My grandpa lives in clarksdale, Mississippi and HATES white people with a passion. I grew up listening to stories like this. His cousins had to flee to Chicago in the 60s for trying to fight a group of white landowners who wanted to hang them for trying to leave the land they worked on.
Slavery turned into “share cropping” if you kept your slaves ignorant and isolated then they didn’t know they had been freed. This went on well into the 60’s the fucking 60’s these people are still alive dealing with this type of shit in the deep south.
My friend said to “fact check” this and I’m like…black ppl are literally saying they were kept as slaves what is there to fact check. Anyway, sharecropping was still slavery as far as I’m concerned.
I did not know this
I didn’t either and it breaks my heart to see stuff like this. To hear of more darkness that was just swept under the rug like this.
Adult, consenting and responsible sex workers deserve and should have safe spaces to advertise and work. A lot of them are in dangerous and abusive situations. They need safety, they need support. They are workers. They are human beings.
These types of sex workers are NOT the same as unconsenting adults caught in sex trafficking, are NOT the same as women or children being coerced into illegal sex work, are NOT synonymous with letting violent and abusive pimps/johns do whatever they want.
These are ABUSE. These are VIOLENCE and disregard to humanity. And there are many variables that may result in these situations AND NOT HAVING A SAFE SPACE TO WORK AND ADVERTISE LEGAL, CONSENTING AND RESPONSIBLE SEX WORK IS ONE OF THEM.
Just like I said about consenting adult and responsible sex workers, children deserve and SHOULD have safe spaces to just exist and develop their own minds and bodies, with the support of adults they can trust with their safety and well-being. And no, that is not to support child sex trafficking. It is to STOP that.
Child sex trafficking happens because adult humans are rotten beings who will abuse their own species for personal gain. We should strive to live in a society with educated adults that understand that children and minors cannot consent to any sexual act. And we should be even harder with the punishment for these crimes. Science and psychology and philosophy prove time and time again, and yet adults don’t make the effort to grasp the gravity of sexual crimes against children.
So, no, my good self absorbed human being: supporting safe spaces for responsible, consenting adults’ sex work is not downplaying any other problematic situations caused by illegal sex work or human sex trafficking. If anything, it would be one of the (several) first steps to solving these problems.
when are we gonna stop using the word “abusive” as a synonym for “just being an asshole”
hate 2 break this 2 yall but the world isnt split up into nice people and abusers. being cruel or manipulative in the absence of an observable pattern of behavior and an established power dynamic isnt abuse. sometimes people are just shitty
This is true – but also, a lot of abusers use this kind of discourse to defend actual abuse (”I know I groped her without her consent and called her a whore and told her she was worthless without me, but those were isolated incidents! We can get past those!”), and as such, I am rather wary of contextless posts decrying a culture where people are supposedly being accused of abuse when they are not, in fact, abusive. In the world we actually live in, it is far more common for people who come forward with stories of abuse being slandered as oversensitive and judgmental. We certainly don’t live in a world where people treat accusations of abuse too seriously or with too much faith.
This. I’m getting really sick of seeing the original post being circulated because, sure, sometimes people are just shitty, but one of the factors that abuse victims/survivors have a problem with is whether or not the abuse happened or whether or not it was *really* abuse, and believe me, in the beginning, stuff like this was horribly invalidating. You really, *really* need context to separate abuse v. shitty people and I don’t see that in the original post.
Coming at this from a slightly different angle, there is no special monstrous category of Abusers™ who can be readily distinguished from Just Plain Assholes at a glance.
There’s a continuum of treating other people disrespectfully, with degrees of power to do serious damage with that shitty behavior. None of it is right. None of it is inevitable. It all hurts people.
And just because an asshole isn’t in a position of power to establish abusive patterns of behavior over one person? That doesn’t mean they’re not doing so wherever they can get away with it. We already know they’re treating people like shit; that’s not even in question.
I am very suspicious of efforts to draw sharp divisions there, including for some of the reasons already brought up.
It is also very similar to some of the very unhelpful framing around sexually predatory behavior which has been getting more attention again lately, with Real Rapists™ as this category somehow separate from “just” people engaging in terrible behavior.
Doesn’t help anyone who is not treating other people that way, and it gives them cover.
It’s actually sadly ironic that this happened to my sister one time? We were at my mom’s friend’s house, and my sister asked for pepper, and my mom’s friend put pepper on her plate and then just….. kept putting pepper on it until it was completely covered, even though my sister and his wife kept telling him to stop.
– “no men are criticizing the judge, you’re making up something to be mad about”
– men criticizing the judge
The judge did say some very fine things, however, the one thing I have seen her criticised for is this: ‘‘Our Constitution does not allow for cruel and unusual punishment. If it did, I have to say, I might allow what he did to all of these beautiful souls, these young women in their childhood, I would allow some or many people to do to him what he did to others.’’ – source
Which is basically advocating rape/abuse as punishment.
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My name is Almond, I am non binary and use they/he pronouns. I was recently kicked out of my mother’s home in Redding, CA because she is under a lot of stress and doesn’t want me living with her. She deals with mental illness and has a difficult time not taking it out on me. Over the past year she has continually kicked me out, then begged me to come home using manipulative tactics like threatening to get rid of my dog (who is my emotional support animal), only to kick me out again. There have been times that I’ve left to go out with my friends and she’s texted me telling me that I left my bedroom messy and to never come home again. My dog was abandoned and I rescued her, so it causes extreme stress and trauma for her when my mother constantly separates her and I. I need a living situation where I don’t have to be scared leaving that I might not be allowed home again and where my dog and I will not have to be separated. I was also recently r*ped by someone who is widely known and loved in Redding and I am scared to out him when everyone loves him and will side with him. What he did to me has scared me and disgusted me to the point that I can’t eat or sleep and I don’t even want to go out in public because I’m scared I’ll run into him. My dog and I are currently staying with my grandmother who will be moving to Iowa on February 12th. When my grandmother leaves I am not sure where I will go. The goal is to find a room to rent in Chico with my best friend, J (who is living in an abusive household and needs to escape) but neither of us has the money. J has a job in Chico but is given very few hours and makes very little, so they are searching for a second job and trying to sell things of theirs. I am currently trying to sell my car, and any other items I have that are of worth. I am working hard to find a job in Chico and have a few leads, but until I am working the truth is that I have absolutely no money to sustain myself or my dog. I need this money to help J and I get an apartment and support myself and my pup until I am on my feet. I feel terrible asking for help from people, but I am in a really difficult situation and I am stuck. If you would like to donate or even give words of encouragement it is extremely appreciated. Once again I am so sorry, I would not be asking for help if I didn’t truly need it. Thank you❤️
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My name is Almond, I am non binary and use they/he pronouns. I was recently kicked out of my mother’s home in Redding, CA because she is under a lot of stress and doesn’t want me living with her. She deals with mental illness and has a difficult time not taking it out on me. Over the past year she has continually kicked me out, then begged me to come home using manipulative tactics like threatening to get rid of my dog (who is my emotional support animal), only to kick me out again. There have been times that I’ve left to go out with my friends and she’s texted me telling me that I left my bedroom messy and to never come home again. My dog was abandoned and I rescued her, so it causes extreme stress and trauma for her when my mother constantly separates her and I. I need a living situation where I don’t have to be scared leaving that I might not be allowed home again and where my dog and I will not have to be separated. I was also recently r*ped by someone who is widely known and loved in Redding and I am scared to out him when everyone loves him and will side with him. What he did to me has scared me and disgusted me to the point that I can’t eat or sleep and I don’t even want to go out in public because I’m scared I’ll run into him. My dog and I are currently staying with my grandmother who will be moving to Iowa on February 12th. When my grandmother leaves I am not sure where I will go. The goal is to find a room to rent in Chico with my best friend, J (who is living in an abusive household and needs to escape) but neither of us has the money. J has a job in Chico but is given very few hours and makes very little, so they are searching for a second job and trying to sell things of theirs. I am currently trying to sell my car, and any other items I have that are of worth. I am working hard to find a job in Chico and have a few leads, but until I am working the truth is that I have absolutely no money to sustain myself or my dog. I need this money to help J and I get an apartment and support myself and my pup until I am on my feet. I feel terrible asking for help from people, but I am in a really difficult situation and I am stuck. If you would like to donate or even give words of encouragement it is extremely appreciated. Once again I am so sorry, I would not be asking for help if I didn’t truly need it. Thank you❤️
Don’t get me wrong, I really really hope that rapists will face more accountability there.
I just get so tired of people in the exact same former colonial powers that helped create some terrible situations tutting over the “backwards” results. It’s so much easier than looking at some of the reasons why things are the way they are now.
short version tho: I agree with the criticism that liberal ideas of rights/utility/etc were defined by rich white straight men, and that this is Problematic.
(I’d say Kant and Bentham in particular come at moral philosophy from an autistic standpoint, but clearly not one that’s grounded in a strong anti-ableist politics, and in fact they are both a very good example of how standpoint affects philosophical conclusions even if you ignore any special knowledge people get about oppression. anyway. tangent.)
I suspect if you asked the average Enlightenment-era woman, the right to not be raped would make the fundamental rights list and the right to privacy would not. and I think it is clearly true that e.g. the right to privacy has been used to protect men who hit or rape their wives, because that’s private business and the state shouldn’t interfere with it
however, I think that going “actually, no, this applies to everyone” is very powerful. there’s a reason Bentham thought sodomy should be legal. the right to privacy has also been used to overturn anti-sodomy laws, protect the medical privacy of trans and disabled people, and (most famously) to protect women’s right to contraception and abortion. even if the original theorizers of the right to privacy were thinking more about how the government should let them rape their wives, the effects of the right to privacy are clearly liberatory
in particular, free speech and the right to vote and so on are vitally important because they allow oppressed groups to speak out. liberalism has a self-correction mechanism. “being sexually harassed at work makes it hard to get your job done” was a fact we used to not know and now we know it, and I think this is actually 100% caused by liberalism working the way it should
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