Day: September 9, 2017

Tbf, letting my blood sugar crash probably doesn’t improve my reaction to disappointing food. But, this batch is still kind of impressive in its lack of taste even after I’ve been trying to doctor it up a little.

Well, I think I’ll avoid ordering from that place again. The first thing I tried was well-cooked and very tasty, a piece of tandoori chicken.

The rest? Has very little taste. I mean, there’s “let’s keep the heat (and often sodium) levels down to cater to local tastes”, and then there’s “this curry has almost no noticeable seasoning, and this otherwise half-burnt vegetable dish is full of clashing crunchy raw onion instead of spices”.

Very weird, and if this is typical? I’m surprised their ratings were that good. This is definitely the first takeout curry I have ever gotten hold of with that little flavor of any type to it. Not sure how they even did that. Hopefully an off night, but that’s not much help right now.

ETA: I ordered a supposedly “fairly hot” lamb dish which came with no detectable chili flavor whatsoever to it. Mostly tasted grease. As one indication.

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biggest hetero lie i’ve been told: fighting is a part of a healthy romantic relationship

Disagreements are a part of every healthy relationship. Having bad days when you’re not your best self is a part of every healthy relationship. Fighting, disrespect, and insults? Those are not healthy at all. 

NO OKAY THIS IS SO FUCKING TRUE. THIS BOILS MY GODDAMN BLOOD.

STORY TIME.

When I was 16 I had recently moved, and was attending a new school. About half-way through the school year, I started dating a guy I was friends with. He and I got on REALLY well. Like yeah we had disagreements and shit, but we always, ALWAYS talked about it and discussed our feelings and why things were making us upset. Every. Single. Time. We had a good system. And when we had disagreements we resolved them immediately. Otherwise we got along SO WELL. It was great I was really freaking happy and he was too!

About six months into my relationship, people, mostly my family members, commented about how WELL we got along…a l m o s t like it was a bad thing. I didn’t really think about it though, too involved in my own brain.

Skip ahead, to about a year-ish in. Friends of mine would sometimes get into fights with their significant others and they’d tell me ALL about it and I’m a good friend so I’d listen and try to give advice. Except I never had anything when they’d ask me, “Oh well what do you do when you and J get into fights??”

And I never had an answer other than “Well we don’t fight.”

And they never believed me. Or worse they’d insist that was UNHEALTHY. “Fighting is healthy, it lets out tension building up! You just need to sometimes!”

I never, EVER EVER felt comfortable with that, and I’d shrug it off and insist we didn’t NEED to fight. Our relationship was ALREADY healthy, especially because of the way we handled disagreements. People never listened and insisted there was something wrong, whether out-right stating it or hinting at it.

Even my best friend insisted that fighting was healthy, and I listened to her on nearly everything. Except for that. I didn’t budge for anyone.

DO NOT LET PEOPLE FOOL YOU. FIGHTING IS NOT HEALTHY. DISAGREEMENTS ARE. BAD DAYS ARE OKAY. LEGITIMATE SCREAMING AND GOD FORBID PHYSICAL VIOLENCE IS. NOT. OKAY!!!

Don’t be fooled guys, please. :/

Talking to one another through disagreements is the ONLY healthy way to handle disagreements in a relationship.

Verbal, physical and psychological violence is NEVER healthy.

^ All of this!

I think what the “fighting is healthy” people think is that if you’re not fighting that you’re not discussing the things that upset you at all and you’re both festering in resentment that never gets resolved. But like… no. You can talk about stuff without fighting about it.

I tend to forget that delivery is totally an option when I’m on my own. Being cheap probably doesn’t help there. Yes, I could forage in here and probably wind up with another cheese sandwich. Or I could have someone bring me a more balanced hot meal with things like vegetables I don’t have to cut up and cook.

Was tempted to try one Jamaican place with good reviews, since I’m the main fan around here. But, the minimum delivery order was £30, and there’s so much rice and peas even I can eat 🙄 Really didn’t feel like going to pick anything up, either.

But, more Indian food than I probably need should be on the way now. As pretty much the fallback easily GF option, and thankfully one I’m almost always good with. And hopefully I can get that aquarium water change done after fortifying myself!