TERFs are not unfairly labeled. They are labeled thusly because they actively refuse to recognize the rights and identity of trans women. Personal preferences or attractions do not in any way have to detract from another individual’s gender identity. You say “same sex attraction” and “not being inclusive enough to the other sex” and these alone illustrate that you view trans women as not being women. Which means that you have categorized people based on your own desires, and not along the lines of what is productive or beneficial to the world or others.
The population of women on earth contains tremendous variety. Let us say for the sake of argument, that you are only attracted to brunettes who are tall and thin, or blondes who are curvaceous. You prefer that “type” among the population, but you don’t then say only those who match your preference are women. You don’t point to every woman in the world but the ones you like and dehumanize them, call them infiltrators, mock them, or accuse them of being men “muscling in” on a female space. Women who don’t match your ideal are still women, and perhaps you don’t prefer that type or that sort or that look, but you have no right to question their femininity, just as no one else has the right to question yours.
The way you have addressed the topic of the TERF label–outlining it as if it is an unfair slight against you, when in fact you appear to have earned the moniker, remind me of how racists sound. “Oh poor us, I’m so upset! I don’t think the races should mix, and I have a right to say that, but when I do I’m unfairly labeled as a racist! I don’t hate black people! I just don’t think they should be spending time with my kids. And it’s so unfair that black people can talk about black pride, when I can’t say white pride without being labeled a racist.” Well, now…see here…that is precisely what makes a racist–the predisposition to see others as being lesser or different simply along the lines of skin color. Lesbians aren’t being victimized by trans women. Lesbians aren’t being secretly undermined by trans pride movements. Your dislike of or division from trans women is drawn very simply along the lines of “They’re actually men and isn’t that disgusting?” and has absolutely nothing to do with them. Your perception and your selfishness are preventing you from being at peace with others and allowing them to be at peace with themselves.
You have the ability to make someone else feel accepted and loved, and all it requires is
that you try and see things a bit differently and expand your
definitions. Instead, you’d rather be small and keep the world strictly
categorized in all these tiny narcissistic packages, when in fact, there
is vast complexity to all of it, and you have no business playing the
gatekeepers of femininity. Those constructs don’t have gatekeepers. You
don’t have the right to play one because you happen to be a “woman” who
also likes “women” and so of course, is the only authority on what
constitutes “womanhood”.When you exclude someone, you are excluding them. Plain and simple. You are keeping them out. That’s you. Doing that. When you don’t have to. You can simply stop. It’s not as if you’re the only one who sees a universal truth. It’s actually simply a case of you refusing to change your own mind. Life is too short and too complicated to be the playground of your ego. You are not entitled to define everyone else for them or tell them which spaces are theirs. And frankly, you’ll be dead some day quite soon and are spending far too much energy on such mindless discrimination.
So, I’m afraid you’ll get no sympathy from me, no matter how you try to phrase your pathos. I routinely switch genders at will. I dress according to my desires or my personal feelings at any given time, and more than once I’ve encountered TERFs who believe me to “actually be a man” “pretending to be a woman” or gay men who think I am a trans man. I have no sympathy for rudeness, for exclusion, for a breech of simple decorum. I have been called every name in the book, and all because of the inaccurate perceptions of others. I find such behaviors disgusting and truly on e of the vilest attributes of humanity.
If you cannot accept trans women as being women, albeit women to whom you aren’t attracted, then I have very little respect for you as a person. In fact, I’m fairly certain I’ve learned all I need to know about you. So unless you’re willing to rethink that position, you can see your way off my blog.
We accept people in my little corner. In fact, acceptance is the entire purpose of this blog.
I might also mention that expanding your notion of “woman” does not in any way detract from your own femininity. Including trans women doesn’t make you less female, in the same way that including gay marriage in the definition of marriage in no way detracts from the sanctity of the act. These are merely excuses to denounce others.
Tag: terfery
the first “wtf?” moment that lead to me to clocking one of my sibling’s MTF girlfriends was when she ate a quesadilla I made and said “wow that was really great! how do you make that?” like is there a college aged woman who thinks quesadillas are a mystery?
what does this mean
all women are conditioned to make quesadillas
women are defined by their biological ability to make quesadillas, it is from this that their oppression stems.
oh no how are yall gonna reblog this classic without the twist ending… that the chick was just being nice to her and lying that they were good because the terfsadillas were made with hummus…
HUMMUS!??????
FUCKING HUMMUS?????
You “feel like a woman”? Really ? Do you ?
Did you grow up thinking your future was being locked up in a house pregnant ? Did you grow up thinking having sex would hurt ? Did you grow up thinking you would either be a prude or a slut? Did you grow up thinking your body was wrong and ugly? Did you grow up wondering what was happening to your body because no one talks about female puberty ? Did you grow up knowing you would have to shave your body hair ? When you were a kid, were you ever called “bossy” for having an opinion ? Did they ever tell you you “would change your mind” if you didn’t want to get married and have children ? Did boys harass you at fucking primary school ? Did they tell you you were ugly? Did they ask before they touched your body ? Have you ever started your day and suddenly had a panic attack because you realized you forgot to put make up on or you forgot to shave ? Have you ever starved yourself to the point of passing out because you were “fat”? Have you ever had to sleep less because you had to : Do your make up, do your hair, choose outfit, work out ? Have you ever wondered if you would end up being stoned to death ? Married to an unknown older guy who would rape you ? Have you ever feared to be raped ? Well know what ? I’m scared to be raped AGAIN. Have you ever walked on the streets, hoping no one would harass / rape / kill you ? Have you ever used public transportations without being scared to death of the men around you ? Did you ever have to wear uncomfortable outfits and shoes ? Have you ever feared for your life for simply going out with friends ? Have you ever feared for your life when a man harassed you ? Not knowing how to get rid off him ? Have your boss ever touched your ass? Kissed you ? Do you have to hear that women are ugly and dumb several times a day, everyday ? From your relatives, your dad, your brother, your uncle, your son?
You might pass as a woman because you perform well the shitty fetishes of men. But you know what ? I’ve gone through all these things, I still do. Whether I’m feminine or not. Because I’m not hated and treated like an object based on my clothes. It happens because men hate women.
So trans women aren’t women because you’re paranoid?
Your abuse has nothing to do with what other people need to do in order to not kill themselves.
Also not all females grew up with the same shitty expectations you were. There is very little “universal female experience”- a lot of what you listed tends to be limited to a specific socioeconomic class, a specific subculture, or a specific situation (abusive family members).
GET OVER YOURSELF.
IS that what being a woman feels like?
Maybe I do feel like a man, then.
Umh… that is probably the worst TERF argument I’ve ever seen. Are you saying you’re not a woman unless you’ve lived your entire life being abused and/or fearing abuse? That’s such a weird fucked up thing to say on so many levels I don’t even know where to start unpacking this.
It makes sense in TERF, I think.
Because the whole underpinning of terfiness, as I understand it, is that genders aren’t real things people have, they’re social classes. They’re a system of social control designed to exploit the weaker group for the benefit and amusement of the more powerful one.
The more powerful one is called “men” and the less powerful one is called “women.”
So, since “woman” just means “member of the exploited class,” “what it feels like to be a woman” isn’t about femininity or comfort in one’s own body or other things like that.
The only thing you experience “as a woman” is exploitation, so when you feel especially woman-y, you either feel afraid or angry.
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