I would rather let a “special snowflake” into the autistic community than exclude an autistic that needs support and cannot get a clinical diagnosis.
I would rather validate ten “special snowflakes” than invalidate one autistic who needs support and cannot get a clinical diagnosis.
I would rather welcome a hundred “special snowflakes” without question than force an autistic to disclose their entire life to me just to get the support they need when they cannot get a clinical diagnosis.
I would rather help those that don’t need help, than deny help to those that need it.
im reading an faq about carnivorous plant cultivation while i wait for the dog to fall asleep and GOD i love people’s weird enthusiasms? i love seeing the shit that people just. LOVE and put their life and time into. god.
Q: It is possible to overfeed a Venus flytrap?
A: I think so. First off, remember you must only feed them bugs and not
meat from cows, horses, goats, etc. But
even if you restrict yourselves to bugs
and insects, you may overfeed your plants.
The bugs should not be too large. Meals much bigger than about 1/3 the
length of a trap can be too big, causing the trap to blacken and die.
Feed your plants small bugs.
Do not exceed about one bug per week. If you want to get your ghoulish pleasures
more often, either buy more plants or eat the bugs yourself.
So I thought y’all would like this too
This great white comes to the jersey shore every year and this year they named her and have been tracking her hella so this is Mary Lee and she decided to show herself under this rainbow for pride month
A true gay icon
Burns’ experience is not a rare case but rather reflective of Britain’s widespread crisis in disability unemployment. While discrimination of disabled people within the workplace continues for many, even getting hired in the first place is an uphill battle – something that’s particularly acute for people with learning disabilities or autism. Just 16% (pdf) of people with autism are in full-time paid work, according to the National Autistic Society, while less than 6% of learning disabled people are in full-time employment.
That’s compared to 47% of disabled people generally. More worryingly, things aren’t getting better: the employment rate for autism has seen negligible improvement(pdf) in a decade and the number of learning disabled people in work has actually fallen in the past five years.
I would add that in 2009, before all the further austerity cuts to disability benefits and services, the NAS found that among autistic adults:
· One third are currently without a job or access to benefits
· Over half have spent time with neither a job nor access to benefits, some for over ten years
· Just 15% have a full-time job
· 79% of those on Incapacity Benefit want to work
· 82% who have applied for benefits say that they needed support to apply.
You really do have to wonder how people are supposed to live, though I don’t need to go further down that road right now. The situation is just not good.
Omg this kid doesn’t deserve 20 years in prison for protecting his own mother! This is fucking ridiculous. It was definitely a defense. He’s 13 years now, just imagine how traumatized he must be after watching his mother getting sexually abused and brutally beaten by a stranger? I am sure, if the boy was white American he would be carried carefully out of the house and would be given probation. That’s how white privilege works all around the world.
yall really gotta stop believin every story you hear on tumblr. jesus christ.
first, i tried to find the story, the top result being this change.org petition followed by a bunch of stories that were completely unrelated.
well that didnt work, let’s be a little more specific…
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the one result that was relevant came from a site called wnews.world whose front page looks like a goddamn tabloid had sex with a hipster minimalist web designer.
you can find a link to the related story here, though i recommend against clicking and giving them any kind of attention. CW: death.
finally, i attempted a reverse image search, which didn’t provide anything more helpful beyond twitter accounts retweeting this same exact thing you fuckers fell for.
but i did find another article, which tells a different story.
huh that picture looks familiar….
but wait, what’s this?
a picture of the same kid at a different angle?
and one of him with his mom, also at a different angle?
please stop blindly believing everything you see on the internet. i do it too sometimes and i need a slap in the face when i do. i hope you take this as your slap in the face.
i have nothing but love for you and only want you to be aware about the things you believe in. false stories like this spread like wildfire because they were created just to be shared as many times as possible to make money for the organizations that create them.
Okay I really didn’t want to do this but here goes.
My name is Neil, and in March the UK Government stopped my Disability Living Allowance, They may be switching me over to PIP but that’ll take at least six weeks from today. I have a condition called Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita, which makes doing certain jobs pretty much impossible for me as a way to earn extra money.
Since March I’ve been working as a Tutor and I’ve been doing some freelance writing.
Right now I’m living hand to mouth, I could just about afford rent with my jobs paying out, but at this moment jobs are few and far between. At the moment I have £20 to my name, my phone bill coming out tomorrow that’ll be wiped out.
I usually don’t like to do this but if you can help in some small way I would be so grateful. If you know of anyone who needs a proofreader, or a tutor for Mathematics and Science, please point them my way.
If you can afford some small donation so I don’t get hit with monster bank charges next month and be able to do some small food shop, I’d basically die from the kindness of strangers and I’ll try and make things square when I can.
Thank you for reading this.
@thebibliosphere can you boost this? You have more people than me 🙂
Absolutely, @youthoughtiwasasleepdidntyou do you have a PayPal email you can throw up for us? I’m on mobile and so I apologize if I’m just not seeing it.
The switchover to PIP in the UK is a nightmare. My little brother is still waiting on his, so you have my full empathy for going through the process.
The people that I’ve trusted most in my life have been the people totally aware of their ability to hurt me. They aren’t ashamed that they have it; they just choose not to use it. My foster dad was the only person I fully trusted until I was 25, and he’s a military combat veteran with PTSD. I think a lot of what made him so trustworthy for me was that he was never upset when I was startled or uncomfortable with him; he just factored that into his plans. “I’ll explain it, but to adjust your stance more I’d have to come in and move your legs.” “You can sit on this couch with me, or drag over that chair.” “If you’re okay being around people with guns, you can come to [event], otherwise I’ll see you on Thursday.” And we’re from a social context where some people just DO have those triggers, and you accept that and Don’t Fucking Touch People When They Can’t See You. My own startle reflex is from childhood bullying, but it blends in pretty well with a found-family of military veterans and trauma survivors.
So I mean, there are ways to tone down a startle reflex, which are mostly just “ways to get PTSD treated” but I for one? Chose to actively keep my startle reflex even as I went through other treatments (medication, therapy, EMDR, yoga, etc). I’m generally a pretty passive and gentle person IRL, since I’ve worked to be very soothing and calming to other trauma victims in my work, but that means my boundaries get trampled a lot. If I didn’t have a strong startle reflex, I’d just freeze up when my physical boundaries are infringed on, whereas the startle gives me the energy I need to get physically clear and have a bit of adrenaline going to do something scary like tell them to back off.
So you know, this is me and the choices I’ve made–choices like “not dating anyone until I was 29 and finally found someone 100% okay with my boundaries”–but I’d tell your boyfriend to learn to deal with it? If you were a combat veteran who startled every time he dropped something loud, I bet he’d have a lot more sympathy for you and not make it All About Him. I mean, I get that it sucks to make a gesture of intimacy and connection and have it rebuffed, but the point is: IT’S NOT ABOUT HIM, BECAUSE IF YOU KNEW IT WAS HIM YOU WOULDN’T FLINCH. You say yourself that it’s about being aware that it’s him touching you! It’s knowing, “This is my boyfriend, whom I trust; a serial killer hasn’t wormed his way under my couch and decided to wrap an arm around me.”
So maybe he needs to work on better signalling his presence the way my found family does, like audibly making sounds when he’s coming up behind you (scuffing his feet as he walks, jingling keys, humming or whistling), approaching from within your field of vision before he touches you, or moving from a known area of touch for a new one (so if, say, he’s standing next to you, instead of just throwing an arm around your shoulders, he touches a near part of you with his hand, then slides it across your shoulders, so you’re always aware of what’s happening.)
Maybe HE lives in a world where people can be 100% trustworthy? Maybe he lives in a world where it’s reasonable to be hurt when people don’t automatically interpret everything you do as benign. But I’ve lived with being traumatized for so long, and lived around traumatized people so long, that I’m like, “That sounds like an interesting place, I wonder what colour the sky is there.” Like… you don’t think he’s bad or malign or going to kill you (one PRESUMES), but at the same time, you live in a world where the people you’re socially close to and comfortable around CAN hurt you, and your definition of “trust” is always going to mean choosing to be around them despite knowing they can hurt you. It’s not very possible for you or your body to just un-know that.
And in the end it ABSOLUTELY would not cool or fair if you end up in a situation where HE can show upset and discomfort with your emotional expressions, but YOU cannot show upset and discomfort with his, and his unhappiness is more important than yours, and you’re the one working to silence your discomfort for the good of the relationship but he’s not working to change his behaviour and deal with his emotions to make you happy. He needs to take his sadness over your “not trusting” him and go, “Okay, it’s not me, so now I’m just sad that my girlfriend had these negative experiences, but I will use that sadness to make sure I act in a way that feels safer and more comfortable to her.”
If I didn’t have a strong startle reflex, I’d just freeze up when my physical boundaries are infringed on, whereas the startle gives me the energy I need to get physically clear and have a bit of adrenaline going to do something scary like tell them to back off.
…..huh. My response is generally to freeze up until I can get out of the situation somehow (and I may not even notice that’s what I’m doing until after the fact). I don’t have a typically overactive startle response (usually). Perhaps I should stop letting my brain use that as “see you’re just faking.”
Yeah fear responses are actually tripartate: flight, fight, FREEZE.
@star-anise tends towards the flight-type of startle – jump/flinch AWAY, etc. I … have in fact nearly broken people’s noses because I have the fight-type – “KILL THE THING THAT TOUCHED ME”, and even though I’ve gotten a good handle on it so that I don’t HARM people without at least a split-second’s thought (enough to parse “do I know this person/was it probably a total accident/is killing Allowed here”), the hostility is still. Um. APPARENTLY VERY OBVIOUS.
But a fuck of a lot of people freeze, too. Especially people who’ve learned/been conditioned to know they CAN’T either fight or flee. Like all responses in some situations it can be vital, and in a lot of others is Less Useful.
It’s specifically Less Useful when you’re trying to establish working safe boundaries in situations where people genuinely can’t hit you with a mallet. Which is most of the situations one is in on a normal day to day basis.
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