I usually walk everywhere with my headphones on, but I had them in my bag and I was reading a book on my phone instead (I do that when the foot traffic is light). A young Latina was coming down the street as I was coming up the avenue, and when she got to the corner a few paces ahead of me, she turned to walk in the direction I was going. We were traveling at the same speed, but since she was like ten paces ahead and it’s bright outside in the middle of the day, I didn’t feel the need to fall back or slow down to give her more space. At night, I try not to walk too close behind women just so they don’t feel like I’m any sort of threat.
We got to a corner and this dude standing outside of the bodega was like, “Slow down mama where you goin? You don’t have to work today, you can stop and speak.”
She didn’t break her stride. “I’m going to the gym.” The Walk sign was on, so I didn’t break mine either.
A block later, a young guy was coming toward us on the sidewalk riding his bike.
“What’s good shorty?”
She didn’t respond.
“Well you was lookin, you can say something, stuck up bitch.”
We kept walking.
In the middle of the next block, an older man was walking toward us and he put on a friendly smile and said, “Smile young lady, it’s a beautiful day.”
I don’t know if she smiled, but we kept walking. She went into the gym and I kept on toward where I was going thinking about how that was just five minutes of her day. How many other blocks of five minutes are just like that?
Only one of them was truly aggressive. The other two guys seemed nice enough and it felt more like a pleasant compliment. It felt like the kind of thing a guy says who argues with women online about catcalling. “We’re not all bad guys. We can’t even compliment women? We can’t even say something nice?”
No. You really can’t. I was annoyed in that five minutes and I just happened to be walking behind her with no headphones on. Can you imagine those five minutes over and over every day of your life? Nobody wants to be spoken to by strangers day in and day out forever regardless of what they’re saying.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.
Got it, my dudes?
The two guys who weren’t aggressive weren’t even complimenting her. The first was suggesting that she do something he wanted her to do, with no reason why she might given save a strange assumption that she didn’t have anywhere to be. The second just flat-out ordered her to do something he wanted her to do, and the fact that he did so in a pleasant tone of voice is irrelevant. These are not compliments. These are instances of harassment.
look man im a native english speaker and i’ve been mispronouncing a crap ton of words because i never looked up the pronunciation for any of them but if you make fun of how a foreigner pronounces an english word either because of their accent or having never heard that word before i will fucking fight you because english has shitty pronunciation rules and none of them make sense fuck off
You know what, this isn’t a class act. People should understand that it is a baby and babies are fussy and they poop and they cry. If someone is travelling with a baby they have a reason. They shouldn’t need to feel embarrassed because a baby needs to communicate something and is doing so the only way they know how to. Yes, it can be annoying for fellow passengers but for god’s sake, it’s a fucking baby!
These parents were giving a giving a loving home to a baby and they were so worried about upsetting other people they made goody bags for them with an apology note. Now I’m guessing they were in first or business class as this tweeted by Niall Hortan and he has that little blue tick, and I’ve heard of people doing this in economy class flights as well but what about those who don’t have that money to spare and need to travel? Are they not a class act? Do they still deserve you glares and sighs of frustration?
i dont care if theres a genetic basis for being gay. i dont care if trans people’s brains resemble their gender. i don’t care. can we please stop focusing on answering why people arent cishet and more on how to actually stop homophobia and transphobia? because going out of our way to show that trans and gay people are weird variants on “normal” cishets isn’t helping.
why are cishet people so insistent on “solving” gayness and transness anyway? why not just accept us how we are. how’s that for a concept
“I’m very fond of the concept of choice as the basis for sexual preference. This point of view is unpopular in an era in which every claim for gay rights is based on pseudoscientific sulking about how we can’t help being queer; we’re just born that way. Thanks, but I don’t want to receive my civil rights as a charity fuck bequeathed on me by my genetic superiors.”
It’s not like you didn’t see it coming. Socialized medicine doesn’t work.
The majority of universal healthcare systems work just fine as long as they’re funded properly. The NHS has problems because we have a government that consistently cuts the healthcare budget, not because the healthcare system is “socialised” (it’s not, in fact it’s being privatised increasingly and that is where a significant amount of the underfunding and overwork issues are coming from).
Also, the Daily Mail is a borderline far right tabloid and should only ever be taken with the largest pinch of salt.
Capitalist countries love to undercut any and all forms of socialism -domestic or abroad- and then point to the crises they create like “This is why socialism doesn’t work” while capitalism slowly fails around us
They most def found the taxpayer money to fund the wedding…
The daily mail is a right wing shit rag. The NHS in England & Wales is being crippled deliberately by the fascist tory party so they can speed up the privatisation process. This means people are left to die, the NHS is on the brink of an engineered collapse. Fortunately in Scotland the SNP controlled Scottish government has retained most control over the Scottish NHS, which is properly funded and flourishing! The English insist on voting for fascists though…
Unpopular opinion that shouldn’t be unpopular: anti-bullying programs in school that don’t address the root causes of bullying – which are almost invariably larger forms of bigotry and oppression like racism, ableism and homophobia – are completely useless and ultimately futile.
kids get bullied, frequently, because they’re “weird”. but it just so happens that the traits society calls “weird” are overwhelmingly related to poverty, minority religion or ethnicity, neurodivergence, non-straight sexuality, and gender non conformance.
the only countries that have worse healthcare than the US are countries that cant afford it. thats the bottom line. diabetics arent dying because theres an insulin shortage in this country. theyre dying because the government refuses to carry that economic burden to save lives in spite of being fully able to do so.
that is the difference between us and countries with socialized healthcare. able. just unwilling.
discoursers: aces dont belong in the lgbt community go make ur own
ace ppl: *make their own community*
discoursers:
Really bc the only response I’ve seen to “make your own community” is “that’s literally all we want you to do” but ok lol
Idk man,going thru tags like “ace positivity” ,“ace pride” or
ace ppl’s photos on tumblr and reblogging the posts with nasty comments, making and reblogging “ace donald trump/ronald raegan/margaret thatchers/or X horrible person” moodboards(thus equating aces with homophobes/facists)and making and reblogging those “cringey asexual” posts(thereby implying that there is something inherently “cringey” with being ace)really dosent scream “Thats
literally all we want you to do “ to me lmfao.
If the only problem with u is aces “invading” the LGBT+ community then dont demonize asexuality itself and stop erasing and making fun of our struggles which is exactly what 85% of ur blog is about lol
The funny thing is hetmarki says this, but was literally 1 of 4 exclusionists who hopped on a non-discourse post, that was obviously not discourse, by a writer talking about ace headcanons and their own ace characters that got mistagged, and harassed them to the point where the blog’s owner had a relapse.
Tw for talk of genitalia and sex, harassment, relapse mention, mockery, and desexualization of aroace people
So I’m sorry but I don’t exactly believe hetmarki’s “nobody does this, we want you to make your own community”.
They don’t want aces and aros to make their own community for support and validation. They want aces and aros to make a social community that doesn’t acknowledge any kind of systemic marginalization or societal difficulty, because a community based on support acknowledges systemic marginalization exists and therefore begs the question of why it has to be separate from the larger community of marginalized orientations.
They don’t want aces and aros to make a community that looks anything like the larger community (a big reason they whine about meme thievery). They want aces and aros to make a community that reflects their biases about us and only exists for the flag colors and cake jokes they think are all we bother to identify as ace for. They want us to make a community approved by them, and therefore are making efforts to stamp out anything else.
They say “make a community of your own” but they mean “acknowledge that you experience no marginalization and just form a social club like straight people do.” And that’s why they feel justified in shitting all over ace and aro spaces, because those spaces don’t look the way they think they should and – and why they consider ace positivity to be discourse by default, because anything that takes the position of aces and aros being in any way marginalized is, by default, a wrench in their entire position, even when it’s happening away from them, so they show up to stamp it out and tell us to do it over and get it right and admit that we don’t even need our own community at all.
I know everybodys talking about the article but its this tweet itself that makes me lose my shit
tinder link in bio.
JGKJDFHGJDF TINDER LINK IN BIO?
moodest
me: “yo every time you put a hand down my pants my clit feels like a terrified wwi regiment getting buzzed by the red baron”
you: “when will this stigma end”
Gloves, you use gloves, I know this is hard to believe but this is a common situation especially for sex workers, you just put on gloves, I know it’s fun and cool to make fun of femininity (no way that’s rooted in misogyny).
You get gloves, which you should be using with casual partners and partners with skin sensitivity anyway, and you stuff the fingers with cotton fluff.
But yeah, no, I get it, it’s more socially acceptable to hate femininity, and the people who perform it (hint: many trans women have to perform femininity to stay safe).
God, I mean, I say use gloves but you don’t even HAVE TO, you can in fact learn to stimulate a vagina with long nails without protective covers, it just takes some practice but WHATEVER, let’s all just make up random sex myths, that’s never backfired. /sarcasm
For fucks sake, the image literally says “libfem.” If this post chain isn’t 85% radfems, swerfs and terfs in particular, I’ll eat my own fucking ass.
Like, sorry to start fucking screaming, but g o d, I have seen this post so much and it makes me want to claw off my fucking face.
Seriously the first time I saw people laughing over this I was confused because gloves+cotton is a thing that solves the problem easily like what’s the big problem. Honestly stuff like this is why there needs to be comprehensive sex-ed.
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