Tag: reminder

notesforselflove:

You did nothing wrong.

The abuse was not your fault.

You are not to blame for how you were treated.

You did not deserve it.

You did nothing wrong.

The abuse was not your fault.

You are not to blame for how you were treated.

You did not deserve it.

instanteternity:

haiku-robot:

roseverdict:

meeresfem:

hobbitsaarebas:

gothiccharmschool:

biwomensupport:

voidbat:

stimmyabby:

You don’t have to be grateful that it isn’t worse.

read that.

read it again, and again, and again.

somebody, somewhere, always has it worse than you. there is one person on this planet that has it the worst of all, and that person is NOT the only person allowed to be unhappy with their lot.

if things are bad for you, they are bad for you. period.

This goes for trauma as well. A lot of times survivors get trapped in a cycle of  minimizing/diminishing their trauma because “other people have it worse” – but there is no hierarchy of trauma. There is no ranking system for which traumas are “better” or “worse.” Your trauma is valid. Period.

IMPORTANT TRUTHS.

As a therapist, lemme just say: almost every trauma survivor I’ve ever had has at some point said “But I didn’t have it as bad as some people” and then talked about how other types of trauma are worse. Even my most-traumatized, most-abused, most psychologically-injured clients say this. 

The ones who were cheated on, abandoned, and neglected say this. The ones who were in dangerous accidents/disasters say this. The ones who were horrifyingly sexually abused say this. The ones who were brutally beaten say this. The ones who were psychologically tortured for decades say this. What does that tell you? That one of the typical side-effects of trauma is to make you believe that you are unworthy of care. 

Don’t buy into it, because it’s nonsense. It doesn’t matter if someone else had it “worse.” Every person who experiences a trauma deserves to get the attention and care they need to heal from it. 

“one of the typical side-effects of trauma is to make you believe that you are unworthy of care.”

SO true.

just because someone broke their arm doesn’t mean you have to deal with wrist pain

just because someone
broke their arm doesn’t mean you have
to deal with wrist pain

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Reminder!!

lesbibodypositive:

Eating is good. 

Food is good. 

Take a deep breath. We’re all human. We need energy.

You need to eat to stay alive.

If you have a tummy and/or thick thighs you deserve to eat.

If you’re thin you deserve to eat.

If you have an eating disorder or bad body image you deserve to eat.

If you ate a lot yesterday you deserve to eat.

If you ate a lot today you deserve to eat.

If you’re hungry you need to eat.

If you’re not hungry but haven’t eaten in a while you need to eat.

No matter what, you need to eat.

chronically-something:

all-my-secrets-in-a-pickle-jar:

ok you know what I am officially sick of? – all these “inspirational” stories and anecdotes about disabled or chronically ill people still kicking ass and taking names.. like the one story that keeps going across my dash about the woman with breast cancer but she “didn’t let it stop her” .. well guess fucking what. It’s okay if a sickness stops you: sometimes it happens. It’s okay if you can’t get out of bed because of your illness: you’re still amazing. We don’t often hear enough about people whose superpower is surviving, but that’s what a lot of us have to do .. just focus on surviving. We take each day as it comes and sometimes, just taking a walk around the block is a big fucking deal. Don’t underestimate someone else’s struggle. Don’t expect a person to live up to anyone else’s ideals. Just stop. If someone needs to take a break, let them. If someone needs to cancel plans because of their illness or disability, let them. Stop giving them crap and comparing them to other people who have more spoons.

THIS

‘Fake It Till You Make It’ Doesn’t Work With Chronic Illness

chronically-illustrated:

thatchronicfeeling:

Instead, the options are:

‘Fake It Till You Are So Ill You Can’t Get Out Of Bed’

‘Fake It Till You Have A Flare’

‘Fake It Till You Have A Flare, Continue To Fake It Till You’re Hospitalised‘

OR

‘Accept That You Have One Or More Chronic Illnesses, Adapt Accordingly And Look After Yourself’

This is really important. I grew up believing I had to just use mind over matter to power past my symptoms, and that eventually led to a complete mental and physical breakdown that left me unable to walk on my own for a month. We really need to get rid of the idea that people aren’t trying hard enough if they don’t push themselves to the breaking point. It can be really harmful to pretend you’re okay when you’re not, especially if you’re struggling with chronic illnesses. It’s okay to accept that you have limitations and set boundaries so you’re not hurting yourself trying to keep up with able-bodied people.

fight-until-the-wars-done:

Friendly reminder, you are allowed to break. You are allowed to ask for help. We were not created to rely solely on ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, you can save yourself, and you can be your own hero, but it’s also perfectly ok to drop your guard, crumble, and have someone pick up the pieces and put them back together. You don’t have to fight alone. It’s ok to let someone fight for you, along side of you. You don’t have to be strong all the time. Let someone pick up your pieces. It doesn’t make you weak. Stronger together. 

chromalogue:

sheabutterbitch:

Here to remind you that doing your best does not mean pushing yourself to your limits. There are times where we’re met with objectives that we were unable to accomolish despite having “done our best” … which usually means that we’ve pushed ourselves to our limits and have perhaps even exceeded them. This practice is harmful and unfair to yourself.

When I say, “I did my best,” I do not mean that I pushed myself excessively or that I ignored my limitations. It means that I did everything I could do, excluding anything that could have jeopardized my mental health and emotional stability. Too often, do we feel that we didn’t do “enough” because we didn’t reach our breaking points whilst fulfilling an objective. This way of thinking usually arises when we fail at tasks, it is violent thinking that needs to be unlearned. You shouldn’t have to break yourself.

“You shouldn’t have to break yourself.”

tiredtrauma:

Having a disability or a chronic illness, whether it’s physical or mental, sucks rocks sometimes. And that’s okay.

It’s okay to say “this fucking sucks”

It’s okay to say “I hate this”

It’s okay to think negatively, to have a bad day. Nobody can be positive 24/7

You have the right to be angry, or frustrated, or sad. That doesn’t mean you are dealing with things badly, that doesn’t mean you have been set back, that doesn’t make you a bad person.

You are allowed to complain about things that make your life difficult.