stop the phrase “tattle-tale”. stop indirectly telling kids that if they speak up about someone that’s bothering them, they’re doing something bad. stop contributing to the culture of abuse.
seriously though this NEEDS to stop. my mother. a grownass woman of 59. had to ask me over and over again if I was sure it wasn’t ethically dubious for her to go to her employer and report harassment and terror tactics from a coworker because she didn’t “want to be a tattler.” stop teaching kids not to be “tattle-tales” because they will not grow out of it.
This this this.
I hope this is okay to add but in addition to the above it can create immediate and dangerous problems for children, with other children.
When I was six years old, one of my first grade classmates bullied me relentlessly for a long time. When I tried to tell the teacher that he wouldn’t stop touching me, she told me that I was being a tattle-tale and disrupting the class. So he got worse and worse. Before I knew it, he was telling me that I had to let him destroy my school supplies because his daddy told him that women have to obey the word of men. The bullying culminated in him and his friend waiting until the teacher and all the other kids left at the end of the day, cornering me at my desk, then threatening to bring his dad’s gun to school and shoot me if I didn’t stop wearing my favorite boots.
I didn’t tell the teacher because that would have been ‘tattling’. I didn’t tell my parents until they asked why I was upset that night. I wound up talking to the principal with my dad, and the principal was shocked that I had been too scared to report a shooting threat.
I know that a lot of people might think a kid would definitely report something like that, but I didn’t. A lot of kids don’t. Please, please give kids the chance to tell you if something is wrong, don’t brush them off, make sure they know that they can come to you for help. Don’t make them think they’re a burden or a ‘tattle-tale’.
And you might think, “Oh, well kids should know the difference between tattling and getting help, they should know when something is important and when it’s not. They should know better.”. They don’t. A 3 year old does not know he doesn’t need to cry when he wanted the blue jelly bean or if the thing he’s trying to do doesn’t work, those things are important to him and he is expressing himself in the only way he has ever known and it is your job to teach him how to manage his emotions, not internalize them because they “aren’t important”.
Little kids don’t know what’s important and what’s not. As they get older they learn, but if you just tell them to quit complaining and deal with shit, that’s what they’ll do until it’s bigger shit that does matter and now it’s your fault that your kid feels like he/she can’t express themselves when frustrated or scared or angry or whatever. You might think “Well, he’s 5 now, he should know.” Just, inherently? By osmosis? Did you even hold a child-rearing book against his head to increase the chances of successful osmosis? NO? Then I’m guessing you didn’t teach him that his feelings are valid but there are appropriate and effective responses, and which those are.
Also: Stop bullying your fucking kids into being bullies. “Man up” and “Deal with it” are not appropriate parenting techniques. You just told your kid that his/her problem doesn’t matter and they should just cram it deep down and stop bothering you with their emotions.
Yeah, you’re old as fuck and your kid’s problem seems stupid and asinine, but your kid isn’t old as fuck and that problem is new and they don’t know what to do about it. Don’t be a dick.
I don’t think I should accept other people’s suffering because I suffered. Just the opposite, because I suffered I don’t want others to suffer.
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And one of the things they did was start the stereotype that activists should be full of rage all the time or they weren’t “real” activists.
And many of the other things currently embodied by large amounts of standard SJ types. (Which is one thing that makes standard SJ approaches, unlike actual social justice, pretty ineffectual: they were designed to be. And people emulate them thinking that’s what activists are supposed to be like, that’s what activists are supposed to do. With no idea they’re modeling themselves on agents sent to disrupt real social justice work.)
(Anti-SJ types are usually just as bad.)
Yes. 😦
I would also add that these agents assigned to infiltrate groups were apparently usually a bit smoother with it than the (often state/local police) ones who reeked of undercover cop and were pretty quickly starting into “Off the pigs! Does anybody know how to build some bombs?”
And even those were very disruptive. Some hotheads *always* embraced them, while everybody else was trying to get away as fast as they could. I have heard plenty about that pattern from my mother and some other people who were politically active then, besides reading more. It totally broke up a lot of groups, and kept them from focusing on actually getting stuff done. Which was kinda the point, besides often prodding the hotheads into doing something stupid to further discredit the threats to the status quo.
We’re not even to COINTELPRO proper yet. The lower-level clowns also provided some cover for the FBI guys, who were more competent and a lot harder to spot anyway. And much more effective at setting people up to look like angry nutters who are easily dismissed. 😦
It’s frustrating to watch people who aren’t that aware of how this got/no doubt still gets strategically used to disrupt, totally running with the Angry Activist trope. It’s really easy to get your chain yanked that way, too.
Bringing this one back, from 2013, after I couldn’t find another post I was looking for.
One current discussion suddenly refreshed off my dash earlier before I could reblog with some commentary, not to be found again. As mobile is so fond of doing. But, that concerned the FBI/DHS “Antifa as domestic terrorism” mess, and COINTELPRO 2.0.
I mean, I don’t know that 2.0 is even appropriate, because this stuff never really stopped even if that particular official program did get disbanded on paper, under pressure in the ‘70s.
Anyway, there is plenty of ongoing relevance there, which is important to bear in mind going forward.
While the FBI has been aware of this infiltration for some time and raised concerns in a 2006 internal assessment, federal agencies have been wary of discussing the issue publicly. Former Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano even disavowed a 2009 intelligence study warning of the “resurgence” of far-right extremists sparked by President Barack Obama’s election, as The Intercept noted. Daryl Johnson, the lead researcher on the 2009 DHS report who was pushed out of the agency, told The Intercept that he was deeply disappointed by DHS’ decision to shrink the unit investigating right-wing extremists. “Federal law enforcement agencies in general—the FBI, the Marshals, the ATF — are aware that extremists have infiltrated state and local law enforcement agencies and that there are people in law enforcement agencies that may be sympathetic to these groups,” he said.
A bit more about that DHS mess with a link to an interview with Daryl Johnson, which came up on here recently.
White supremacists’ involvement in law enforcement is hardly a new thing either. But, this was specifically talking about a concerted push to get them looking all clean-cut and socially acceptable, and being quieter about their nastier views, so as not to raise red flags. With the explicit aim of sneak-packing these positions of power with extremists.
One of the problems there, of course, is that the feds have kept presenting this threat as limited to state and local agencies, rather than also coming from inside the house.
“Federal law enforcement agencies in general—the FBI, the Marshals, the ATF — are aware that extremists have infiltrated…agencies and that there are people in law enforcement agencies that may be sympathetic to these groups,” he said.
Fixed that. (And he seems to have found out the hard way that it is a way more accurate version.)
At any rate, it’s truly amazing that there might be some pressure to officially cast antifa as a domestic terrorism. Given some of the history there, and some more recent developments making the situation that much better.
They also have plenty of tactics to play mix and match with. Again, good to bear in mind.
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