“When Trump made office it put the fear back into the idea of it all. These kids were feeling fear for the first time and had never been touched. Why? Because we worked so hard to make sure they were never touched.”
This is Lynn Koval. She’s owned a gay bar in Biloxi, Mississippi for over twenty years.
I started writing down quotes from this interview, but eventually gave up because I SWEAR every single thing she said was quotable. She talks about the challenges of building intergenerational community, the continued importance of gay bars, knowing our history, and her hope for our future. Listen to her. It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear people covering LGBTQ issues and history in the American South. We don’t all live on the coasts, y’all.
@isabelknight Is it? I’ve tried that stuff and it’s really thick. I thought regular cream was like… drinkable
I honestly have no idea whether it’s what is meant in the contexts you’re seeing it, but I’m not sure what else it might be.
But I mean…I also dump unwhipped heavy whipping cream into coffee sometimes, so I think of it as drinkable, even if I don’t drink it straight.
Yeah, they do also sell extra thick spooning cream here, so maybe that’s similar to what you tried? I use a splash of the equivalent of whipping cream in coffee too, and it’s definitely pourable. Sometimes it will thicken up some as it sits in the fridge, before it goes obviously bad. That could be another possible explanation if it’s thicker; could just not be the freshest.
Here is one thing that I tell my students about competitions, which I think is absolutely crucial:
Your horse always gives you the best he has. Sometimes his best isn’t as good as other times, due to factors such as stress, fatigue, discomfort, fear, confusion – but know this: your horse is never willfully withholding something from you.
Similarly, you are always riding your best. Sometimes your best is not as good as other times, due to factors such as performance anxiety, nerves, excitement, frustration, fatigue, physical discomfort, distraction. Some of these things you may be able to get control over if you realize they are happening. Some of them you may not be able to fix in a few minutes, or even a few sessions.
So if you go to a show and you screw up because you were nervous and that made you stiff and restricted your horse’s movement and he didn’t score as high as you thought he could based on how he performs at home, take that as feedback for something to work on. Do not get discouraged and say, “I didn’t ride as well as I could.” Yes, you did. Your anxiety is a legitimate factor that inhibits your performance. You rode as well as you could given your anxiety. Do not beat yourself up – berating or shaming yourself is not a positive or constructive use of your time and energies. Instead, think of ways to improve your experience next time.
Similarly, if you go to a competition and your horse is stiff or tired from the journey, or tense and distracted in a new environment, do NOT get discouraged and say, “my horse wasn’t as good as he could be.” Yes, he was. He was the very best he could be given his nerves, or given his fatigue. He could not have been better on this day, with these factors influencing him. Accept that, praise him, and find a way to help him overcome these factors next time. Maybe he needs better fitness at home so that the journey doesn’t tire him so much. Maybe he needs a better warm-up next time. Maybe he needs more experience traveling and being exposed to different things. Whatever it is, don’t hold it against him, and don’t hold it against yourself. You both did your best. Training yourself and your horse for competitions is a process. I find that this simple shift in attitude makes competing and training so much more fun and fulfilling.
“I didn’t ride as well as I could.” Yes, you did. Your anxiety is a legitimate factor that inhibits your performance.
Do not beat yourself up – berating or shaming yourself is not a positive or constructive use of your time and energies. Instead, think of ways to improve your experience next time.
…This is useful life advice for everyone with an anxiety disorder, tbh.
The Kingdom of Equestria is inhabited by thousands of colorful, magical ponies, whose life cycle, socioeconomics, and biomechanics are best not investigated too closely. Their names are usually something like “Rainbow Dash” or “Diamond Tiara” or (my favorite because she’s totally a grad student pony): ‘Twilight Sparkle”.
Often the plot calls for crowd scenes (usually involving ponies in great peril), and I worry that some day the creators of My Little Pony will run out of names. In the spirit of being helpful, I decided to put a computer to the task of generating lots of new ponies.
It did come up with some pretty plausible-sounding ponies, certainly not as weird as some of the ponies that have already appeared on the show (such as Groucho Mark and Button Mash and Buzzard Hooffield).
Star Blueberry Sprinkle Cherry Bolt Berry Spy Sweet Glints Cheer Belle Sunferry Sunshine Star Sweet Bolt Cherry Curls Mint Flower Bright Seas Flight Star Plum Flower Sweet Suns Brash Clouds Cheery Breath Cloudy Daze Big Blue Brass Flare Blue Chile Coco Mane Neon Brush Strawberry Sun Sugar Top Cinnamon Mark Glowberry Amethyst Mist
The neural network also came up with some seriously tough-sounding ponies, ones that you would definitely want on your side when fighting giant killer cupcakes, or whatever the peril is this week.
Cold Sting Scarline Shoot Bolt Sunder Bright Dark Role Sob Dancer Sunsrot Masked Rock Roar Starlich Command Pony Deader Pony Flint Sting Steel Roller Dark Candy Scarphore Creep Well Prince Still Stare Rust Crack Colder Sanderlash Bitter Star
But the neural network’s results weren’t all successful. It also came up with some ponies that probably wouldn’t be on the A-team.
Dunder Dort Tardy Pony Flunderlane Flueberry Sherry Marina Doof Want Cone Starf Dad Star Star Flurtershy Starly Star Mr. Atple Pony Pony Packy Pack Pinky Swoll Apple Apple Dim McColt Free Sing Fail Poney Hoof Tasting Spar Dirky Flithers Arple Robbler Chest Star Barp Moon Mr. Wander
It also invented some ponies that are just plain weird.
Lilie Lice Billy Boon Wootson Mice Full Fish Crest Suns Sun Ramen Breek Smarky Hondsarors Blither Bon Persy Belly Pony String Heart Swinkleshine Flint Cream Star Sandlime Rocky Scooppony Piemonk String Punch Apple Stork Bunny Maze Lilac Ruster Winker-Moon Charmy Vine Swan Break Wags Pine Pearlicket Nandy Quark Firey Up Tracklewock Packin Flustershovel Aoetel Pakeecuand Tapshine Sugar Cloudsdalou Sandy Apple Mitten Splash Silvermice Butter Flash Agar Swirl Cheese Breeze
And a list of ponies you might want to avoid:
Clotter Raspberry Turd Blueberry Pants Benny Sweat Parpy Stink Blue Cuss Groan Rear Pony Lace Crunk Rade Slime Derdy Star Swill Brick Colona Pocky Mire Hoofed Snarch Apple Ronch Trowel Pony Smanky Hank Princess Sweat
The neural network also generated some ponies that would definitely not appear in a kid’s TV show – I’m not sure where it learned some of those words. If you want the unfit-to-print ponies, fill in your email here and I’ll send them to you.
Dead serious I am going to make some of these as customs.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you more than likely know what’s going on, but for those who don’t know: I’ve been in an extremely toxic, abusive relationship for the past 6 ½ years with my son’s father. We have a 3 year old together. While I did leave him last year, I (stupidly) came back in March under the promises of “things would change” etc etc. He has been emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and financially abusive. I am cooperating with the state in applying for all kinds of state assistance I am eligible for. I have an apartment and have our most basic needs covered. I need help with covering rent at the end of the month as I can’t do it by myself (my rent is $936), I have no consistent means of transportation (there is no bus/public transit in the city I live in) and I really realllyyy don’t want to have to allow my abuser into my home just to help cover these bills. I can manage on my own, but I need help getting on my feet and establishing my independence in the time being.
Any resources, encouraging words (I have virtually no support system), or other help is so much appreciated.
My PayPal is c.newago@yahoo.com, or PayPal.me/bizaanideewin
Please please don’t send anon hate or criticism, I cannot stress how hard I am struggling with my own guilt and self-blaming right now
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I’m having a sale on my website, if donating isn’t your jam.
Bringing this back, with an update: I wasn’t able to survive on my own so I had to let him in. Lo and behold the abuse continues. Today he punched a hole in the bedroom door. My dad is going to cosign for a new apartment for me back in my hometown, as long as I cover the costs he is going to help me move. I’ve already got a rental application submitted. I’m done I’m leaving I’m OUT. I have tangible proof and I can break the lease without repercussions through the domestic violence clause in the lease.
I just need help with the intial moving costs and initial housing costs- the apartment I applied for is $645 a month, security deposit same amount. First months rent and security deposit due at lease signing. Moving costs are around $400 (it’s a 300 mile move so it gets expensive fast)
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