the people who made the 5 love languages test made another about your apology language
Mine is MAKE RESTITUTION which is so dramatic but it’s more accurate that mine is all of them combined with this gesture being the most important
Mine is make restitution and honestly yeah you have to pay when you make mistakes whether that be with contrition swallowing pride or money and eventually changed Behavior which ties into accepting responsibility which was number 2
“For a mate who speaks this apology language, if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing.“
6 Accept Responsibility
6 Make Restitution
5 Expressing Regret
3 Genuinely Repent
0 Request Forgiveness
Sounds about right.
(Where "expressing regret” goes along with “accepting responsibility”, at least. Acknowledging not only that they did you wrong, but that it matters.)
I don’t have much use for a lot of people’s ideas about forgiveness, anyway. But, there are very few ways of making me madder than to basically just expect people to let something go, without acknowledging the impact or that you even understand what was wrong there or why it was harmful.
i decided not to pick a fight with a “gender critical” sort but because they were spreading dangerous misinfo, i’m making my own post about it
there’s no such thing as “male” and “female” heart attacks. there’s heart attacks with and without severe pain.
The proportion of MI patients who presented without chest pain was significantly higher for women than men (42.0% [95% CI, 41.8%-42.1%] vs 30.7% [95% CI, 30.6%-30.8%]; P < .001).
that’s 4/10 women and 3/10 men. While statistically significant, I highly doubt it’s enough to explain the difference between men’s and women’s survival rates.
every person needs to know both types of heart attack presentations because everyone is at risk of both
while i’m at it the reason women’s metabolizing of medications isn’t studied is because of hormonal differences from men, so demanding discussions hinge on “biosex” to explain it leaves out trans people on HRT, (and anyone else with atypical hormones for their “biosex” which includes many pre- or no-HRT trans people as well)
Just so people know, I looked at the source and the sister was in a very bad car accident and these gifts are likely her way of dealing with her trauma.
honestly…. the fact that they didn’t include this in the original post fucking sucks.
but also… i know these gifts may seem “creepy,” but they’re all really practical (well, aside from the book) and show that she clearly cares about the safety of her loved ones.
This makes me wonder how people view trauma. You see a lot assholes online of shitting on “sjws” for being triggered and not having ~real~ PTSD, but things like this make me wonder if people simply have no idea how to recognize PTSD when it’s not people freaking out over a loud noise.
I would love all of these gifts, and I think that’s also due to my PTSD making me very safety and survival conscious. I wrote my family an emergency first aid booklet for just in case, including how to spot a medical emergency in young children (my nieces are both under 5), and medical details for each family member with medical history and medications of each person on in case anyone needs an ambulance, and emergency contact details for everyone. It makes me feel much better because I can’t always be there if something goes wrong.
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