Just a reminder that I’m an Adult™ and if that makes you feel uncomfortable feel free to:
unfollow me
ask me to unfollow you
block me
I won’t get mad or anything. It’s important to make sure you feel comfortable and secure.
I don’t understand millennials actually promoting age segregation like this. One of the chief selling points of the Internet for Gen Xers in the 90s was that we could interact freely with adults without being “protected” or put in our place. Your generation actually WANTS to be protected and segregated? I don’t get it.
I don’t quite get it either. Maybe it has to do with NSFW content? Dunno. I’m an older millennial, but I used to follow adults in the 00’s on livejournal and such because their lives were much more interesting than mine was as a high schooler! IRL my friends run the gambit from 19 to 52, so yeah, age segregation seems odd to me. 🤷♀️
Yeah, I can’t get my head around it either. I used to frequent age-diverse forums from the age of about 13, and the age ranges ran between 11-12 to 70+. Everyone interacted pretty equally, it was rare for someone to be singled out for different treatment because of their age, and I’d have been highly annoyed if the older people on the boards had coddled me and treated me ‘like a kid’. I can’t wrap my head around anyone wanting that, wanting to be parented by strangers and presumed incapable of understanding things.
Then again, I never had any problems with predators- possibly because the sites I used were quite anonymous and I never got to know anyone well. Tumblr’s obviously a bit different to that.
People are saying it’s about NSFW content, but not all adults post NSFW, some minors do, and you can check a blog doesn’t post a ton of crap you don’t want to see before following it anyway.
I suppose it might be because some people see following someone as creating a sort of relationship with them? Like, following an adult isn’t just following them, it’s like automatically being their friend, or something. (Yeah, you can tell I have no idea how interpersonal dynamics work on this hellsite, can’t you).
Anyway, confused, don’t understand, why the shift in opinion between generations etc etc.
… If it does matter to you for whatever reason, I’m 23, I don’t mind who follows me, and I don’t post much ‘age restricted’ content anyway. If I follow you and you’re weirded out by my age, I won’t be offended if you ask me to unfollow, because even though I don’t objectively understand why people want age segregation, I don’t expect other people’s triggers and squicks to make objective sense to me.
Yeah, same. When I was a teen I was lying about my age to read the smut.
I think though that part of it could be that the Internet was a lot more passive back then. I lied for access to salacious content posted on static web pages. I didn’t lie to rp or chat with people whose age I didn’t know, who might take advantage of my normal curiosity.
Yeah but even then, I was primarily taken advantage of by people my own age, not the adults.
As someone who probably got more direct abuse as an assumed cishet abled girl in school then I get now, as none of those things, it’s kind of scary kids (and women in general as well) get touted as “safe”. No group is universally safe and if you think you’re in a safe space and aren’t you’ll be in danger.
Agree.
Oh yeah, as a teenager I was much more wary of other teenagers than I was of adults. Mostly because other teenagers made up the vast majority of the “people who want to hurt me” group, whereas most adults I met treated me OK.
Right on cue, I see someone on Twitter kvetch about how Kamala Harris (supposedly) supports prison labor. Uh, citation required?
And also, FUCK YOU. This is not activism.
It just occurred to me that Harris is a former prosecutor and therefore possibly holds positions that aren’t palatable to prison abolitionists. Which, okay, fair enough.
The problem with this kind of purity politics, though, is that it overlooks the NEED we have for liberal, feminist women of color like Harris to serve as prosectors. If we just let all of these positions get filled by the other side we’re setting ourselves up for disaster.
I don’t expect everyone to agree with Harris on everything, or of any other liberal politician. But I do expect people to at least try to understand their full histories and context before condemning them as Not Enough.
Step one: Abolish prisons.
Step two: ????
Step three: Liberation!
Yes, this.
The prison system is colossally fucked… which is exactly why WE NEED A PLAN to reform it. Or to replace it with something else if we abolish it, which will probably happen over a LONG time if it does.
I’ve been meaning to put some laundry in for days now, but an excellent prompt to do that in a few minutes. With the weather today, those cotton shorts would probably dry outside in maybe an hour or less too.
Some fairly basic shorts that I ordered showed up today, and they actually seem to fit!
I may not like trying on clothes to an extreme degree, but buying them without even being able to hold them up and eyeball the size makes me nervous enough that I usually just avoid it.
But, at least 90% of my shorts by now fall into at least one one of several categories: starting to literally fall apart, way too big, and/or “I know that has to be somewhere in this house, wtf?!”. (Probably also too big and maybe worn out too, but yeah.)
Getting out to try to buy more has been complicated, so I finally did go ahead and order some. With an elastic waist, because jfc I don’t trust sizing charts for pants in particular with a trickier fit. Especially in women’s sizes, with the lack of consistency and a build nobody is designing for.
(If the waist fits, will tons of fabric be billowing around my nonexistent ass? Less of a problem than when I needed bigger sizes, but still. That is rarely a good look 😒 I would just buy men’s sizes, but it’s pretty much all hotter knee shorts available aimed at men.)
I ended up picking a place where I’ve had decent luck in their brick and mortar stores, with fairly consistent sizing. Plus a location not far away that worst case I could probably return the stuff to if it didn’t work, without having to ship it back to them. With my executive function and everything else, that usually just doesn’t happen.
But, that worked out well enough that I’m more inclined to order from them again! It can get really frustrating when you’re staying low enough on spoons to have trouble buying clothes in person. After several years of that intensifying, the clothing situation is not great.
Glad to at least get a couple of test pairs of functioning shorts that don’t look too bad, and I had probably better just cave and do more online clothes shopping. Even though I haven’t been getting out much lately, I still don’t like feeling like a ragamuffin. Not necessarily great for the old mental health.
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