Day: November 6, 2017

@katisconfused – Ugh, that really sucks :/

Things are not supposed to work that way under this system, at all. I mean, they’ve kept not even pretending to follow their own guidelines dealing with me, the disabled foreigner. 🤔 But, that still made this more of a surprise. Not finding any relevant info or discussion so far either.

Wondering what that nurse might be trying to pull, of course, and if I might be in any immediate danger. (Besides “just” likely making it even harder to get appropriate treatment.) Not to mention how to reasonably deal with the whole situation. Not going to figure out any of it tonight. But yeah, all of this shit is great for a person’s actual mental health 😬

gingerautie:

cptsdcarlosdevil:

invertedporcupine:

fluffshy:

argumate:

cptsdcarlosdevil:

topher and I were taking a parenting class at a place that also does child therapy for autistic kids and there were some fucking creepy-ass posters on the wall

“when you do UNEXPECTED things it makes people UNCOMFORTABLE and then they DON’T LIKE YOU” <–actual quote

has it occurred to you that it is a bad idea to teach the literal-minded people with social impairments social rules that are not true

should hang this poster in front of programmers and UI designers

How is that social rule incorrect? When unexpected things happen to me, it makes me uncomfortable all else being equal.

Taken completely literally, it would, for example, rule out throwing someone a surprise party, or even getting them a surprise gift.

Lots of unexpected things are positive (like surprise gifts) or neutral (like having green hair). Some people like unpredictable and spontaneous friends. And for autistic kids in particular it’s a useful social skill to be able to go “okay you might think I’m odd if I do this thing but it is important for my mental health to be able to do it so you can just suck it up.” 

Also it’s generally not considered ok or normal for autistic kids to not like NT people because they do unexpected things.

“Unexpected things” is also a really, really unhelpfully vague category.

^^^