Happy Halloween from our little sea monster! The animal training department let us borrow their festive decorations, and it was kind of the greatest thing in the whole entire world. Still not sure if this was more enriching for the octopus or the aquarists!!
what is it about capybaras that attracts groups of small animals to them?
Its not just mammals either its like birds and turtles and frogs too
look at this shit
They radiate peace
capybaras are friend shaped
I love this post
This is actually a cool thing I know about!
In the wild capybaras live in large groups so naturally a female capybara will take care of not only her own offspring, but all of the other offspring in the group. So capybaras are super great mothers who will adopt pretty much anything and take care of it.
Lots of places that rescue different animals will give a group of baby animals to a capybara to raise if they have one.
Like puppies
Ducks
Deer
Emus
They are just super calm animals so they’re naturally great at mothering or just existing in a group!
I always say the reason shit like that happens is because the parents are typically the actual client in therapy. They put the kid there but the issue is really the parents are having problems and want their kid to be “fixed”. I had that problem with therapy even when I wasn’t a minor.
Even when I got therapy under my own initiative as an adult my therapist sided with my mom. I think some of that is deferring to parental authority, and treating disabled adults who live with their parents as still being under parental authority, but I think a small part of that is also that therapists are trained to deal with abuse as something in the past with lingering effects today, and not trained to notice present, ongoing abuse.
It happens in other relationship dynamics, too. A woman whose husband was abusing her went in for marriage counseling. The counselors only recognized that their job was to make marriages work, not to recognize when they were abusive. So they sat there and didn’t bat an eye while her husband related how much he fantasized about murdering her in her sleep. Nobody took her aside to ask her if she was okay, or anything.
BASICALLY. Like people seem to grasp this on some level with insurance blocking certain treatments for example, but yeah the person who is paying or sending you there is going to be the actual client with the most pull. Kids are not the clients, the parents are. Even when you are an adult, when disabled (which you are if you are being forced into threarment most likely) your parents will always be viewed as the more credible actual client. I was technically with the last parent hired therapist until I think maybe 19 even? But it still functioned like my mom was in charge even with her no longer getting the reports. She hired him not me.
And when I was 19 my home situation was actually my biggest issue. I actually had a job and stuff but could still not have a social life. I would complain about shit like mom blocking my car in the driveway so I couldn’t leave the house and she got brought in “well you never ask!”
Because you say no. Why would I ask if every fucking time you say no you are too tired you already got in your pajamas at 5pm so you don’t feel like it. The goal posts move. It’s my fault I always miss the kick.
It’s so infuriating people act like therapists don’t often side with abusers when a lot of the people going in to see them would be being sent there by said abusers like it is literally profitable to agree with the abuser. People who have never experienced this do not seem to understand how different the system is when you have been thrown in against your will because someone in your life wants you “fixed” for their personal convenience vs being about to take your time choosing a not awful one and being able to fire them if they do a shitty job, and how if you have experienced that therapy will never ever be a “safe space” for you because that has been betrayed too many times to trust someone with it again.
Like I didn’t want to derail that last post but honestly I legit wonder if it’s ethical to send kids to therapy period because of that stuff.
In most cases, your parents are the ones in control in that situation so you risk the therapist telling on you (confidentiality does not apply w/underage kids to their parents) or just your parents convincing them you made it all up.
The first time I had a therapist agree how I was being treated was wrong, was when I went WILLINGINGLY AS AN ADULT. No hired by my parents while underage one EVER took my side. This seems to be a common experience among friends with similar issues. All the therapy they got while underage sided with their parents, only now as adults with therapists they went to themselves do they hear “you didn’t deserve that”.
I don’t think I know a single person who got therapy as a kid and that isn’t like, the #1 focus of their current therapy now, undoing the damage the childhood therapy did. Idk if I can ever recover from the belief it is my fault and I deserve all the abuse I get because that’s what I was told from ages 5-18 from every person supposed to be helping me. Imagine being told it’s your fault for being bullied at 5 for being weird. Imagine being told as a teenager your parents not letting you leave the house because you apparently cannot be trusted to walk a block to the supermarket in a suburb so safe your parents didn’t even lock the doors until some kid tried to take your dad’s mustang for a joy ride. And then telling someone about it and hearing “you need to be a good normal kid and it will all stop”. I literally got more support from childrens books then I did from therapy as far as “this is not normal and being upset is reasonable”.
If you are that young you haven’t developed a solid base for stuff like self esteem yet, when you get it enforced by all the authority sources that You Are The Problem and the people hurting you are Fine, the base you are trying to build is going to be full of holes and 20 years later you’re trying in vain to patch them all, but you were a self fufilling prophecy from lack of confidence and you have nothing that disproves the bad things you were told still. And now you aren’t a kid you have No Excuses at all because you failed to outgrow it. You end up just cementing the abusive narrative as being deserved and ok because you asked for help and was told you don’t need any, you are the problem.
I get people want to believe there is a system in place that usually protects people but the odds ime are much higher intervention just makes everything worse because said intervention doesn’t really seem to care about the victims. Dismissing people saying being thrown in these systems hurt more then helped and trying to discourage them from talking about it doesn’t help anyone.
When you’re chronically ill and experience an unusual ache/pain/unexplained symptom in your body…it’s really hard to know whether to: 1) ignore it 2) treat it as a new symptom of Chronic Illness A 3) treat it as a new symptom of Chronic Illness B 4) treat it as a fun new quirk of your body 5) consider the possibility of another undiagnosed chronic illness and take yourself to the doctor in the knowledge that invasive medical procedures are likely 6) panic.
Finding yourself repeatedly in this situation is frightening.
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