you shouldn’t have to reveal some deeply personal thing about yourself, especially if it somehow affects your safety, just so that people will listen to you and stop treating you like shit
People who are treating you like shit don’t have your best interests at heart and will probably use the personal thing as extra ammo anyway. Even if they claim they’re acting from a place of morals
People with good morals would not be bullying you in the first place.
Being too white and too black at the same damn time
Being generally socially inept because I was homeschooled until 6th grade…
Being an antisocial bookworm who couldn’t pick up on social cues and interrupted conversations with total strangers.
Being socially innept because I was homeschooled until 8th grade and also having wild, unmanageable hair.
Being too dang pale and also very fat. (I’m not fat no more)
Bein’ a massive weeb and WAY too excitable.
Also it’s gonna make me sound like your typical “they’re just jealous” brat, but I was also bullied for holding some of the highest grades in the class.
For not fitting in because I had different interests, I liked reading, and I was friends with the teachers.
Being too poor to afford anything but ratty jeans and tshirts, and I ate weird crappy lunches. Sometimes I hid in the locker room because I had no food. Being a geek girl in the 80s; they made fun of me for reading a lot and liking Star Wars and comics. Mocked by teachers and students for trying to get a girl’s soccer team started at school. I practiced with the boy’s team but wasn’t allowed to compete in matches.
(I love 80s pop culture and nostalgia, but it really wasn’t the nicest time to grow up. People were cruel about dumb stuff. Cheerleaders and jocks really were considered supercool and they really were not very nice).
Mostly reblogging because my experience of growing up in the ‘80s really sucked too, in some similar ways.
The real answer there was being stuck in a school system with a super-toxic social environment. (Confirmed by pretty much all of it stopping when I was old enough to drive myself and transferred to a neighboring county out for self-preservation. I kept waiting for the torture to start up again, but it never did.)
But, I was nerdy and, gee surprise, autistic with some LDs that got ignored because I was “smart”–and also inexplicably stupid in specialized ways. I apparently stayed at 99% percentile on height and weight, until HS when more kids started catching up. My family was working poor and not White enough. Put a lot of effort into dressing “right” for a while and developed an ED, but that didn’t even slow any of the appearance-as-an-excuse stuff down. Shifting goalposts all over the place, with literally no way to win. Later on I was too punk, and at least that was actually fun. I also ended up in the psych system in middle school (gee wonder why), so that was of course low-hanging fruit after that.
From the feedback, I just didn’t girl right in general, and was a uniquely repulsive human being. Some of that harassment (starting in elementary school) made it harder to come to terms with the fact that I am actually very queer and don’t have the same relationship with gender that a lot of people seem to.
Basically, I’m so sorry and also angry again looking over this post, with all the reminders of the sheer number and variety of excuses people will concoct to justify treating children like shit. With other kids taking their cues from the adults around them. Nobody deserves to get treated like that. No matter how fucking weird they may or may not be in reality. Much less literal children.
I agree with @clatterbane here, this post really shows how many reasons people will create to bully people, I was too fat and too weird (mostly undiagnosed autism and other disabilities), another kid was bullied because of some intellectual disability, it’s unbelievable how many people were targeted by different reasons but this post also shows we have no guilt, no reasons or character that causes us to be bullied, it was nothing about us because anything can be used as an excuse, bullies can use anything to be cruel, they decide you don’t fit in and that you deserve it because they want a target so they choose what adults and society says it’s bad.
Being too white and too black at the same damn time
Being generally socially inept because I was homeschooled until 6th grade…
Being an antisocial bookworm who couldn’t pick up on social cues and interrupted conversations with total strangers.
Being socially innept because I was homeschooled until 8th grade and also having wild, unmanageable hair.
Being too dang pale and also very fat. (I’m not fat no more)
Bein’ a massive weeb and WAY too excitable.
Also it’s gonna make me sound like your typical “they’re just jealous” brat, but I was also bullied for holding some of the highest grades in the class.
For not fitting in because I had different interests, I liked reading, and I was friends with the teachers.
Being too poor to afford anything but ratty jeans and tshirts, and I ate weird crappy lunches. Sometimes I hid in the locker room because I had no food. Being a geek girl in the 80s; they made fun of me for reading a lot and liking Star Wars and comics. Mocked by teachers and students for trying to get a girl’s soccer team started at school. I practiced with the boy’s team but wasn’t allowed to compete in matches.
(I love 80s pop culture and nostalgia, but it really wasn’t the nicest time to grow up. People were cruel about dumb stuff. Cheerleaders and jocks really were considered supercool and they really were not very nice).
Mostly reblogging because my experience of growing up in the ‘80s really sucked too, in some similar ways.
The real answer there was being stuck in a school system with a super-toxic social environment. (Confirmed by pretty much all of it stopping when I was old enough to drive myself and transferred to a neighboring county out for self-preservation. I kept waiting for the torture to start up again, but it never did.)
But, I was nerdy and, gee surprise, autistic with some LDs that got ignored because I was “smart”–and also inexplicably stupid in specialized ways. I apparently stayed at 99% percentile on height and weight, until HS when more kids started catching up. My family was working poor and not White enough. Put a lot of effort into dressing “right” for a while and developed an ED, but that didn’t even slow any of the appearance-as-an-excuse stuff down. Shifting goalposts all over the place, with literally no way to win. Later on I was too punk, and at least that was actually fun. I also ended up in the psych system in middle school (gee wonder why), so that was of course low-hanging fruit after that.
From the feedback, I just didn’t girl right in general, and was a uniquely repulsive human being. Some of that harassment (starting in elementary school) made it harder to come to terms with the fact that I am actually very queer and don’t have the same relationship with gender that a lot of people seem to.
Basically, I’m so sorry and also angry again looking over this post, with all the reminders of the sheer number and variety of excuses people will concoct to justify treating children like shit. With other kids taking their cues from the adults around them. Nobody deserves to get treated like that. No matter how fucking weird they may or may not be in reality. Much less literal children.
if you see someone active on social media or something, and you message them, and they don’t reply, they don’t have to. just because they are awake and alive does not mean they have to engage with you whenever you want them to. you are not entitled to someone else’s time.
in the past, an abuser would see me post online and then hound me on aim until i answered. i felt like i had to hide. they also lived in my building and would pound on my door if they saw me online and i wasn’t responding to them. i had to completely ditch a screenname, lie about having skype, and turn off my phone to hide. if i saw they were online i couldn’t post on facebook or interact with anyone without them demanding to interact with me. the only legitimate excuse not to talk to them was being asleep. in their eyes, if i were really their friend, i would always want to engage no matter what, even if i had a migraine or work to do or wasn’t feeling very social. it didn’t matter.
please do not do this. if someone doesn’t write you back, don’t guilt them about where they are or what they’re doing. if you see someone posting on tumblr or facebook and they aren’t signed into aim or google or skype or whatever, that’s their business. if they are signed on but don’t write you back, it’s okay. sometimes people can’t talk to everyone all the time every time. some people can only talk to one person at a time without getting overloaded. some people are signed on in case someone needs to contact them with something important and not to be social. they’re not always hiding from you, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they HAVE to hide from you.
this is probably jumbled and i’m probably missing a lot here, but pressuring people to always be available to you every hour of the day and always answer the phone or text or chat or pm or whatever…if you require that of someone, you might need to take a step back.
Reminder: There are also actual reasons that some of us may have serious trouble responding to messages at all. And it’s unlikely to be about you unless you are acting like that.
I really don’t want to come across as some kind of antisocial asshole, but notifications popping up still freak me out every time. It goes way beyond “I don’t like IMs”. Seeing that it’s from someone I would want to talk to if I weren’t having a PTSD reaction doesn’t actually make it easier to respond, unfortunately.
No worries for anyone who hasn’t been aware of the problem. I’m still not entirely comfortable talking about it. And I feel bad about just leaving people hanging.
dude i found out that a black girl in my school was literally being poisoned by her white roommate explicitly because shes black. like this bitch was deadass putting mold and bloody tampons and shit like that in her food and lotions and hair stuff. it got so bad that the girl had a constant sore throat that never went away and at one point she couldnt even fucking speak
and the dumb white bitch BRAGGED ABOUT THIS on her insta??? like what a fucking idiot i hope her ass gets arrested and rots in jail. i feel horrible for this girl being assaulted like this just for being black and not knowing the whole time that her roommate was literally killing her
im honestly aghast, and the worst part is that i know the administration at my school is gonna try and sweep this shit under the rug with no punishment for this disgusting racist girl. its so evil and im really furious
ok heres what i know
basically this racist white bitch (dont know her name, but her finsta is @breezy_bumble_b) was roommates with a black girl named jazzy rowe. things were already bad with them, since the racist bitch was clearly racist, so jazzy had recently moved out. a short time ago, said racist bitch posted this comment on her instagram:
im not sure how long it took for the screenshot to reach jazzy, but i know that she said one of her neighbors friends told her. the racist bitch had around 100 followers on her finsta, so the fact that only ONE person contacted jazzy is disgusting to me
jazzy has stated that she was told repeatedly that nothing can be done about this until the school finishes its investigation, and im willing to bet the school will drag this shit on forever to make people forget. the fact that this racist bitch is still going to school here is insane. this is an obvious hate crime and she needs to be arrested for deliberately trying to harm a black student. if i find out anything else about the situation, ill keep you guys posted
edit: i forgot to mention that the school is the university of hartford. it says the school on jazzy’s facebook page, but just in case yall can’t see that
BOOST THIS PLEASE
KILL
Literally poisoning her, how is she not in jail? Evil
As of today, she has been arrested. The university put out a statement and said mugshot would not be released until tomorrow at the earliest.
Brianna Rae Brochu, 18, was arrested on Saturday and charged with third-degree criminal mischief and second-degree breach of peace. Brochu, of Harwinton, was released without having to post bail and is scheduled to appear in Hartford Community Court on Wednesday…
Police did not charge Brochu with a hate crime, but Woodward wrote in his campuswide message that the incident “has brought about accusations of racism, and I want you to know that I hear and share your anger and frustration.
So, two misdemeanor charges after the situation got enough attention, and it sounds like the roommate officially admitted to a lot less than what she had already bragged about doing on Instagram 😒
It’s hard not to come away with the impression that a lot of the ones complaining are really objecting to her talking about the pattern of revolting abuse at all.
Animal rights activist keep your colonial ethics off of our children. Look at yourself and your own complicit-ness in policies that are genocidal and problematic.
He literally fed his whole village. Alaska is known for having very high food prices and he provided for his village. I’m proud of him.
I’m proud of him too. Also bowheads aren’t endangered. At all. Welcome to ethical sources of food.
“…the incident has once again ignited a firestorm of discussion about the prevalence of abusive responses to both gender and racial diversity in the comic book world, and the recent increase in female staffers.
Chelsea Cain, the writer behind the female superhero comic book Mockingbird, left Twitter in October 2016 following months of harassment, while Zainab Akhtar, a British-Muslim writer, closed her Eisner Award-winning comic book journalism site Comics & Cola last year after being deluged with racist, misogynistic abuse via email and social media.“
A selfie among six Marvel colleagues enjoying milkshakes together was followed by a slew of online attacks.
I don’t like the Telegraph but whoever was writing this article nailed it with this line.
““Can we just get off of feminism and social justice and actually print stories,” one person tweeted, to reiterate, in response to women drinking milkshakes.”
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