whites, males, and conservatives.

What followed, the employees say, was a wave of harassment. On forums like 4chan, members linked advocates’ names with their social-media accounts. At least three employees had their phone numbers, addresses, and deadnames (a transgender person’s name prior to transitioning) exposed. Google site reliability engineer Liz Fong-Jones, a trans woman, says she was the target of harassment, including violent threats and degrading slurs based on gender identity, race, and sexual orientation. More than a dozen pages of personal information about another employee were posted to Kiwi Farms, which New York has called “the web’s biggest community of stalkers.”

Meanwhile, inside Google, the diversity advocates say some employees have “weaponized human resources” by goading them into inflammatory statements, which are then captured and reported to HR for violating Google’s mores around civility or for offending white men…

Yonatan Zunger, a high-ranking veteran engineer who left Google eight months ago, says the internal culture has become a textbook case of the “paradox of tolerance,” the notion that if a society is tolerant without limit, it will be seized upon by the intolerant.

The combatants represent just a sliver of Google’s more than 75,000 employees. Executives seem to want everyone to get back to work, rather than be forced into the awkward position of refereeing a culture war. “Just like they’re reporting me, I’m reporting them as well,” says Alon Altman, a senior engineer and diversity advocate. After Damore’s memo was disclosed in August, Altman says the complaints from both sides amounted to “a denial-of-service attack on human resources.”…

Fong-Jones is used to being harassed online. But she was quickly flooded with direct messages on Twitter containing violent threats and degrading and transphobic slurs based on gender identity, race, and sexual orientation. One commenter on Vox Popoli wrote that, “they should pitch all those sexual freaks off of rooftops.”

That’s when it clicked: perhaps some of her coworkers’ questions had not been in good faith. “We didn’t realize that there was a dirty war going on, and weren’t aware of the tactics being used against us,” she says. The stakes soon became clear. A few days later, alt-right figurehead Milo Yiannopoulos shared an image with his 2.5 million Facebook followers featuring the Twitter bios and profile pics of eight advocates at Google, many of them trans employees…

Some employees see similarities between some of the behavior inside Google and alt-right manuals for fighting advocates for social justice, such as one written by Beale that instructs readers to “Document their every word and action,” “Undermine them, sabotage them, and discredit them,” and “Make the rubble bounce” on your way out the door.

Beale says they’re right. “I know that there are a number of people there who have read [the guide], I know that they’re using it,” Beale told WIRED. He claims to have had contacts inside the company for years and dozens of followers. He says he doesn’t know if Damore has read his guide, but is following the playbook. Damore says he has not read the manual.

Another unfortunately good point:

Christopher Schmidt (@crschmidt) tweeted at 2:11 PM on Fri, Jan 26, 2018:
I think this is the key thing. Google is large enough that these folks form a cohort; at any other company, they are just “that one guy”… who chases every under represented minority out. Stop looking at pipeline: start looking at Pepe.

The Dirty War Over Diversity Inside Google

fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton:

locaven:

kunaiman:

arolantsov:

a few things:

bullying is abuse. full stop. bullying is abuse, bullies are abusers. if you have been bullied, you have been abused.

bullying is not a lesser form of abuse. it is not normal. it is not beneficial. victims do not need to ‘grow up’ or ‘get over it’. you are not childish or immature for being hurt by it.

bullying can cause mental health problems. bullying can cause trauma. mental health problems and trauma caused by abuse are completely valid. bullying is not a lesser form of abuse and the effects of bullying are not lesser forms of pain.

bullying comes in a lot of different forms. essentially, if you were excluded or humiliated or mocked or physically abused or in any other way treated as inferior by your peers, you were bullied.

bullying is never the victim’s fault. never. the abusers will always find an excuse to hurt you but they don’t need an actual reason.

the effects of bullying can last a lifetime. all this is true if you’re being bullied right now, and all this is true if it’s been a year. five years. fifteen years. abuse can have long-term effects and healing is not a question of maturity.

bullying isn’t discussed nearly enough but seriously, it can be hellish and if you’re going through it or you’ve been through it, i’m with you. keep going.

I honestly have a problem with calling “excluding” bullying.

If they don’t like you, they won’t have you with them. Plain and simple.

The rest of this post is fine, but not being in the clique is not bullying. You don’t force someone to be your friend.

Exclusion is more than just not belonging to a group. It’s totally ignoring someone, leaving them out of trends that should be able to apply to everyone, and basically not treating them as a member of “everyone”.

Bullying leaves you with the indelible impression that you can be attacked by strangers in public spaces- which are supposed to be accessible to everyone- at will and that no one will care or do anything about it.

Abuse made me unsafe at home, but bullying made me unsafe anytime I left my house. That’s pretty fucking serious. Bullying taught me that public spaces exist for everyone else except me. When you’re an adult they call it harassment and it’s supposed to be a crime- whether or not it is depends on whether or not anyone in authority will enforce the law.

clatterbane:

karynchaotic:

if you see someone active on social media or something, and you message them, and they don’t reply, they don’t have to. just because they are awake and alive does not mean they have to engage with you whenever you want them to. you are not entitled to someone else’s time. 

in the past, an abuser would see me post online and then hound me on aim until i answered. i felt like i had to hide. they also lived in my building and would pound on my door if they saw me online and i wasn’t responding to them. i had to completely ditch a screenname, lie about having skype, and turn off my phone to hide. if i saw they were online i couldn’t post on facebook or interact with anyone without them demanding to interact with me. the only legitimate excuse not to talk to them was being asleep. in their eyes, if i were really their friend, i would always want to engage no matter what, even if i had a migraine or work to do or wasn’t feeling very social. it didn’t matter. 

please do not do this. if someone doesn’t write you back, don’t guilt them about where they are or what they’re doing. if you see someone posting on tumblr or facebook and they aren’t signed into aim or google or skype or whatever, that’s their business. if they are signed on but don’t write you back, it’s okay. sometimes people can’t talk to everyone all the time every time. some people can only talk to one person at a time without getting overloaded. some people are signed on in case someone needs to contact them with something important and not to be social. they’re not always hiding from you, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they HAVE to hide from you.

this is probably jumbled and i’m probably missing a lot here, but pressuring people to always be available to you every hour of the day and always answer the phone or text or chat or pm or whatever…if you require that of someone, you might need to take a step back.

Reminder: There are also actual reasons that some of us may have serious trouble responding to messages at all. And it’s unlikely to be about you unless you are acting like that.

I really don’t want to come across as some kind of antisocial asshole, but notifications popping up still freak me out every time. It goes way beyond “I don’t like IMs”. Seeing that it’s from someone I would want to talk to if I weren’t having a PTSD reaction doesn’t actually make it easier to respond, unfortunately.

No worries for anyone who hasn’t been aware of the problem. I’m still not entirely comfortable talking about it. And I feel bad about just leaving people hanging.

(To add to the OP’s excellent points.)