new personality test: the sound u make trying to get a cat to come to you
Month: August 2017
nice things about being autistic
-hearing tiny beautiful sounds like water droplets and leaves crunching
-knowing lots of fun trivia from special interests over the years
-brightly colored things that make ur eyes happy
-that feeling when someone asks you to tell them about sth you know a lot about and it’s infodump time !!!!!!
-the Good Foods™
-when ur logical and rational thinking helps you solve a problem or think of something other people wouldn’t
-nice textures are So Nice: cats, very soft blankets, smooth and cold stones, the inside of a brand new sweatshirt(we could all use some autism positivity. pls reblog and add ur own! it’s ok if they contradict each other or if u don’t relate to all of them; we’re all different)
-happy stimming: when you feel so good it overflows into your whole body so all of you is just!!!!!
-making connections that no one else sees bc while looking for the words to describe something it just clicks into place with something completely different
-crunchy foods
-being so in touch with your identity bc you overanalyze everything, including yourself
-music that you can’t sit still to
-really tight hugs
-petting dogs and holding them and hugging them and playing and they never get bored of you!!
-the sheer joy of learning something new in your SIs
-memorizing things and repeating them over and over in a super SI/echolalia combo
-when you find those people who you don’t have to pretend with and can just be yourself without having to worry
-seeing yourself in fictional characters who are universally adored-being so happy that you bounce up on your toes
-rocking and getting into a rhythm
-when a room has a Good Smell
-swivel chairs
-touching soft things like nice scarves to your face
-when you find a really good mouth noise and repeat it over and over
-spinning in circles
-sweaters with long sleeves so you can play with the cuffs
-when you don’t have to emote like a neurotypicalTM but instead use the body language that comes naturally
-the shimmy joy of paint mixing videos
– listening to your favorite songs over and over and never getting bored of them
– that feeling of community and relief when you find out something you do is an Autistic ThingTM
– surrounding yourself with your SIs
– when you notice details about stuff that nobody else did and get to point them out or answer questions
– being great at jigsaw puzzles because of aforementioned tiny detail noticing
– finding stimmy apps that you can play with anywhere
– being able to switch between tiny details and Big Picture like a touch screen zoom in/out feature in your head
– feeling water and air press against your body when you spin around or go really fast
– having a more intimate connection with the world around you and being able to appreciate that fact through stimming
A vast majority of these little autistic things™ are actually experienced by regular people that do not have developmental disorders such as autism (can we also stop calling people ‘neurotypicals’ as though we are different from them, thereby creating even more of a divide). This post really glorifies having such a condition when it is actually a hinderance. I’m all for positivity and optimism around those with this disability, but it’s misguided romanticism such as this which ends creating a false image of what having autism is actually like.
This feels pretty insulting to those that actually do suffer from having autism such as myself (diagnosed at 8 yrs), because it ends paiting an even more infantile image of us which we already have to deal with from our peers that treat us like a joke throughout our life.
It would honestly really be nice for people to actually see us as normal everyday people rather than infantile and mentally stunted adult-children or these ethereal beings that tumblr keeps making us out to be. We are not magical unicorns. We are people.
Ok u are so ugly the op is autistic. People adding on are autistic. Like.
Did you honestly just decide to browse my blog to find this post from like a month or so ago? Talk about petty and childish… Kind of ugly of you, yourself.
Also, kiddo — I’m autistic too (with a speech & language impairment) and it’s been a struggle to have and my point was that it’s exhausting how lightly and amazing people are treating it, because I feel that if people aren’t careful, it’ll paint a very infantile picture of people struggling with autism — It stinks. Just because I disagree with OP’s outlook and yours doesn’t mean that autistic people that agree with my outlook shouldn’t be listened to or that the opinion is not valid. My point is also that there’s difference between romanticism and glorification (which just happened to be the impression I got from OPs post up until my response) VS. positivity and optimism.
Either way, we’re all strangers on the internet, it doesn’t really matter all too much what everyone here thinks (especially since it was made like a month+ ago — old news). Calm down.
Honestly youre the one who needs to calm down.
Yeah being Autistic totally sucks a lot of the time and thats why sometimes people need to not feel so shitty. Like its not necessary to bring your personal hangups into this space.
If you wanna make a Stuff About Autism That Fuckin Sucks post, then by all means please do so.
Let people try to not be miserable for five seconds of their lives for once.
I’m trying to get food together, and don’t have the wording ability right now even if I did have the time. But, I do need to ramble some more after while about pragmatism knocking up against widgets.
Or love in general, for that matter. It just leads to the idea that either your love is pure, perfect, and eternal, and you are storybook-compatible in every way with no problems, or you’re LYING when you say ‘I love you’.
The mouseover caption for this one was so dead on the mark I had to drag it over here. (
Why yes, I am re-reading the entire back archive of xkcd, why do you ask?)
*drops gender from my inventory to carry more items*
Something for Everyone
You know, I think a lot of modern internet culture war shit goes back to the ‘60s-‘70s (counter)cultural refoundation that both sides claim lineage from. ‘cause there’s a sense it was sold as something for everyone – women, racial, and gender/sexual minorities would get their civil rights and inclusionary movements recognized, in return straight white guys got the consensus that Cool People agree: sexualization is Correct, being offended is Incorrect. And there’s a growing sense (from all sides) that the terms have not been upheld.
Sad Puppies and the Hugos. Because that’s what we’re talking about now, apparently.
Both sides claim to be the true heirs of SFF. The antis sniff that it’s obviously them because the genre has always been committed to a progressive vision, especially starting with the ‘60s-‘70s and the New Wave.
And that’s not wrong, but there’s a lot of stuff under that aegis. You have Left Hand of Darkness, with LeGuin all “gender fluidity would be great; we could experience our true selves independent of mutilatory social structures, and it would give rise to meaningful new cultural practices oriented around the beauty of self-discovery and self-crafting”.
And then there’s Varley’s Eight Worlds, which is like “Just imagine, if perfect sex changes were consumer services like haircuts, you could experience banging-hot hetero sex from both sides!”
Or Marion Zimmer Bradley all “adding strong female characters to fantasy allows us to escape tedious military epics towards an exploration of the importance of emotional labor, correctly identifying life-creation, not -destruction as the fundamental force of history”.
And meanwhile, “Red Sonja, DAAAAMN. She could force herself on you, how hot is that?”
(Joss Whedon postures like he’s from the Bradley tradition, but he’s toooootaly from the Red Sonja tradition.)
And then you have stuff like Stranger in a Strange Land, which is about interspecies tolerance, peace, love, and understanding, as enabled by author-insert dirty old man Jubal, attended poolside by his harem of buxom secretaries, including the one trained to totally suppress her personality so to better serve.
Like I said, something for everyone.
(Modern equivalent being Kim Stanley Robinson, recurring theme being “If scientists ran the world, there would be peaceful, multicultural, inclusionary socialism. And also collective nude bathing, where young female students seduce their mentors.”)
And you know, I’m still waiting on the WisCon panel on “Recovering the Promise of Teenage Groupies”.
Honestly I’m not much in the fandom these days but I do get Gardner Dozois’ “World’s Best” anthology every year, and I have noticed an increase in stories where nothing happens, but at least it’s brown and queer folks it’s not happening to.
One story a bit back that stuck with me, the message seemed to be “working in a Foxconn plant would suck”, which okay but I couldn’t even tell what was SF about it. Another that started promising – in an Islamic country (bcuz good point, the future won’t just come for white Anglophones), polygamy and semi-arranged marriage coexist with social media (ditto), and men hire Cyranos to polish their appeal, under the pressure that not every man can win even one wife. That’s a solid premise! But once this is established, the protagonist just throws up his hands and experiences a wave of relief as he realizes he could just be gay instead.
And it’s like… wut.jpg
In a proper world an editor would’ve returned that with a note saying “great story, can’t wait to see it when it’s done”. But that’s exactly the issue, isn’t it, that box-ticking and message Correctness are being accepted in lieu of quality.
Actually, you know what that really reminds me of? Christian rock.
Christian rock? How so?
I wasn’t aware there was this much focus on sexuality. I mean, it makes sense, though, if it emerged in those decades of Free Love. Does this mean you’d characterize the Campbellian vs. New Wave thing as “military adventure vs. sexcapades”?
(Also, I am here for Red Sonja, though I’m willing to bet that her depiction has changed considerably in the comic world. No idea about the original source material, though.)
EDIT: Also, we see more general fanservice-y stuff, from modern anime like Infinite Stratos and maybe Macross, to older stuff like BattleTech (where MechWarriors canonically wear little more than shorts and tank tops because heat buildup radiates into cockpits).
It’s that modern, SJW approved media, specifically SFF created and published to be SJW approved, is very similar to the Christian publishing and music industries.
Being in The Industry myself, I’m gonna expand on this a little.
I don’t entirely agree with isaacsapphire, in that there are plenty of talented writers publishing “SJW-approved” media.
It’s not just whatever’s happening to win the awards this week.
(I’d recommend Roanna Sylver, Austin Chant, and Shira Glassman, and out of the more famous authors Seanan McGuire is really good in her own right.)
That being said: Christian publishing has notoriously low standards, because The Message is more important than craft or polish. As an example: the Left Behind series, one of the most infamous works of “Christian fiction”, was written in one draft, received minimal copyediting, and then was published. It shows- the characters meander all over the place, make a lot of phone calls, and often seem to forget that there’s an apocalypse happening around them.
But it had The Right Message- it was explicitly Christian, it had nothing to offend the right-wing Purity Police in it, and it trumpeted anti-abortion, anti-gay-rights, and pro-Family Values causes. So it got published. And then people bought it by the score because it was the closest thing to SFF they were ‘allowed’ to read, and in some Christian bookstores it sold more copies than anything other than the Bible. (Mostly because it’s a 12-book series, with prequels and multiple spin-offs.)
… If Message is more important than craft, if the ideology of what you’re writing is more important than the story you’re telling, you’re going to put out crap. It’s inevitable. A story can hit all the right MESSAGE tickboxes and still be ridiculously awful. Likewise, you can disagree with every bit of the message a story is trying to press, while still enjoying it as a story. (Narnia, anyone?)
I do think SF/F Media Aimed At A Lefty Audience has this problem- particularly literary SFF- though I don’t think it’s anywhere near as bad as Christian media. There’s still plenty of quality art out there being marketed in that intensely SJ way (OMG IT HAS GAY CHARACTERS). But there’s also a lot of hype for stuff that’s mediocre at best and wouldn’t be getting nearly as much attention if it WASN’T targeted at SJ people (and if MRAs weren’t raising a stink about it).
We need to be critical about the quality of what media we’re consuming, and not just about whether OMGITHASLADIESDOINGCOOLTHINGS or OMGTHEREISQUEER. Otherwise people will try to feed us shit and call it sweet corn.
…And after all, one of my short stories got published and won an award, mostly because it was about a trans person. I think that says everything you need to know about the quality of the industry right there.“There’s still plenty of quality art out there being marketed in that intensely SJ way (OMG IT HAS GAY CHARACTERS).”
Yeah.
Like, I’m published by queer presses, so all my protagonists are some flavor of gay. But I also tend to write very dark stuff, full of power games and drama. I feel like if I said, like, “Salvation has gay men in it!” and the usual people who go for that kind of ad bought it… well, some folks would like it, or at least I hope so. But I get the sense some of them might be unpleasantly surprised.
Which is why I’m not a huge fan of that type of ad. I won’t say I’ve never done it–I did yell pretty loudly that The Cyborg He Brought Home has a trans dude in it!–but it seems a bit empty. What are your gay or trans or POC characters actually doing? What’s your plot?
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