Tag: too often

fierceawakening:

vbatheflyinghead:

Okay, listen. Private and Personal can often mean the same thing
“Private” can apply to either a group or an individual.
“Personal” can apply to only an individual. 

So you can see how people could get confused.

And the Private/Personal distinctions is done by the  Marxist,Socialist,and Anarchist schools of thinking.
So not everyone is going to understand it. Because you are the one making that distinction.

Also… abolishing Private property isn’t a fix all solve all because owning a land (private property) isn’t something that ONLY capitalists do.
small peopole also do it. Someone’s home, and the land of a small farmer.

Thank you.

Also… maybe I’m underestimating communists here but I really, really, really would not be surprised if “personal property” Just Kinda Ended Up defined in such a way that owning durable medical equipment or assistive technology was Wrong or at least We’re Gonna Look At You Like You Did Something Immoral (because to nondisabled people, it would mean “owning something very valuable when others don’t.”)

Source: left-reminders

tiredtrauma:

Just because you’re young doesn’t mean you can’t have physical problems.

Just because you’re young doesn’t mean you can’t be disabled.

Just because you’re young doesn’t mean you can’t be chronically ill.

It’s not your fault that some people don’t understand, even if these people are close to you, like family or friends.

chimeracorp:

yoccu:

The single most toxic thing I was brought up believing is that being Adult and Responsible and Good starts with doing everything completely alone and without help

What it’s really about is learning where and when you need help, how much help you need, and knowing when to reach out and ask for the help you need to function at your ideal level

People were never meant to live alone

Parents drill this into their kids because they’re tired of helping them, and want their child to leave them alone. Toxicity at its finest.

Quick answer to not wanting to wear those new kneewarmers out: pull on some big sweats over everything! 😅 Not sure that looks much better, but it just might get fewer weird looks popping out to the store.

qjusttheletter:

thechronicchillpill:

but seriously why do people feel the need to avoid the word ableism?

an abled person using disabled bathrooms/parking spaces/elevators isnt just a “shitty thing to do” my guy its ableist as fuck.

an abled person openly hating a disabled person simply because they are disabled, believing they shouldnt have certain rights or certain necessities because they are disabled, isnt just shitty IT IS ABLEISM.

someone believing a disabled person should have to go into debt to pay for medical bills and that they shouldnt be able to get accomodations or help to survive, it isnt just a shitty thing to think, its ABLEISM.

just say the fucking word people it isnt hard, dont talk about discrimination against disabled people as if its just annoying or shitty or mean, ITS DISCRIMINATION, ITS ABLEISM, SO CALL IT ABLEISM.

im so tired of people openly trying to avoid the word.

i’ve been reading about this sort of thing lately, especially wrt uspoli – where people condemning ableism refuse to acknowledge that that’s what it is, and just call it “mean” or “in poor taste” or whathaveyou – 

and the best breakdown of it i’ve read/pieced together is that everyone tsking and shaking their heads at ableism, are in fact shaking their heads at crass behaviour and a lack of discretion when discriminating against disabled people. 

calling ableism what it is – discrimination, marginalization, oppression – would mean that these people would have to examine their own behaviour and beliefs. 

when 45 mocked serge kovaleski for example, he wasn’t mocking a disabled man with great skill and many achievements – he was mocking a person with a disability which is a no-no because that poor man can’t defend himself and why would you behave with such terrible manners and what do you mean, disabled people can advocate for themselves? surely their disability renders them entirely helpless and etc. 

people across all political spectrums are guilty of neglecting to acknowledge the full humanity of disabled people, and i think that’s where the root of sidestepping the word ableism lies. if they were to acknowledge that disabled people are whole people, they’d have a much harder time ignoring all the ingrained beliefs that dispute that fact, and the abounding policies that seek to deny it. 

dixie-wolf:

Sometimes I’m like, “I have a chronic illness and that’s fine! I’m going to take it easy, because that’s what my body needs!”

Other times I’m like, “Fuck this shit, I’m gonna carry 16 bags of groceries at once, who the fuck cares if I have an episode later, I’m not letting anyone do anything for me ever ‘cause I’m not a fucking wimp!” and then I’m writhing in pain for six hours BUT AT LEAST I PROVED MY WORTH.

Oh my, just reminded with my younger cousins coming up.

I was actually the only grandchild on both sides and not spoiled at all until I was 14. (With the youngest born a few years later.) My mom was not working then, so it looked like an even better idea for her to watch the new baby the whole first summer after my aunt went back to work. Not only because family and trustworthy, but most daycares won’t take children who aren’t toilet trained yet. It worked out pretty well for everyone. We watched both of them a lot after that, too.

So yeah, I was out of school for the summer and usually didn’t mind helping look after the baby. What I did mind were the filthy looks and nasty comments we kept getting whenever we went anywhere, with some people filling in their own assumptions about what must be going on.

My mother thought it was kind of funny. I really did not, and not just because I was 14 and easily embarrassed anyway. She also wasn’t dealing with the worst of the judgments there, other than maybe doing a terrible job of raising me.

But, that did make an impression. I was certainly aware of the hostility too often aimed at teen mothers before that, which is kinda hard to miss. But, that experience really helped bring home how ridiculously common it is, and how quick some people are to jump to judgy assumptions. Not to mention just how openly unpleasant some people feel entitled to be with that. Nobody could possibly deserve that shit, and certainly not for getting pregnant.

steamedsoymilk:

I recently saw a pain scale with the caption “if you can still talk, your not at a nine” and it really really bothered me. One of my doctors (who works extensively with teenagers with CRPS) said that one common theme he sees in his patients is a complete lack of reaction to pain. He told me that when he performs procedures and tests that are objectively extremely painful, often the teenagers will be smiling and cracking jokes, even though he knows that they are in excruciating pain. At nine I can carry on a conversation (not very well, because at this point things start to get really cloudy for me, but still a conversation). During my nerve conduction study (If you’ve ever had one you know how awful it is, and if you haven’t, it involves a six inch long eighteen gage needle stabbed deep into your muscles over and over while you clench and relax them as instructed.) i chatted with the nurse and played games on my phone. It wasn’t that I wasn’t in pain, it was just I was also outside of it. For teenagers with chronic pain a disassociation from themselves and their bodies is common, even expected. If I “grounded myself”, saw myself as In my body and of my body and nothing else I don’t know how I would survive. In order to live, to get out of bed or wash my hair or put on pants I have to separate ME from my body. It’s how I can pop my shoulder out of socket and put it back in during a conversation. It’s a matter of survival. And I’m tired of people saying that my pain isn’t real or valid because of it.