Tag: probably

lierdumoa:

prokopetz:

The gender-neutral form of “ungentlemanly”/”unladylike” is “unseemly”.

There you go – now you can express your primly understated distaste for someone’s conduct without making any assumptions about their gender.

Uncouth also works.

argumate:

snowyspacestation:

ladyghirahim:

feminnope:

argumate:

the thing is if you arrange a meeting of people in a field in which 80% are men then it is likely that the meeting will also comprise 80% men and any attempts to change that will fall flat until there is a shift in the demographics of the field.

Okay I was picturing this as some kind of gathering in a literal field and it confused the fuck out of me

Dude same. Until I read your comment, and then I had the reread the OP like three times to understand what the hell was going on.

Oh…. Now it makes sense… I reread the original comment so many times assuming it was an actual field

STOP HOLDING CONFERENCES IN FIELDS

Pretty frustrated, since I was hoping to clean the 180L tank, with the free night from Mr. C gone to that work event.

But…one of my toes is not cooperating! Of all things. No idea why I woke up with it hurting, but it is kind of swollen. Everything feels like it’s in joint now, but who knows while I was asleep ¯_(ツ)_/¯

(Best guess unless I have unknowingly started sleepwalking or something. Feels suspiciously like one joint may have stayed dislocated long enough to start swelling, with no other obvious signs of anything wrong.)

I’m usually pretty bad about just pushing on anyway, but the way this is feeling just walking around the house? I don’t want to maybe do further damage to it. Whatever the issue might be, that’s seeming very possible.

Extra annoying when it is something that relatively minor, but hey. Maybe better elevate the foot some.

mercurydaze:

the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive); it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language; it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked. (you can do racist things, you just can’t SAY racist things.) i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like, being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family

pantheris:

kateoplis:

“Boys need to be taught that it doesn’t matter if the girl next to them is in a bikini or a burqa, it’s their job to learn algebra regardless, and how she’s dressed has nothing to do with them.”

“Last Monday morning was a little colder than I expected, so I made sure that there was a warm change of clothes in my daughter’s backpack in case she wanted to change. She’d had her heart set on wearing her rainbow sun dress since the weather warmed up so I finally acquiesced and let her. Still it wasn’t too surprising to me to see her walk out of school that afternoon with her T-shirt on over the dress and her jeans on under it.

“Did you get cold, sweetheart?” I asked her.“No,” she said a little crestfallen. “I had to change because spaghetti straps are against the rules.”

I’m not surprised to see the dress code shaming come into my house. I have after all been sadly waiting for it since the ultrasound tech said, “It’s a girl.” I didn’t think, though that it would make an appearance when she was five years old.

Five. You get me? She’s five. Cut her hair and put her next to a boy with no shirt on and she is fundamentally identical. I guess you could argue that a boy would not be allowed to wear a shirt with spaghetti straps either, but the day they sell anything like that in the boys section of a Target I will happily withdraw my objections.

Have you ever stopped to think how weird a school dress code really is? I went and checked out the one for my daughter’s school district and it’s amazing in how hard it tries not to say what it actually means. There are literally no male-specific guidelines anywhere on that list. I mean prohibitions against exposing the chest or torso could hypothetically apply to boys except that they don’t. Not really. They don’t sell boys clothes that do that. There’s nothing that is marketed to boys that is in anyway comparable to a skirt or a sun dress. Essentially, a school dress code exists to prevent girls from displaying too much of their bodies because reasons.

I didn’t pick up my daughter’s dress at My First Stripperwear. It’s not repurposed fetish gear from a store for very short people. It’s a dress from a mall chain store in her size. It covers everything but her shoulders and a small section of her upper chest and back. She’s worn it to church, and in the growing heat she was looking forward to wearing it a lot because it’s light and comfortable.

You know what really grills my cheese about it? It’s not even the shirt they made her put on over her top, it’s the pants they made her wear underneath. It’s a full-length dress that she has to hold up to keep from getting wet in uncut grass. She even had a small set of shorts underneath because it was gym day. But because the top part of her dress apparently exposed the immoral sinfulness of her bare shoulders she also had to pull on jeans even though her legs remained completely covered as part of her punishment.”

“I swear to God and all his Alf pogs I really didn’t think that I would have to face that particular dragon before she even entered a numbered grade. 

Now I have this child, the one that argues scientific points about everything from the top speed of land animals in Africa to the classification of the planets with me endlessly, wordlessly accepting that a dress with spaghetti straps, something sold in every Walmart in America right now, is somehow bad. Wrong. Naughty. And most importantly that the answer is to cover up.

Make no mistake; every school dress code that is not a set uniform is about policing girls and girls alone.”

Jef Rouner: The Apparently Immoral Shoulders of My FIVE-YEAR-OLD Daughter 

I’m not skimming through the reblogs to see what anyone else has to say, but ISTG that if I see or get ONE comment about “BUH BUH BUH IT TEH ROOLZ!” I will SLAP someone.

1. She’s five.
2. When I was in grade school, girls wore spaghetti-strap tank tops all the time and nobody made a fuss.
3. She’s FIVE.
4. Virtually NOTHING in the “dress code” applies to BOYS, it’s all about punishing GIRLS.
5. SHE’S FUCKING FIVE YEARS OLD. HER MALE CLASSMATES ARE FIVE YEARS OLD.
WHO IS “DISTRACTED” BY A FIVE-YEAR-OLD’S FUCKING SHOULDERS??? (THE
KIND OF ADULTS YOU DON’T. FUCKING. WANT AROUND FIVE-YEAR-OLDS, THAT’S
WHO.)

Source: kateoplis

Still more gratifying than it should be, though, knowing what’s going on there.

Maybe especially with the fun pattern of “dentist inevitably tears your gums all to hell, then makes unflattering assumptions and lectures you about hygiene, is possibly even rougher the next time”. Nope, that’s just how they are because lousy collagen 😵

I really liked the one who was all, “That shouldn’t cause bleeding! *purposely jabs at a few other places with the pointy metal implement to see what happens* *promptly decides it’s my fault I keep bleeding at them* *starts lecturing*”

(Then again, I also ran into one who decided that obvious demineralization from the celiac must also be poor hygiene. That’s not how anything works…)

Ridiculous Annoyance OTD: Forgetting to do a thorough antiseptic mouthwash rinse before I went to bed. Popcorn strikes again! 😬

I should maybe go ahead and try buying some “hulless” variety, with the aggravatingly fragile gums and my apparent inability to stop eating the stuff. When I know full well there’s a decent chance I’ll be feeling it later.

I could tell last night that some inflammation was starting up, and while the rinsing doesn’t totally fix it? It usually calms down a lot faster if I do. Thank you executive function! 🙄

This time it’s making it hard to chew on the one side of the mouth where chewing works. Both the top and the bottom at the back of that side. Annoying, hopefully it will calm down again (and a couple of molars will stop freaking itching too) ASAP. Soft food in the meantime.