One good thing about being on my own for the weekend: great opportunity to eat up the rest of the squash and eggplant I didn’t finish before he came back from that last trip. At least without worrying about anyone having enough to eat while avoiding it đ
Rough plan, once I finally get the cat moved so I can use the stove. Pretty much a nightly thing around here, and I still feel like a meano every time đż All the prep work is already done and the rice has been soaking, so Iâd better not lose courage now *wry smile*
Good opportunity to use up the other half of that big marrow that was still lurking in the fridge, and a few other odds and ends that needed used up. With a few modifications to make it more actually South Indian influenced. Good thing I still had some curry leaves stashed in the freezer!
Also going to turn out a few onion bhajis to snack on, because I canât resist. With at least a nod to a three sisters meal theme, since I was messing around before and found that using a little masa harina along with the chickpea flour in pakoras makes for a really great flavor. Works really well subbed for rice flour in about any kind calling for that.
Can we just⌠normalize teens loving their parents? Like obviously youâre not obligated to if your parents are shitty, but damn, I love my mom. Sheâs there for me all the time and sure we have rough patches but honestly sheâs the greatest. Like. We need teens to know that they donât have to hate their parents just cause.
It must be nice to come from a nonabusive family. One that doesnât traumatized every emotional interaction to the point where you drive away any sign of love as a form of manipulation because thatâs all that you were raised with. đ¤ˇââď¸
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but loving ur parents is already normalized and its the kids w/ abusive parents that actually have to deal with misunderstandings and ignorance from others regarding this topic.
Hey there, Iâm talking about the trope where itâs seen as super uncool to like your parents that was literally pushed on teens through the media since the culture shift in the early 60s. The post has nothing to do with abusive parents. I was abused as a kid and honestly if the trope where teens have to hate their parents to be cool died, then kids with actual abusive parents would have an easier time recognizing abuse this has been a psa
âif the trope where teens have to hate their parents to be cool died, then kids with actual abusive parents would have an easier time recognizing abuseâ
Teen with abusive parents: I hate my parents
Teen influenced by society: Me too mine are the worst
The takeaway for teen 1: This is normal and itâs supposed to be this way
The takeaway for teen 2: My friendâs parents are like mine
The takeaway for any adult listening: All kids who complain about their parents are just being rebellious
Honestly, I think most teenagers who complain constantly about their parents are being abused, or at least come from families with serious interpersonal problems.
Of the people I know who did this from 12-17 who I actually knew well enough to have any idea, one was being hyper-controlled by parents who thought she was basically a doll and were angry with her for expressing any emotion; one had a stepfather who hit her and was being funneled into the psych system and diagnosed with ODD for denying she deserved it; one I donât know details about but âbringing vodka to first period in tenth grade and chugging it in classâ doesnât exactly spell âfunctional family life;â one – my older sister – lived in a house with a child molester and her abusive husband; one – me – was sexually abused.
Teenagers complaining about their parents is common because abusive parenting is common. The people I know as an adult who have good relationships with their parents didnât do it regularly as teenagers.
(Personal anecdata suggests most teenagers who are at the âI hate my parentsâ stage know theyâre being treated unfairly. I didnât leave because I was afraid of being arrested, not because Iâd ânormalized abuse.â Teenagers have very little power to leave on their own, and almost all of their options for asking for help are dangerous, sometimes more dangerous than their families. They donât invite abuse by accepting it as normal; our legal system just gives parents almost unlimited power over them.)
Iâm starting to think the âwhite is
not a culture, have pride in being Irish/whateverâ arguments are
losing a few key points.
Like, just within the US: there are
absolutely specific-ethnicity pride or heritage groups that serve as
fronts for white nationalism, or who are recruited from by white
nationalists. There are also specific-ethnicity groups that arenât
specifically connected to white nationalism but serve as fonts for
other conservative reactionary movements, some of which are actually
just as violent, genocidal and dangerous as white nationalism. Â
Outside the US, fascist groups in, say,
Serbia or Denmark are going to phrase it primarily as Serbian or
Danish pride at least a fair amount of the time. That doesnât make
them less evil.
If we want people to be able to
identify nationalist recruiting that comes under the guise of pride
in specific cultures, we need to talk about what nationalist
extremist recruiting looks like, and what their tactics are, before
they get to the point of openly talking about genocide in front of
you. Itâs not as simple as âWhat ethnicity are they?â Dangerous
nationalism exists in a lot of forms in a lot of countries â in
Europe and elsewhere (and in the debatable/bordering regions at the
edge of Europe.)
It isnât as simple as âis this group
really oppressed?â either. We need to acknowledge that some of these
groups have historically been oppressed, and some of the things they
point to as evidence theyâre persecuted will be factually true. That
does not give them the right to do whatever they want to people or
mean that anything they do is automatically punching up. The
genocides committed by the Ottoman Empire before its break up do not
excuse the genocide committed by Serbian fascists against Bosnian
Muslims in modern times, or the actions of Greek neonazis against
refugees and others in recent years. Neither does the economic
exploitation of states in eastern Europe by western Europe; being
anti-western doesnât make a groupâs behavior acceptable, either.
The flip side of this is that there are
some people who can point to no ethnicity besides âwhite Americanâ
or âwhite Canadian,â because they donât know much about their
family heritage for whatever reason or they donât have any strong
connection to a specific European culture, because their families
have been in North America for 100, 200, etc years and three
generations ago someone gave up on the last pieces of specific
heritage.
We need to be clear that we donât have
a problem with people because they donât know who their parents were or because their families caved to pressure to homogenize in the fifties.
The issue at stake is that white nationalists kill people, not
whether white constitutes an ethnicity in the United States.
If they
renamed themselves British nationalists, that wouldnât make them
better. And if ‘white prideâ really meant heritage groups that
primarily concerned themselves with traditional food festivals and
folk dancing, no one would care. At
it is, when these things exist in the context of âwhite pride,â
itâs for the purpose of luring people in and entangling them in a
social environment that promotes murder. This should be explicit.
1. I would wager good money it is that sombrero you have on, the one that you have decorated so thoughtfully with millions of sunflower seeds. 2. Oh god youâre some kind of ornithomancer arenât you? Just stop it, please. Itâs not funny any more. Last time you came over my underwear drawer was suddenly full of pigeons. 3. The energy required to maintain your human disguise against the horror of your true form bursting forth is so intense that it constantly makes small rips in the space-time continuum around you. Lacking the mental apparatus to percieve these correctly, we are interpreting them as birds flying past. 4. It is very thoughtful of you to pre-order us takeout chicken whenever we meet, donât get me wrong. Iâm just saying Iâd maybe like a kebab or a salad or something sometimes. Heck, even chicken but just slightly less of it. 5. Just like me, they feel the intense gravitational pull or your presence and must fight against it or get sucked in. How I wish I had not created you in my careless, heedless days at the nuclear collider! I pray for the day when our orbits cross no longer. 6. Actually I donât think those are real birds. I think they are people in chicken costumes. I suppose this is par for the course when you run for public office having made some less-than-courageous decisions in the near past.
Iâm in my mid-twenties, and honestly get so much hate over being childfree that Iâve started telling people I have an adopted daughter when they ask about my kids. I just conveniently leave out the fact that my adopted daughter is, in fact, a 40-pound sheep, one of roughly two dozen that live in my back yard.
It isnât even a lie, I raised that lamb on a bottle from the day she was born, as far as sheâs concerned Iâm her mom. And as long as Iâm vague enough, the problems of dealing with sheep sound totally believable as human toddler parenting problems. âOh yeah, my daughterâs two, she always puts everything in her mouth.â âUgh, my daughter is always climbing on stuff, I swear sheâs part mountain goat!â
I live for seeing how long I can keep it up before someone asks to see a picture of my little darling. âSure!â I say, âHere she is! Isnât she adorable?â then relish the horrified confusion when they see this tiny little brown sheep like:
Itâs the best thing. Itâs my favorite thing Iâve ever done, next to raising sheep in the first place.
the proto-indo-european word for horse, ekwos (which shows up in other indo-european languages, such as the latin equus and the greek áźľĎĎÎżĎ), very possibly comes from an adjective hâeḹus, meaning âswiftâ
so basically at some point people were coming up with a word for horse and they were like "itâs the thing that goes nyoomâ
proto-indo-european dude #1: hmm what should we call this animal PIE dude #2: letâs call them Speedy Boys cause theyre fast PIE dude #1: shit dude they sure are
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