Blocking is not evidence

alliecat-person:

realsocialskills:

People get to decide who they do and don’t want to talk to.

Online, part of what that means is that people can block each other. People who don’t want to talk to each other can make the conversation stop.

If someone blocks someone else, all it means is that they’ve decided to stop talking to them. In almost all cases, you have every right to do that.

Blocking someone doesn’t mean you’ve lost an argument. (Similarly, if someone else blocks you, that doesn’t mean you’ve won or that you’re better than them.) It just means that you’ve chosen to stop talking to someone.

There’s nothing wrong with ending a conversation. You don’t have to interact with everyone who wants your attention. You have the right to have boundaries and you have the right to use technology to enforce them.

The only time it’s wrong to block people is if they are entitled to your attention for some reason. That’s rare, and mostly applies to corporations and elected officials. 

Blocking is not a punishment or a confession of weakness. It’s a boundary.

Agreed, though the elected officials caveat is an important one. I do think it’s shitty of Donald Trump to block people (surprise surprise). Aside from the fact that he regularly abuses people on Twitter himself, he is (ugh) President and elected to serve all Americans. Not just the neo-Nazis who suck up to him on social media, but all of us. He should have to “listen” to what we say even if he doesn’t like it.

Generally, though, no one is entitled to listen to your crap. For any reason.

honeyswtfits:

edgebug:

dinovia-countryman:

edgebug:

edgebug:

there’s an angel hogging my blankets

cheddar biscuit is going to be so proud when i tell her how many notes her pictures have

Wait.  Wait…

Her name is Cheddar Biscuit????

That is so perfect.  I might have to lie down for a week.

every day when my dad comes home from work he feeds her pieces of ham. incidentally, she has a weird squeaky gravelly little meow, so it kind of sounds like she’s shouting “ham?! ham?!” whenever he comes home she runs to the door and shouts “haaaaaam?!” and it’s the best thing

I love her.

heavyweightheart:

Y’all know that individual health behaviors – choices around nutrition, exercise, smoking, etc. – only account for about 25% of a person’s health status? The determinants of health are largely social: income and education level, the safety of one’s physical environment (e.g. working conditions, clean water), and degree of social support. Trauma is far worse for health than fast food.

It’s tempting to subscribe to a just world theory, where good things happen to good people (or people who make good decisions), and problems befall problem people, but that just isn’t the world we live in.

Most sick people have spent their lives fighting against oppressive circumstances. They don’t invite illness and hardship with their bad decisions, they are miracles of survival in a sociopolitical environment that’s hostile to their very existence.

It has actually cooled down here enough today that turning out some kind of warm food is a reasonable plan for supper. Figuring out what is a different matter, though. I’m still feeling kind of like my brain’s been steamed like a dumpling 🙄

Oh my, I was reminded of another illustration of just what kind of petty passive-aggressive crank my dad can be.

He personally spent pretty much all his war stint floating/subbing around the Mediterranean, as former NROTC. (Under parental pressure, so yeah.) That was still enough for him to get out as soon as he could and come back with such an enormous hate on for the Navy. He ended up pretty vocally antiwar in general, and took part in some protests as a disgruntled recent vet. But, who knows without that personal grudge.

But, one act of protest he apparently found particularly satisfying? At one point after he got home, he had the urge to get all spiffed up in full dress whites.

Then he went out and did an oil change on his car. In his full dress whites. Probably smirking the whole time.

That’ll really show them 😩 But, he obviously got a great deal of satisfaction out of it.

(He also later spent a decent chunk of the ‘70s in Hawaii working for the Navy as a civilian programmer, and apparently left them some nasty surprises. Which I had no trouble believing. Sure, the pay and setting weren’t bad either, but I swear I still have to wonder if that was why he took the job to begin with. I almost hesitated to mention that, but pseudonymity. Plus it happened at least 40 years ago.)

But yeah, that was when he was in his 20s, and of course he’s had decades in the meantime to grow into and further develop his own personal flavor of crankiness. Sometimes I am glad not to be dealing with that on a regular basis anymore, I tell you what.