Honestly, I do get concerned about my partner’s drinking sometimes. I’d be a lot more worried if it happened more often, but he really doesn’t seem to have a lot of brakes once he does get started.
(And, as I have commented before, that also seems to be a major socially acceptable pressure release valve to the point that he can even talk much about what’s been bothering him. I have plenty of my own shit going on, but being wound that tight can’t be good for a person even without overdoing the booze to cope.)
And pub culture here really does not help with that. Thinking again with the extended pub crawl with people from work. After several hours with an open bar at that work dinner đ±
I don’t even want to bring it up unless it should turn into a more frequent thing. Which it hasn’t since we got together. But, he was in quite a shape getting home tonight.
I am unfortunately reminded again of that one Norwegian dude some years back who tried to hit on me by going on about how much the old Norse liked big strong women! Complete with arm squeezes and his retellings of a couple of parts of sagas.
It at least had the benefit of novelty. Never heard anything quite like that before or again.
He was pretty drunk at the time, but I still had to wonder how this approach had worked out for him in the past. (Because it didnât sound like the first try.) Obviously not great at taking hints, but geez.
Funnier in retrospect. At the time I had to get amused, but the situation was also extra awkward because he was one of a few people over at our house and I couldnât just get away without making a scene. Maybe less hesitant to do that now, but hey.
I don’t remember if that time the guy was living in London yet, or if it was on a work trip. In any case, the extent of his relationship with Mr. C seemed to be “vaguely friendly Fellow Scandawegian Tech Person”.
Anyway, he was living in London when I made the mistake of going along when they met up at a pub a while after that. So, he acted low-boundary creepy most of the evening–before inviting us both to stay over at his new place sometime soon!
With eyebrow-waggling levels of subtlety. I think he did actually say something about putting on some music and seeing what happened đ
Mr. C seemed to take that invitation at platonic face value a lot more than I did. Let’s just put it that way. I was just glad that was framed as a future invitation, and he wasn’t trying to get us over there right then. Awkward enough as it was.
There’s no real problem with asking, I suppose. Even if people have not indicated any obvious interest whatsoever up to that point.
But, there are ways and then there are ways. That guy’s ways were low-boundary creepy enough in general that I have just avoided him since then.
I am unfortunately reminded again of that one Norwegian dude some years back who tried to hit on me by going on about how much the old Norse liked big strong women! Complete with arm squeezes and his retellings of a couple of parts of sagas.
It at least had the benefit of novelty. Never heard anything quite like that before or again.
He was pretty drunk at the time, but I still had to wonder how this approach had worked out for him in the past. (Because it didn’t sound like the first try.) Obviously not great at taking hints, but geez.
Funnier in retrospect. At the time I had to get amused, but the situation was also extra awkward because he was one of a few people over at our house and I couldn’t just get away without making a scene. Maybe less hesitant to do that now, but hey.
Tip: If you absolutely cannot go about your business without packing, please invest in a suitable holster. DO NOT walk around with a pistol jammed into your waistband, no matter what movies might suggest. Your own groin might thank you later, besides possibly other people in your vicinity đ”
A white man was throwing racial slurs at a Black FedEx Driver. He started Punching the driver, the FedEx driver punched him back one time, killing the man with One Punch.
He wont be indicted for the racist scumbags death either! Win!
Magnusonâs death from the fall was precipitated by âextremely poor health,â a medical examiner concluded, and the punch itself was not fatal, Senior Deputy District Attorney Adam Gibbs wrote.
Warren was within his legal right to challenge Magnusonâs âracist vitriol,â Gibbs noted, and said that Warrenâs decision to confront Magnuson â rather than ignore him â was not legally significant.
Please keep up this energy of racists dropping dead on my dash.
I feel bad for the driver. Even though the guy was a racist, Iâm sure he didnât wake up that day wanting to kill someone. He just wanted to be left alone to do his job.
âHe fails at the simplest gestures of courtesy, from walking in front of the queen of England to his refusal to fly the flag at half-staff after John McCainâs death. At a listening session with survivors of a school shooting, he needed a note card saying âI hear youâ to remind himself to pretend to listen to them. Curiously, Trumpâs social autism is the source of his appeal. A Pew survey found that what Trumpâs supporters like most about him is his personality, not his policies. They like his personality more than his policies for the same reason that men like the sex scenes in pornography more than the plots: Vulgarity is the point.â
One of my old partners got pulled in for an investigation today. The photo is not of him – itâs of a paramedic in California trying to eat something for the first time in nearly ten hours.
My old partner was told that a member of the public took photos of him and his current partner. My buddy was sleeping, and his partner was eating. This member of the public sent the photos with an email that both complained about how âunprofessionalâ it appeared – and a threat to send the photos to the media.
Thanks to Prop 11 in California, first responders no longer have a right to breaks. AMR lied to the public in a huge way. California was the only state where emergency crews had been granted a legal right to breaks to use the latrine and have a meal. Shifts run a minimum of 12 hours, often 24, and AMR runs their crews into the ground.
My buddy and his partner are in trouble because they were trying to get rest and food while posted on a street corner because we donât get breaks. This is what AMR tells us to do. Please donât see something like this and assume that weâre being lazy or not doing our jobs. Donât take photos or send them to the press. That crew is probably exhausted and overworked.
Not to mention they hold us 911 coverage units over regularly âfor just one last transfer call that will be really quick.â When there are plenty of transfer only units posted at hospitals doing nothing at the beginning of their shifts. It also tanks our levels and leaves a lot of the city uncovered for emergency calls.
The thing is everytime you complain about something like people taking breaks, itâs not that you gain something from It, you just make life worse for other people. How about minding your own damn business?
Seems like common sense that people doing a high-stress job that requires a lot of good judgement on matters of life and death should be able to eat and piss when they need to
Excuse me. I want the people responsible for saving my life to be tired hungry and thinking only that their bladder is going to explode. It makes me feel like they care.
concept: letâs go to bed at 9pm instead of 3am. letâs drink more water for our bodily health and less coffee the aesthetic. letâs not skip breakfast because itâs worth running a little behind even if itâs just some fruit or cereal. letâs go socialize even if weâre kinda nervous. letâs love ourselves when we feel down, because flaws are not the end of the world. letâs work hard but take breaks in between instead of procrastinating and then rushing. letâs ignore what people who donât know us have to say about us behind our backs. letâs be kind to each other because weâre all trying here. letâs hype up being mentally healthy rather than being perfect. letâs live our lives like we want to.
just a thought.
But i dont wanna
too bad
Get in loser, weâre going THRIVING
Ah, yes. The âIf youâre not a morning person youâre unhealthy and lazy and should make an effort to become oneâ line.
I agree with everything else, but people have naturally different circadian rhythms. Period.
I canât do most of this.
I would end up sick if I tried to sleep on that schedule. I was sick when I tried to get up at 5am 5-6 days a weekâŠI was literally made QUITE ill. (There are also people who would have the same problem if they tried to, say, stay up until 2am).
And not everyone can work hard. âProcrastinating and then rushingâ is lit. a symptom of ADD/ADHD.
IOW, the OP is being just a bit ableist. Theyâre making ableist assumptions âPeople who procrastinate or sleep inâ are lazy. Loving yourself when you feel down is real hard for people who are actually depressedâŠ
One of my recent purchases:
Meanwhile, back home:
I mostly did a quick comparison out of curiosity, because I remembered it being like 2-3 pint bottles for $1 when I was last buying any. About the same price still. Figured it couldn’t be much more now, and definitely not around 20x as expensive đš
This time I was specifically wanting some for a skin problem, and to dilute for a mouth rinse. Best thing I’ve found for some uses. (And it’s not going to turn your teeth brown like the chlorhexidine they push for any kind of gum problems here… đŠ)
And I would rather avoid unnecessary additional ingredients which might cause more irritation. (There is one Peroxyl mouthwash formulation available, but yeah. It’s more expensive, besides the extra crap I don’t want.)
I may have been able to find some plain peroxide a little cheaper somewhere else, but possibly not by that much. It’s barely used as an antiseptic here, and IME really is not worth the hassle of trying to buy in person. Which really surprised me the first time I tried.
Maybe my favorite comment I ran across on another site, though:
There are some very dangerous uses for hydrogen peroxide, using it to clean a cut is a very strange idea. I would not like to be the one helping OP to obtain it.
That would be in reference to another American looking for the 3% stuff to treat a cut. It would be very difficult indeed to do anything nefarious with that weak a solution, even if someone wanted to try.
Reminds me of when my first GP here was appalled to hear that I’d regularly been taking Benadryl, because it is “a powerful sedative” đ€ Including with the attitude. (No joke. Turned out they only sell diphenhydramine as a Nytol/Sominex here, in small boxes behind the pharmacy counter.)
Oh yeah, I also had no trouble buying the 40-volume hair kind at Sally’s before. No questions whatsoever. Shame that’s not something I would want to use except for hair.
Impressive differences sometimes, yeah. And it’s definitely not just the US that’s prone to weird panics. Unfortunately.
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