Day: November 10, 2018

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

There’s this ableist idea that the default is for people to have zero disabilities
and mental illnesses. That’s why there’s a concept of there being
“too many diagnoses” – because people totally assume there’s like, a Perfectly
Normal Human to begin with and that that idealized body has zero brain
issues or disabilities.

And that’s so wrong. That’s just as wrong
as assuming non-intersex, cishet middle-class white guys are the
Perfectly Normal Human of which everyone else is an imperfect copy.

We’re not made from a mould. We have endless variations
and they aren’t divergence from some Perfectly Normal Copy,
they’re literally the way life functions. There is no perfect copy. There are only variations, some of which have the privilege of being normalized.

But privileged people
see themselves as the default, and “too many differences” can seem “made up” to them, because they’re not used to relating to people who are different. Unfortunately we mentally ill/disabled
people absorb this idea too and it’s really hard to unlearn it when
we’re stuck in a society that’s constantly reinforcing it.

We
have to be gentle with ourselves and with each other and work on
normalizing variations like mental illnesses, disabilities, etc., so the
focus can be on meeting the needs of people who have them instead of
just surviving ableism.

encorgi:

fierceawakening:

bigenderbumblebee:

In case someone is struggling with this:

Something I’ve noticed from abusers, is they commonly try to shove themselves back into your lives, and when you try and say you don’t want them back, they’ll call you toxic for not believing they could ‘grow and change’. They try to guilt you.

Now while people are fully capable of growth and change, if they have abused you in the past, you have absolutely no obligation to forgive them or bring them back into your life. What they did to you still stands and still affects you.

You are never obligated to forgive anyone who abused and hurt you, regardless if they’ve actually improved or not. They aren’t your responsibility to care for and forgive.

And if it helps to hear, if they’d actually grown and changed, they would respect your wishes and back away without trying to guilt you.

I believe in you, darlings.

An abuser grows and changes when they begin to tolerate not controlling you. If they’re still trying to control you, WELP.

It’s 100% possible for an abuser to grow and change! And it’s important to acknowledge that people grow and change! But people don’t do that by re-immersing themselves in the exact same toxic situation. Even if they have experienced growth, that’s a great way to start backsliding. And you are NOT obligated to be their brakes.

It’s necessary for your own personal growth to do any kind of forgiveness on your own terms. Not theirs.

kameratar:

fuzzynecromancer:

fattyatomicmutant:

peteseeger:

That looks like two colors of playdough, a handful of beef bullion cubes and a ballpark frank.

I know EXACTLY what those damn potato things are, and they are hands-down solid proof that Norwegian culture is NOT worth preserving.

This looks like this person looked at two different traditional foods, and then just tried to replicate it with playdough. I have no idea what the dark stuff is meant to be, but the other stuff is just randomly combined stuff.

This is like putting taco-shells on your pizza and calling it tradition.

Also of what I think this is meant to replicate.. none of this is commonly eaten outside Norway, and it’s not consumed exclusively by white people in Norway either.

This looks like it’s christmas food with something else, and I would find it really hillarious if someone is eating christmas food in the summer and calling themselves traditional.

These people can’t even properly do the stuff they claim is their culture, this stuff really isn’t meant to look like playdough, and I want you all to realize that these people are conflating the food exclusively consumed in a country with like 5 million people, for a broad culture.

Anyway, I hope this person realizes they’re not worshipping culture or being traditional.. I actually instead as a Norwegian national, find it insulting this is labelled “proper Norwegian food”, as if this playdough-looking crap and some chewed up tobacco is at the peak of Norwegian cuisine.

Also one last thing.. Preserving? Traditional Norwegian stuff is only growing in popularity, and has even caught on in popularity in the Mid-West in USA… This person is just making up this common enemy from xenophobia.

Which is something I am not ok with as a Norwegian national, and I think many other Norwegians are also not ok with someone with the name “Sweden” in their name acting as if we are under attack by an enemy to push their bigoted views.

You don’t get to use our culture to push your crappy racist ideology, and you’re not starting off well by butchering the culture either.