hi! i’m autistic and have problems understanding speech as well as speaking. is it okay for me to learn/ use sign language, or identify with HoH?

lysikan:

audiencecat:

lysikan:

deafaq:

Hi,

anyone can learn sign language! šŸ™‚ Lot of autistic people use it, as far as I know, as well as people with other disabilities.

As for your identity, nobody but you can decide how you identify. Hard of hearing is a term that is usually used for people with hearing loss. If your problems with understanding speech come from auditory processing disorder or from something similar, that’s not quite the same thing and not every deaf person would welcome you into community. Its… complicated issue, sadly and I can’t tell youĀ ā€œyes you canā€ orĀ ā€œno you can’tā€. In the end, its up to you.

Also,Ā @andreashettle has lists of blogs who do have APD! šŸ™‚

Hope that helped,

Mod T

EVERYONE should learn and use the sign language of their region! The deaf/HoH community would love it if you could communicate with them in their preferred language!
As a nonverbal autistic, I use ASL to talk to family but I am stuck using text-to-speech/speech-to-text for most other people because no one who is not deaf/HoH thinks they areĀ ā€œallowedā€ to learn it.

LEARN SIGN. You are allowed. You are requested to.

Don’t claim deaf/HoH if you aren’t – just say you are nonverbal or semiverbal. Not being able to speak or understand speech is not the same as deaf/HoH, we just use the same tools to work with the mouth-noise people.

I’ve been told by a member of the Deaf community that I can call myself HoH if it makes life easier for me – the problem with turning the sound into words is in my brain, not my ears, but the end result is much the same. By requesting HoH accommodation such as subtitles or sign language I’m more likely to make it more common.

Same with me – I hear just fine – words just get turned into noise before I can grasp them most of the time. I avoid the deaf/HoH claim because I have seen people get mad about it and since it isn’t really the same thing it’s easier to avoid offending people and just admit my brain hates mouth noises šŸ™‚

What About Dignity and Respect? When Our Disability Attitudes Fail Us

gingerautie:

lysikan:

acemindbreaker:

lysikan:

ā€œI’ve confused my girls’ story with my story. I’ve felt entitled to share information about them because of how it made me feel. I’ve disclosed some details that, if shared about me, would make me embarrassed and hurt. I did it all in the name of reaching other special needs parents and offering hope and encouragement. It turns out that I can do just that without compromising my children’s dignity and respect as human beings.ā€

I very much agree with this, but I’d like some advice. As someone who is a habitual oversharer about myself, how do I judge what would be appropriate to share about my future child, when they’re not able to express their own preferences? If I base it off of what I’d be OK with my parents sharing about me, it’ll probably be a lot more than what most people would be comfortable with. Is there anywhere I can see a list of norms for what most people are and aren’t comfortable being shared about them without explicit consent? (Also, how much does anonymity change things? I know I’m more open about many things under a pseudonym than I am under my real name.)

As a fellow over-sharer, I don’t know – maybe someone who reads my babbles can offer some ideas.

Not mentioning bad things is a good start. Like, talk about what they’re good at, don’t go into detail about stuff they struggle with, or times they did something silly.

It’s a much smaller issue if you’re taking to a friend in private, than if you’re posting things online where they might be identified. If they could be identified? Then basically nothing negative orĀ ā€œsillyā€, because everyone will be able to see it, forever.

What About Dignity and Respect? When Our Disability Attitudes Fail Us

clatterbane:

Based on some recommendations after a quick search, I may just try getting a couple of pairs of M&S ā€œregular fitā€ for him to try. No crazy sizing to try to figure out, and they have apparently worked pretty well for some other people with muscular legs. With ā€œbig and tallā€ sizes readily available. That’s also cheaper than what he’s been buying.

I wouldn’t have thought to look there, and apparently neither did he so far.

And there should be two pairs in slightly different styles arriving tomorrow, for around Ā£50 total šŸ‘ Hopefully at least one will actually fit.

I was just finishing up an unexpectedly big takeout container of tom yum goong from last night, and yes I would say they put plenty of basil leaves in there! Even managed to catch one at the bottom between the container and the extra leak barrier plastic wrap šŸ˜…

(It was not only plastic wrapped under the lid, but also tied inside a plastic bag. No leakage inside the delivery bag…)

Based on some recommendations after a quick search, I may just try getting a couple of pairs of M&S ā€œregular fitā€ for him to try. No crazy sizing to try to figure out, and they have apparently worked pretty well for some other people with muscular legs. With ā€œbig and tallā€ sizes readily available. That’s also cheaper than what he’s been buying.

I wouldn’t have thought to look there, and apparently neither did he so far.