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I think women in authority who don’t understand neurodiverse children are particularly pissed when it’s a girl, because they expect certain behavior from boys and a girl acting that way, well hell, she isn’t being her gender the right way and that’s just a personal insult to women everywhere somehow.
I’ve told this story before but it’s relevant so I’m telling it again:
As you all have noticed, I have a pottymouth. I’ve been trying to swear less because it’s both unprofessional and unbecoming of a gentleman, but I say the fuck word a lot. And I did this as a smol AFAB child, too, only I didn’t know any dirty words because I was a sheltered kid. I said ‘darn’ and ‘heck’ and ‘crap’ and ‘stupid’ and ‘moron’ a lot in the same way I say ‘damn’ or ‘hell’ or ‘shit’ or ‘fucking’ or ‘bastard’ these days.
Wellllll… when I was in school, especially middle and high school, the special ed teachers and paraprofessionals I had to work with Did Not Like That. They banned me from using any of the minced oaths I knew. And I mean any of them- . I can understand them telling me i’m not allowed to say ‘stupid’, but
I wasn’t allowed to say ‘heck’, for pete’s sake.
I started switching to fictional curse words, because I need to have something to put in the ‘curse’ word space- if I don’t have a way to quickly intensify a phrase, I can’t properly express myself. But even the fictional curse words quickly got banned. ‘D’arvit’, for example, sounded too much like ‘darn it’.
For a while, I had to resort to the phrase ‘oh, purple-spotted dalmatians’, because it was the only even remotely-curse-like thing I could get away with using. Eventually, I switched to French curse words, and used them until I was able to escape to the safety of homeschool.
People really don’t like neurodivergent girls being anything but sweetness and light. You’re supposed to be cute and childish and innocent, gentle little Helen Kellers ready to be taught by noble Annie Sullivans.
People forget that Helen Keller was always full of righteous anger.
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