http://aqhrodites.tumblr.com/post/163221101015/afrodeitys-afrodeitys-afrodeitys-its
Am I just being persnickety or does this say “intuit by telepathy when you do something wrong, even if no one tells you?”
Like, social justice is important, but we haven’t developed mind reading tech yet
I find that so much of SJ expects people to be mind readers and it just reminds me of my abusive friends who constantly punished me for not being able to read their minds constantly. For not knowing what I did wrong, what was on their mind, what color balloon they preferred (“that’s MY color, you should know that and always leave that one for me. Pick a different one!”)
Also the intuition thing feels kinda. Ableismy?? Not to just throw a scary word out. My intuition about a lot of things is not that great. I make a fool of myself a lot. But it’s because my brain does not pick up on things that might be common sense to others.
this just in: telling white people to stop relying on people of color to give them answers when they can just as easily go to google is abusive and ableist. thank you, so much, tumblr user newvagabond.
what the living fuck this is the biggest reach leave op’s post if you can’t seem to grasp this basic concept lmao
Yeahhh, not only a huge reach but an incredibly uncharitable one considering I’m talking about my experience as 1. someone who was abused (and who had PTSD) and 2. someone who is disabled.
And now people are calling me dumb! Which is a Cool Woke Thing to call a disabled person apparently.
Also worth noting… I’m mixed race. So me talking about this isn’t “lololol wypipo”, it’s, “hey, I exist on both sides and I see that this is a problem.”
Yeah. If you want to lol wypipo, yell at me, not my mixed friend.
I feel like in general expecting people to “teach themselves” this shit is practically impossible.
Like first off, a white person is not going to notice racism as easily. Even someone “woke” isn’t going to know ALL the possible fuckups.
To make matters worse, some things only like half of a marginalized group thinks it is offensive, meaning you get mixed messages on if to support things.
And this is assuming you are the average neurotypical with good social skills and can pick up on when you fuck up. But if you are the kind of disabled where you have people bullying you over everything you say because you can’t read the room, tell when you’re too rude, understand certian shit is socially inappropriate etc. It’s even worse becaise you likely won’t realize you’ve done anything wrong. If you have people react awkwardly often you might pick up on discomfort but you might assume its the usual “you are loud and annoying” kind vs. “This is offensive” kind.
Like if you don’t want to educate people that’s fine, don’t be an activist. God knows not everyone can be. But there needs to be some kind of actual education going on because if not most people will probably just give up trying to be better instead of attempting to research shit when they don’t even know what to google. This is literally worse then the “this is a bad post/___ist/wrong” reblogs because at least you can try to guess based on post content.
As someone who has had the shit beaten out of me for not being able to read people, I have to agree.
This!
And it’s something a LOT of us disabled people know, but… being around us will tell you about it, or show it to you.
Google won’t.
That and also…
…no one kind of oppression is special. No one experiences everything.
And this unforgiving approach of ~good people know everything without needing to be taught~ is a pretty strong indicator that someone thinks they know everything. And that they’re not likely to be so interested in listening when they don’t.
Also like, when you have no more information than “I made an error and now everyone is angry” and asking what you did wrong just makes people more angry, then you don’t actually have a googlable question.
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