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disabled ppl deserve to feel loved without having to compromise their health or hide their disability
there’s such a complete lack of compassion when people talk about girls in abusive relationships and it’s like unless you’ve been manipulated and had your self esteem been ruined to pieces by a boy who consistently gaslights you and makes you feel like you’re wrong all the time then please watch ya tone all right, is not something that’s easy to see until you get out and when you’re being abused, you’re not in the optimum state of mind to realise that you need to get out. It’s not easy at all and I don’t think messages like “girls allow themselves to be treated badly by guys” help, bcs no girl is *allowing* themselves to be abused
They’ve been broken down to the point where they don’t see his behaviour as abuse, they see it as love and they romanticise everything he does bcs they don’t know any better and if they do know better, they’re too fucking scared to leave so maybe just relax with the self righteous tone when talking about girls staying in shitty relationships yah
Honestly, people seem much more concerned with patronizingly, accusingly questioning why girls stay(ed) in abusive relationships than they do with those girls’ trauma or bringing abusers to justice. Different version of the same “you deserve this” bullshit those girls are already getting from their abusers. Really fucking helpful.
A conversation on the fluidity of terms, and how to understand and have a productive conversation with a shifting generational gap in trans terminology.
https://twitter.com/LiamDel/status/997677400782585856 – link to convo on twitter
I read this post the other day that said “sometimes people pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty for the things they did to you” and boiiii has that one stuck with me
Hurricane tips I haven’t seen circulating yet
Hey guys if you’re in the path of hurricane Florence and you still need to buy water/bread but everywhere is sold out, here’s some tips.
- Don’t bother with the main grocery stores unless you’ve tried literally everywhere else or you know for sure when they get a shipment. That’s where it runs out first. Don’t even think about going in Walmart. Seriously my friend was in there yesterday and she said it looked worse than black Friday, everything non perishable was running out.
- Try some places no one really thinks to go first when looking for water. The club stores, home improvement, office supply, dollar stores, gas stations, big lots. Even more upscale grocery stores might still have some. I found water yesterday at staples. STAPLES guys, they had a whole pallet left. Some guy came behind me and bought 15 cases. I hope he was on well water. Speaking of…
- IF YOU ARE ON CITY WATER what are you even doing your water will stay on during power outages, buy maybe one pack and then invest in water filters if you’re worried about quality, because PEOPLE WITH WELLS WILL LITERALLY NOT HAVE ANY TAP WHEN IF THE POWER GOES OUT UNLESS THEY HAVE A GENERATOR. Which are also sold out where I am btw.
- If you need bread and it’s just not available here’s some things you can do. Buy dough. Biscuit, croissant, whatever, and go ahead and cook it up and put it in air tight baggies, keep in refrigerator top improve shelf life until power goes out. Or make dough and do the same. You need hardly anything, maybe 5 ingredients. Get frozen dinner rolls, waffles, pancakes and cook them ahead of time and do the same. Tortillas and bagels are just as filling and usually don’t sell out at fast. Crackers can also work for mini sandwiches.
- If you are worried about having enough food obviously grab canned goods if you can find some but may I also recommend Goldfish. Yeah. The kids snack. That stuff is FILLING. If you’re worried about going hungry get a giant box. Have one bowl full in the morning and you’ll be fairly full most of the day. It stays with you.
Well that’s my weird tip list, if you’ve got any hurricane advice feel free to tack it on!
Let’s do some more.
- Flooding. Everybody knows not to drive through water on the roads. Everyone knows this and still people do it. Don’t do it. That’s not an uncommon tip, just putting that as a disclaimer. IF YOU’RE GOING TO BE ON THE ROADS WHEN THERE’S FLOODING, get life jackets for everyone on board and bring something proven strong enough to break your car windows. Practice getting into the life jackets on quickly. If your vehicle gets swept off the road you need to unbuckle, put on the life jacket, break the window, and get out of the car and you need to do it in 45 seconds or less. 30 if possible. Do not drive through water on the roads, but rivers can rise suddenly, and just… be prepared.
- In preparing for storms you can see the best and worst of humanity. People have gotten into fistfights over bottled water in my area, but I’ve also seen so many people giving advice and being helpful. Fear can make monsters of the best of us, and I know this is scary, but take a breath, calm down, and be the best in humanity. I have been giving out these tips to people I see searching for water in sold out stores, I had a lovely conversation with people giving and recieving advice on which phone battery packs to buy, mothers coming to drop their children off with me while I’m at work stop to tell the staff what was going on at the stores they just left and what they’ve heard about new shipments of water. Be the best.
- IF YOU LIVE IN A TRAILER PARK OR APARTMENTS OR ANYWHERE THAT YOUR UTILITIES ARE REGULATED OR BUNDLED check and make SURE whether or not your water will work if the power goes out.
- If you are evacuating keep in mind that once you get out you may not be able to get back in until the flooding goes down. PACK ACCORDINGLY. I’ve seen people saying they only need to pack for 3 days but I would pack for at least a week just in case the roads are flooded that badly.
- It’s possible the winds are gonna be really bad in this one. If you’ve got tools out in the shed bring them in. Stuff like axes, hatchets, chainsaws and extra chains and gas, saws, anything like that, bring it inside the house or attached garage, if, heaven forbid, a limb breaks through a window or a tree falls on part of the house you’re not going to want to hunt for tools. Granted if a full tree falls dead on the house your best option is to get out, but if someone is trapped you’re going to want to get them out as fast as possible.
Imma keep this going again
Bring lawn furniture indoors or put it in the garage or shed (not the plastic or flimsy metal ones those need to be tied down or they’ll blow away)
Fill your bathtub with water for bathing/flushing (this is common but needed advice)
If you have pets, make sure they come indoors and have all the food/water they need
If you are in an area that floods get sandbags, sand bag any low lying doors or openings to try and prevent your home from flooding
Make sure your friends and family in the area are prepared, they may have forgotten something or need help
Be kind, if you see an elderly person who needs help with hurricane prep, help them, the world is too selfish these days
During Harvey the city water became undrinkable due to flooding, buying water IS a good idea.
Besides filling the bathtub for utility uses? You can also fill up clean empty bottles/jugs in advance for drinking and cooking purposes. For people on wells or municipal water supplies, either way.
Storing (especially chlorinated) water for that short a time should generally be fine if you’re starting out with clean water and clean food-safe containers well closed up. No expert here, but that’s what we always did if there was a chance of losing water.
May be useful for backup purposes, in any case.
^^What @spillywolf said.^^
If the power goes out, and you’re on city water, the water will still flow out of the tap, sure (so you can keep flushing the toilet).
But!
Sewage treatment needs electricity to work! If you drink the tap water after the power goes out, you’re drinking only the most crudely filtered sewer water.
Not a good idea. Especially if anyone in your household has a compromised immune system.
(And remember: the recommended amount to stock up is one gallon per person, for three days.)
Always be vague. Say I think they’re in today or not until later. If they press say it’s company policy not to give out the schedule. Most companies do have this and even if they don’t how would a stranger know. Don’t give out specifics, they can get people injured or even killed.
At my last job someone came up and asked when “Sarah” was working next. I didn’t tell him and then texted her a description, turns out he was an abusive ex who had been stalking her. Don’t do this shit please.
I work at a sex shop and this kinda shit happens constantly. when I first started out there was this one girl working here who was pretty and friendly and not good at telling people to fuck off so she had a whole litany of stalkers who would try to get me to tell them when she was in. for random people who I didn’t know anything about I would literally pretend not to know who she was (like “oh, I’m new so I don’t actually know all the girls who work here” all wide-eyed and innocent lmao), but there were some recurring creeps who knew she worked there and wanted her schedule: for those guys I would say I wasn’t permitted to give out that information or that I didn’t know, and if they persisted I’d call them the fuck out, and ban them if they still didn’t back down.
most of the guys after her were easy to spot (it was usually the old creeps who rented stepdaughter porn) but one time it was an 18 year old from the nearby college who said the two of them had plans and he was supposed to meet her there today. I played dumb and got as much info off him as I could by asking him questions under the pretense of conversation. it didn’t take very long for him to expose himself: he started talking about how beautiful she was and how he wanted to date her and when I said “oh, I thought she had a boyfriend?” he said “no, most girls with boyfriends have pictures of them all over social media and she doesn’t have any pictures of a guy on her instagram or facebook, even as far back as 2014” and then he pulled up her instagram profile and started talking about how he’d shown his mom pictures of her and his mom thought she looked “slutty” but he didn’t care. then he hung around the shop for 5 whole hours waiting for her before giving up (she wasn’t even in that day lmao but I let him suffer). I made sure to get his name “so I can tell her if I see her!” and then when he left I contacted camera crew for his picture and messaged the girl about the situation. she didn’t have plans with him. she didn’t know how he got her social media. she was really fucking creeped out. we banned his ass and put his picture on our wall of shame.
stalkers don’t have one easily identifiable look so don’t ever give out your coworkers info, no matter how convincing or benign the person you’re dealing with is. if someone is actually related to or friends with your coworker, they’ll have a way to contact them independent of their job. if possible, also get as much info about the person inquiring as possible so that you can adequately warn your coworker and/or file a report on them. don’t let your friendliness enable stalkers and abusers.
I learned in a Latin Studies class (with a chill white dude professor) that when the Europeans first saw Aztec cities they were stunned by the grid. The Aztecs had city planning and that there was no rational lay out to European cities at the time. No organization.
When the Spanish first arrived in Tenochtitlan (now downtown mexico city) they thought they were dreaming. They had arrived from incredibly unsanitary medieval Europe to a city five times the size of that century’s london with a working sewage system, artificial “floating gardens” (chinampas), a grid system, and aqueducts providing fresh water. Which wasn’t even for drinking! Water from the aqueducts was used for washing and bathing- they preferred using nearby mountain springs for drinking. Hygiene was a huge part if their culture, most people bathed twice a day while the king bathed at least four times a day.
Located on an island in the middle of a lake, they used advanced causeways to allow access to the mainland that could be cut off to let canoes through or to defend the city. The Spanish saw their buildings and towers and thought they were rising out of the water. The city was one of the most advanced societies at the time.Anyone who thinks that Native Americans were the savages instead of the filthy, disease ridden colonizers who appeared on their land is a damn fool.
They’ve also recently discovered a lost Native American city in Kansas called Etzanoa It rivals the size of Cahokia, which was very large as well.
Makes me happy to see people learn about the culture of my country 😀
Also, please remember that the idea of a nomadic or semi-nomadic culture being “less intelligent”, “less civilized” (and please unpack that word) was invented by people who wanted to make a graph where they were on the top.
Societies that functioned without 1) staying exclusively in one location or 2) having to make complicated, difficult-to-construct tools to go about their daily lives… were not somehow less valid than others.
psa
no one fucking tells you this so here it is:
when signing out forms to apply for disability / filling out a form for diagnosis
you’re supposed to fill it out as you on your worst days
like, I filled out forms that said I could do most things usually
like, my doctor added in the conditions like “yeah, they can feed themselves when not stressed” “they can do this when not stressed”
but how I should have filled it out was more like
“some days I can’t feed myself” “some days I can’t leave the house”
My doctor didn’t even know this, but I talked to someone who had worked with people with both developmental and intellectual disabilities for a number of years, and she told me to write down how it is for your bad days
this should be a thing they tell you, but it isn’t
part of the reason I didn’t get my autism diagnosis as soon as I should have is because I filled out forms wrong!
This also goes for filling out forms for disabled parking rights. I’ve been rejected multiple times for a pass cause I didn’t find this out till recently.
Wow
Also you’re generally supposed to fill it out as you are without help.
That throws me too. Because the more help I get, the more capable I get. It’s easy to forget what happens when the help falls away even partially let alone completely.
psa
no one fucking tells you this so here it is:
when signing out forms to apply for disability / filling out a form for diagnosis
you’re supposed to fill it out as you on your worst days
like, I filled out forms that said I could do most things usually
like, my doctor added in the conditions like “yeah, they can feed themselves when not stressed” “they can do this when not stressed”
but how I should have filled it out was more like
“some days I can’t feed myself” “some days I can’t leave the house”
My doctor didn’t even know this, but I talked to someone who had worked with people with both developmental and intellectual disabilities for a number of years, and she told me to write down how it is for your bad days
this should be a thing they tell you, but it isn’t
part of the reason I didn’t get my autism diagnosis as soon as I should have is because I filled out forms wrong!
This also goes for filling out forms for disabled parking rights. I’ve been rejected multiple times for a pass cause I didn’t find this out till recently.
Wow
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