-When I told the army doctor that sometimes my period pains make me unable to function for days, he didn’t even write that down. -When I told my dad “don’t touch me, I’m in pain” he backed down for a moment until my mom told him “she’s on her period”. Then he just laughed. -When I told my teacher before a big test that I was unable to do it because I was in extreme pain and could barely move at all, she said I was making up excuses and that it wasn’t a real reason not to do the test. -Wenever I tell someone about how different I feel during my period emotionally they say I’m just “making up drama”.
We need to start treating people on their periods like actual human beings in pain.
-The fact that it occurs monthly doesn’t make the pain less real. It should be treated seriously and with respect. -The fact that the hormones effect the emotions doesn’t make your sadness less painful or the anger less valid or that terrible feeling of being lost less terrifying. Guess what? Hormones affect everyone. Feelings aren’t always rational. It should be also treated seriously and with respect.
Please stop mocking people with periods. Please stop dismissing us. Please stop violating our boundries. Please respect people with periods.
Thank you!
Just to add to this, if your period is so painful it is altering your everyday life you need to see an OBGYN. Your period is not supposed to be so painful that it alters your daily routine and if it does it can be an indicator of something more serious such as Endometriosis or PCOS
Also, don’t feel ashamed to go on birth control of your period is just too much! Especially if you’re like me and your period just exacerbates the pain of your chronic illness so you can no longer function. You ARE NOT doing anything wrong, friendo, no matter what folks might think, you are taking care of yourself. You are preventing unneeded suffering. What a great world we live in today that this sort of thing is readily available.
Exclusionists who complain about “cishet apologists”, “cishet lapdogs”, etc. and then turn around and mock “mogai hell” identities because apparently we need to make our community palatable to cis straight people so badly its important to shut down identities that they might not take seriously enough be quiet challenge.
I love Queen because half of their songs are mind-blowing pieces about life and death and love and humanity’s inability to live together without destroying ourselves, and the other half are like “I love my bike”
actually there’s a third kind and it’s called “I’m Freddie Mercury And There’s Nothing You Can Do To Stop Me”
A fourth kind called “I’m Here, I’m Queer, And Can Make You Disappear”
“Omg look at this fucking shit, gluten free mascara, ahaha, people need to be fucking stopped.”
Yes, I’m sure the person with a wheat allergy wanting to avoid putting wheat containing things near their eyeballs is truly the reason society is failing.
Also if anyone does actually need gluten free mascara, Zuzu Luxe is one of the best I’ve been able to find. Hardly clumps and doesn’t flake off like a lot of the others. Their other products can be a little hit or miss texture wise, but the mascara is great.
I once saw a person point out that common allergens are in so many things, and it even has to do with “this facility uses it in another product but it’s still the same facility” and I stopped laughing. And then I felt bad. I was ignorant, but I didn’t think about like. My corn tortillas better not have gluten! They’re corn! And then I realized….same facility. Airborne particulates. Someone working on one line, accidentally dropping particulates in another line just by walking past.
Cause there are people who are *that* sensitive. And they deserve to be protected and have safe products.
I specifically do not take issue with people just not knowing things. Cause why the heck would anyone know things like that unless they ever had to? Why would you know wheat is a common ingredient in things like mascara or shampoo? I sure as shit didn’t till I started to piece together why my body went into meltdown every time I washed my hair.
What does get to me is how inherently shitty some people are about it. Like why is the first go to for things like this mockery? Why? I mean I know the answer is “society is inherently abelist even if people don’t realize they are doing it” but I’m still allowed to be frustrated by it. (It’s the same with infomercials. Those products are not lazy or worthless, they are designed for people with disabilities!)
And I know this seems like such an over reaction to something like someone in Walgreens being shitty over gluten free mascara haha. But it’s so much more than that.
So much of my daily life is emotional and mental labor just trying to spoon feed people how not to be unthinkingly meanall the time. And
it’s not like I can ever stop because this is my life. I am living in a
world not designed or meant to include me, so constant emotional and
mental labor is required to justify both myself and the things that make
my life easier.
And I wish people would just think with a little more kindness sometimes. That’s all.
Hey uh so, full disclosure here, my dad is gluten intolerant/has celiac disease, and I didn’t know that having non-food gluten-free products was important too… I thought it only affected you if you ate the thing.
So then I think the problem is that people don’t know enough about gluten-free and think it’s some fad, because if you’re not gluten intolerant/cursed with celiac disease, then going gluten-free has no benefits, right? (not knowing these things still doesn’t excuse people mocking others’ needs, though.)
The thing is neither do a lot of people with celiac disease. It’s not something all doctors mention to their patients as a possible source for issue or contamination (why? usually because the doctor diagnosing it will be a GI doctor and not always an immunologist, and that’s a problem cause celiac is an auto-immune disease), so a lot of us wind up wondering why we are still presenting with flare ups and other issues when our diet is so strict and we do everything we can to control symptoms through diet.
The latest trend of using wheat by-product to make compostable paper plates and cups has me on edge too, cause I’ve been handed a cup of water in one of those cups at a venue before and not realized until I’ve drank most of it and felt my throat start to constrict and realized that I am in Danger. And I’d have never known Why if the person hadn’t started talking about their cool hippy biodegradable cups which I thought were paper, but were paper spliced with wheat-by-product.
And the thing is, those things are marketed as “allergen safe” cause in theory the protein has been processed to death, but as anyone with severe allergies or celiac will tell you, even the smallest, tiniest amount can be enough to trigger a reaction.
So you’re right, not enough people understand what it is, or how severe it can be. And you could argue that part of this is because people treat it like a fad diet and a thing to be mocked vs say, a peanut allergy where people (though not everyone) respects the severity of what that can entail. But honestly, given how prevalent wheat allergy has become in the last couple of decades, it doesn’t surprise me that a lot of people, even those without actual celiac, have found some sort of relief through cutting out wheat products (ie their issue is not necessarily gluten but wheat) so in all honesty, who gives a shit. Allergies, diseases and yes, even food preferences need to be fucking respected. Which they currently are not.
“Why would you know wheat is a common ingredient in things like mascara or shampoo?”
Well fuck me sideways, I never would have guessed and I have a wheat allergy.
YIKES. i did not know this. i have no idea whether the bath products i buy for my family have wheat in them, because it never occurred to me that such a thing was possible, so i never checked. i hope i haven’t been making nick sick with shampoo!
i used to laugh at things being labeled gluten-free that i thought would be without wheat by default, and i assumed it meant the manufacturer was jumping on a fad diet bandwagon. i wasn’t being ableist, i just had no idea that celiac was more like a peanut allergy than like lactose intolerance. so when i saw ‘gluten free’ on an item that had never had wheat in it to begin with – gluten free cheese or whatever – i would kinda sneer at it and go “ugh, they’re making it into a fad so they can jack up the prices, like they did with ‘organic’ ten years ago.”
there IS a fad, though, and it sucks. because it means things are getting called gluten free that aren’t, on the assumption that the kale smoothie brigade won’t know the difference, since they don’t actually have celiac and all their Amazing Results are just placebo effect. then nick eats it and gets sick and the whole family has steam coming out of our ears because the idiot who put that label on there is too far away to hit with a frying pan.
I think the source of my complete unwillingness to tolerate truscum comes from one very specific reason. I can put up with a lot of nonsense from people, I can let them be wrong in any number of ways, saying ‘no skin off my back’ or ‘it’s none of my concern if they want to smack face-first into a concrete wall.’
But I’ve got one giant-ass berserk-button. I loathe it with every atom in my being when someone polices, dictates or tries to control the identity of another person.
This is what gets me. When I first got into social-justice spaces, this notion was pounded into my bones by every single one of my mentors.
DO NOTPOLICE OR ERASE OR DICTATE THE IDENTITIES OF OTHERS. UNDER ANY FUCKING CIRCUMSTANCE.
I might be bitterly disappointed into what a shitshow the SJ framework has been turned into on here, but the above is still something I believe with every fiber of my being.
I don’t give a shit if you don’t ~*~believe~*~ someone’s identity – their happiness and their ability to be true and authentic to themselves is a million times more important that what people who aren’t them believe or don’t believe.
I don’t give a shit if you screech and howl that your precious self is being ~*~harmed~*~ by other marginalized people. Congratulations on blaming majority society’s fuck-ups on your siblings, congratulations on learning to be as selfish and self-prioritizing as the best ‘screw you, I’ve got mine’ conservatives.
I don’t give a shit about your concern-trolly bullshit of ‘oh, we just don’t want people to make a terrible mistake’, falling face-first for the absolutely classic and bog-standard TERF and social-conservative propaganda that people will choose highly-stigmatized identities that could lose them everything from their families to their jobs, for ‘funsies.’
Let’s add in another thing, shall we? Fifteen years ago, ten years ago, hell, even seven years ago, the number of people I was seeing in online LGBTQ+ communities that could be described as ‘truscum’ was minuscule. Then the number just exploded in the last few years… in seemingly direct correlation with the slow rise in acceptance of nonbinary / genderqueer identities. When that realization clicked for me, the thing became even uglier.
I’ll be exceedingly blunt: ideologies based on identity-policing have zero place in LGBTQ+ communities, whether online or offline. It is our duty to see that every single one of our siblings finds a safe, welcoming space, that will give them the support and the tools to discover themselves, instead of denying them the knowledge of their own self.
This is pretty much exactly the reason why I could never swallow truscum or exclusionist rhetoric, either. I get so unbelievably angry when I see people say shit like “he/him lesbians are invalid and bad” like God fuck off? What fucking business is it of yours? Are you literally so insecure with yourself that you have to be a big, raging asshole to people who are not doing any tangible harm to anyone? And besides, I’ll call myself whatever the fuck I want and so can anyone else and there’s not a goddamn thing you can do about it. You want me to stop calling myself nonbinary, pansexual, and butch? You’ll have to kill me, motherfucker.
Tumblr’s official word is they’re having ‘a problem’ with the app that they’re working to clean up, but there’s a non-zero chance the two things are related. Apple kicks apps that don’t meet their cleanliness standards out of the store without warning sometimes. (I suspect that blogs properly tagged nsfw are being purged while non-tagged nsfw blogs remain untouched. hence: the pornbots are here to stay. probably.)
if your blog is nsfw, or you have any nsfw sideblogs, probably time to back them up & brace.
If your account(s) have been nuked, submit a ticket, inundate them because of their fuck-up.
I would strongly discourage blaming any discoursers on tumblr – fandom police or otherwise – for the purge.
First: as noted above, it may not be deliberate on their end. Tumblr’s coding is. Well. A mess. I wouldn’t put it past possibility. (Hence: take the time to notify tumblr if you don’t believe your deletion was deserved.)
Second: tumblr bloggers are not clients, so we’re unlikely to have site impact at this scale. Getting individual blogs mass-reported into oblivion? Yes. But fandom policers have a myopic outlook that prevents them from organizing a campaign that puts tumblr under so much pressure they just wipe out NSFW content entirely. (The effort is too long-term & seems only semi-adjacent to their goals.)
Rather: we’re eyeballs that advertisers want to reach. Losing the ability to gain eyeballs via the iOS App Store means tumblr loses advertising value. that hurts their bottom line – which seems much more likely to get tumblr off its ass, trying to look like they’re cleaning up their act.
Let’s not start a blame war over this. This is much more likely to be a marketability thing than a fandom politics thing.
“[…] we have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to media featuring child sexual exploitation and abuse. As this is an industry-wide problem, we work collaboratively with our industry peers and partners like [the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children] (NCMEC) to actively monitor content uploaded to the platform. Every image uploaded to Tumblr is scanned against an industry database of known child sexual abuse material, and images that are detected never reach the platform. A routine audit discovered content on our platform that had not yet been included in the industry database. We immediately removed this content.” [emphasis added]
until law enforcement has gotten involved and the work is done, we won’t have a complete story (and even then, we may not get one). however, the context is clear: the images being targeted are exploitative images of real csa/cp victims that reached the platform due to a discrepancy between available industry anti-abuse databases & tumblr’s database.
The work being done to complete the cleanup is clearly very sloppy, and a lot of well-known blogs posting explicit sexual images of many kinds are being purged from tumblr.
but the current blog purge appears to be a rushed attempt to wipe any and all real child porn from tumblr’s servers – not an attempt to wipe out explicit fanart of adolescent characters.*
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