This is a post aimed at me and other people who constantly fall into guilt spirals over all the things they can’t do, and feel they should somehow magically be able to do anyway.
For me, and for the others, this is a gentle reminder:
– Posts asking for monetary donations are speaking to people who have money. Not your broke ass, still worrying how to buy food next month.
– Posts asking you to care about [extreme injustice of the day] are speaking to people who have energy to care. Not you, hanging onto your sanity by the fingernails.
And, most importantly: posts telling you that you are horrible/cheap/awful/rude/unworthy/unlikable if you don’t pay/reblog/signal boost/care? Those posts can fucking die in a fire.
TL;DR: Posts asking for shit you are not physically or mentally able to give?
THOSE POSTS ARE NOT FOR YOU.
Tag: reminder
you’re not selfish for wanting to be treated well
a gentle reminder that you aren’t a disappointment. you aren’t a failure. no one knows how hard u try and you’re doing so well. you deserve so much better.
Reminder that your worth shouldn’t be determined by how useful you are to someone else! Your friends and loved ones should love you for who you are, not for what you do for them. Don’t let yourself be taken for granted because you are so special. You’re a treasure, you should be cherished by them!
No one should love you despite yourself or your body.
No one is doing you a favor by loving you.
You are not a favor. You are everything.
You deserve full, unreserved love.
People who really love you– they will love all of you.
It’s ok to be fat.
Just a reminder, but you do not need to “earn” being tired.
You’re allowed to be tired, even if you haven’t “done” anything and you’re allowed to be tired even if you did less than someone else.
Being tired is a normal thing your body does for a whole plethora of reasons, and is a basic bodily function. You don’t need to “earn” basic bodily functions, no matter what anyone else tells you.
There’s NEVER a no-reason tiredness. You might not have done much today, but you’re still tired because you’ve been running yourself ragged on a shitty sleep schedule for the past three weeks, and you think you’re used to it, but the second you have a day off, your body is like FINALLY MOTHERFUCKER, IT’S BEDTIME. Or maybe there’s a cold that’s been ever so slowly brewing, and your body is tired from fighting that off. Your brain uses about 20% of your oxygen and calories throughout the day. Maybe you’ve had a lot on your mind, not to mention the fatiguing effects of stress. And all this is just shit able-bodied folks go through, there are dozens of chronic conditions and disabilities that shrink that energy pool even before these factors strike. No matter the reason, if your body is tired, that’s your cue to rest.
It’s ok to be ill.
It’s ok to be disabled.
It’s ok to be fat and disabled or fat and chronically ill.
It’s ok.
Here’s an unpopular opinion that shouldn’t be unpopular: Not wanting sex is a reasonable boundary to set for literally any reason. Be it your trauma, your mental health, your sexuality, or any other factor. Your partners should respect that and they should respect you. This shouldn’t be a debate.
Any reason, or no reason. “I don’t want to” is enough
To any autistics who’ve been told you’re “paranoid” for thinking people dislike you
“Individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), including those who otherwise require less support, face difficulties in everyday social interactions.
“Research in this area has primarily focused on identifying the cognitive and neurological differences that contribute to these social impairments, but social interaction by definition involves more than one person; social difficulties may arise not just from people with ASD themselves, but also from the perceptions, judgments, and social decisions made by those around them.
“Here, across three studies, we find that first impressions of individuals with ASD made from thin slices of real-world social behavior by typically-developing observers are not only far less favorable across a range of trait judgments compared to controls, but also are associated with reduced intentions to pursue social interaction. These patterns are remarkably robust, occur within seconds, do not change with increased exposure, and persist across both child and adult age groups. However, these biases disappear when impressions are based on conversational content lacking audio-visual cues, suggesting that style, not substance, drives negative impressions of ASD.
“Collectively, these findings advocate for a broader perspective of social difficulties in ASD that considers both the individual’s impairments and the biases of potential social partners.”
Neurotypical Peers are Less Willing to Interact with Those with Autism based on Thin Slice Judgments
i read the sentence “abusers groom their character witnesses as carefully as they groom their victims” (in a comment thread in response to a “but i know [the accused] and hes such a nice man!!”) and it’s blowing my mind a weird amount even though i guess i already knew that
Urocyon's Jaunts 2.0 
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