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Month: August 2017
Hello! What are some common misconceptions about keeping hedgehogs?
fantasticbeastsandhowtokeepthem:
Oooh, I like this ask, thank you!! I get to talk about one of my favorite subjects! đ This doesnât quite cover everything (Iâm not gonna touch breeding in this post), but these are a lot of the main ones Iâve seen over the years.Â
Hedgehogs donât need extra heating – if youâre comfortable in a t-shirt, theyâll be fine!Â
NOT true. Normal room temperatures or individual comfort zones vary a lot by people. The vast majority of the time, hedgehogs will need a separate heating set up, even just as back up, and some hedgehogs can be very sensitive to fluctuating temperatures. The usual âsafeâ range given is 73-80F. But a lot of hedgehogs may end up with a hibernation attempt if the temperature falls from 78 during the day to 73 at night. So you have to be careful.
People are also very bad at telling temperature by how it feels – you MUST use a digital thermometer for your hedgehogâs cage.
Even for people who live in warm states like Florida & Texas, itâs often recommended to have a back up heating system, just in case. Hedgehogs can also become more temperature sensitive when they get older or if theyâre sick, so itâs good to be prepared.
Hedgehog food for hedgehogsâŠ.right?
Hedgehog food is NOT good for hedgehogs – the ingredients are very poor quality in most of them, to the point of causing malnutrition. Good quality cat & dog foods are currently the best commercial option available, though it sounds weird (and vets donât usually like this).Â
Hedgehogs donât really NEED insects.
Hedgehogs are primarily insectivores in the wild. They should have insects in their diet. While they wonât outright die from not having insects if theyâre eating a balanced commercial food – which is what we tell new owners panicking over a picky hedgehog on my forum – itâs still a really important part of their diet. Owners should make every effort to incorporate insects as a regular part of the diet, not just treats. This is an excellent post that discusses this more – http://hedgehogsofasgard.com/post/164150669251/hedgehog-nutritionÂ
Awwww, look at that cute hedgie getting a belly rub!!Â
A lot of people see cute pictures of hedgehogs on the internet where theyâre seemingly content on their backs or getting belly rubs or posing with all of their quills flat. These are a single snapshot from a well-socialized hedgehogâs life. Right after that picture was taken, the hedgehog probably started flailing wildly to try & get off their back – a very vulnerable position for a prey animal. Well socialized hedgehogs may let their owner (someone familiar & trusted after months of interaction) rub their belly, pet their face, etc. It takes MONTHS to get to this point though!Â
Hedgehogs are defensive, shy, easily startled prey animals covered in sharp needles. They are not social, they do not typically seek out interaction or affection, and they do not play like a dog or cat. During the first weeks/months of handling, they will likely quill up easily, curl up in a ball frequently, startle when you make any noise or movement, huff/hiss/pop to try & scare you away, and may even bite. This is really discouraging for new owners and is a common cause of hedgehogs being rehomed in their first year. And a lot of this behavior typically continues even after theyâre well socialized – hedgehogs may ball up when first picked up in their cage, or have grumpy days where they refuse to put their quills down, or may always huff & hiss at you a lot. Itâs something important to keep in mind before bringing one home.
4 square feet is totally fine for a hedgehog cage.
So this is one weâre currently working on trying to revamp in the US/western hedgie world. The recommendation for some years has been a minimum cage size of 4 square feet. This is too small! This only gives enough room for a wheel, a hide, and food/water bowls. Maybe a tube or ball. This is a sad lack of enrichment for an animal that spends their time in the wild roaming long distances, digging, and searching for insects. The minimum cage size should be 8 square feet. This is the case in many European countries and the US is very much outdated here. Plastic totes are often used as a cheap cage option here, but a lot of people will only use one and itâs just not big enough. If two or more are connected, they can work as a good hedgie home, but this isnât often the case.
My hedgehog is lonely & needs a friend/mate.
As said above, hedgehogs are NOT social creatures. They do not need or want a friend!! If you want a second hedgehog, get one for YOU, not for your first hedgehog. And keep in mind that youâre doubling your time for socialization – they need to be quarantined for at least 3-4 weeks, even if you get your new one from a breeder. Even after quarantine, you may need to keep socialization separate. Female hedgehogs can often get along enough to share socialization time in a playpen or on their human. But male hedgehogs may fight, so must be VERY carefully watched. And male & female hedgehogs should NEVER be out together! Hedgehogs mate very quickly – never let them be in a playpen or next to each other in the cage or out unless you have breeding quality hedgehogs & youâre fully prepared for babies.Â
Hedgehogs should also NOT be housed together in 99% of situations. Female hedgehogs can sometimes get along – but you need 8 square feet per hedgehog and a wheel/hide/bowls for each hedgehog in the cage. You will not save on equipment or space by housing hedgehogs together. You WILL increase your risk of hedgehogs injuring each other, sharing illness, & having difficulty telling if one has decreased or stopped eating.
Hedgehogs donât need much vet care.
Okay, so I havenât really seen that said outright to my memory. But a lot of people severely underestimate the veterinary needs of hedgehogs and itâs a very important subject. A couple of points to make here. First, hedgehogs are exotic pets – most vets will not see them, you need to locate a hedgehog-experienced vet before bringing one home. Second, make sure your vet has seen hedgehogs. Ask how often they see them, or how long theyâve been seeing hedgehogs. Just because theyâre willing to see them, doesnât mean they know what theyâre doing. Try to find one experienced with hedgehogs if at all possible – if you canât, itâs okay to find one that is willing to & also willing to do the necessary research and work with you to give your hedgehog the best care possible.Â
And third, hedgehogs are good at racking up vet bills. They really are – common health issues include skin infections, mites, URIs, uterine issues, and cancer. All of these things require vet visits to diagnose & treat. Skin infections can be fungal or bacterial & may need skin cultures to narrow down for treatment. Mites need to be treated with Revolution, which needs to be prescribed by a vet in the US. Do NOT treat mites with Ivermectin – itâs been deadly to hedgehogs in many cases. URIs need to be treated ASAP – they will not go away on their own & can quickly progress to pneumonia, which can be deadly. Female hedgehogs may start showing blood in their urine – sometimes this can be a urinary tract infection, but is often uterine issues that require spaying. And hedgehogs are overwhelmingly prone to developing cancer of various kinds. Some have a better prognosis than others – uterine cancer can often be treated by spaying. Oral cancers are ugly, fast-moving, and cannot be easily removed most of the time.Â
Itâs very important to be prepared for a vet visit at any time. Hedgehogs are prey animals that hide symptoms as long as they can. Once they are showing signs of illness, they need vet care ASAP. Itâs recommended to have a vet fund of at least $500 saved up for emergency situations. The more you can save, the better. If youâre in the US, you can also get veterinary insurance through Nationwide, which is currently the only company that offers coverage for exotics. This would be well worth it for hedgehogs – the cost is only about $8/month and can save you hundreds of dollars. Get it early, since pre-existing issues are NOT covered.
You should also plan on wellness visits for your hedgehogs at least once a year. Twice a year is even better, especially if you have a hedgehog that already has a history of health issues (like my Pancake). Wellness visits can catch problems early, before they become harder & more expensive to treat.Â
All of this! And I can confirm the vet bills. Iâve had many different animals in my life and none have needed vets as often as my hedgehogs.
Slightly similar to the cage size one but what really bothers me is when people say ââŠ(but) all he does is sleep, eat, drink and wheel.â This is usually said in defence of having a small, fleece lined tub with food/water bowls, a hide, a wheel and maybe a few toys at best. Of course he wonât do anything else if you donât give him anything else to do! Most hedgehogs donât âplayâ with toys like some other animals and since theyâre not rodents they donât really use chew toys either, but there is so much more you can do for them enrichment-wise which focuses on natural foraging behaviours (such as dig boxes, more natural enclosures or toys to hide treats in), scented items (for anointing/new stimuli) etc.Â
One maladaptive coping mechanism that turns very toxic when youâre
not defending against abuse is to read any uncomfortable situation as a
deliberate personal attack, and sometimes extrapolate one incident into a
whole pattern of malicious intent.Examples:
- âHey, I have a headache, could you please lower your voice a little?â
– âFINE I guess I just wonât say anything at all!â- âHey thanks for inviting me, but Iâm not feeling well, so Iâm sorry but I canât make it. Maybe (x day) instead?â
– âSorry for asking! I guess Iâm just too needy for you!â- (Someone forgets to call you back.)
– âYeah I donât think weâre friends anymore, she acts like she hates me.â- âHey, what you just said about me was literally not true. Why did you say that?â
– âRight, Iâm just a piece of shit who should never talk at all I guess!â- âI donât really feel like sex tonight.â
– âSorry Iâm so repulsive to you!â- âYou really hurt my feelings. Why did you do that?â
– âGo ahead and just break up with me, I know youâve been wanting to.âThis kind of response escalates an interaction from a two-way conversation about a specific problem into a fight about your own self-worth. Instead of reponding to whatâs actually happening or interrogating whether an attack was intended, this response immediately changes the conversation into a defensive argument where the only relevant question is if youâre an okay person that people care about.
Like I get feeling this
kind of reaction, I get having a knee-jerk response of fear and shame
and self-loathing. Sometimes when youâre feeling vulnerable it is very,
very difficult not to read super far into anything negative. Sometimes
it just reflects off all your internal fears and amplifies inside of you
until a polite ânoâ feels like everyone youâve ever liked is telling
you they hate you.But it is possible, with some work, to
separate your feelings from your actual knowledge of the situation. Itâs
possible to feel one thing in your heart and still recognize with your
mind that the reality is different. You can learn to notice the
difference between someone actually attacking you and something just
feeling like an attack because youâre extra vulnerable.You
can also learn not to react based solely on your feelings. You can learn
to take another personâs actual words and actions into account and
respond based on what you think – not just feel – their intent actually was. That work is
as necessary as it is difficult. ÂPeople need to be able to tell
you things that arenât overwhelmingly positive without you making them
feel guilty for saying anything and treating their concerns as an
attack.Otherwise, you wind up in a position where they canât be honest with you. They canât say no to you, canât tell you when something you do hurts or scares them, canât point out worrying things as
friends do to take care of each other, canât bring up their own needs without the conversation devolving into comforting you again.This habit interacts especially badly with
the way many other trauma survivors are terrified of upsetting anyone â
when your reaction to them bringing up problems or saying no is consistently disproportionate, they may
find it easier to just do what you want even against their own will.It is possible to deal with those awful feelings and get the comfort you need without resorting to lashing out when you feel bad. Itâs okay to be honest about the fact your emotions donât always line up with reality so people know what youâre going through. Itâs okay to just ask for the emotional support you need or for confirmation that they mean what they say.
You may even find that when you make a continuous effort not to treat these uncomfortable experiences as crises, they deescalate and you wind up feeling more secure each time.
Look, this coping mechanism, like many forms of manipulation, is a useful survival tool in the context of an abusive relationship where you really are being attacked insidiously, and where you canât just ask for comfort and expect to get it. But if you are no longer in that kind of situation, itâs time to reevaluate the usefulness/danger ratio and figure out what other strategies might be better for you and the people you love.
i have people in my life who act like this and i know they have valid reasons to do so but itâs also so, so stressful to deal with!!!!!
Almost wishing I hadn’t seen that Nutella truck heist thing. It reminded me there’s a jar in the kitchen đ«đ°
one of my friends is a very pregnant dog and like 3 times a day i say to her âhello! you are full of several other smaller dogs!â and she wags her entire body at me like âitâs true!!! i contain multitudesâ
i love that ur friend is the pregnant dog. what a nice friend to have.
ya sheâs my buddy i love her!
update: there were five (5) smaller dogs inside my dog friend, but now they are all outside of her instead (!!)Â
GREAT UPDATE NOW YOU HAVE SIX FRIENDS!!!
ya theyâre my buddies i love them!!!!!
When Trump talking about âtaking away historyâ and âtaking away cultureâ in regards to the Confederate monuments, he doesnât actually gives a shit about history or culture. Heâs striking fear into his base and appealing to their racist anxieties that we are browning up (and in their mind, ruining) America.Â
Do you think Trump gives a shit about history books in schools rewriting history to omit references to slavery AND downplaying the accomplishments of Black Americans? Do you think he gives a shit about politicians who try to ban (and in some cases succeed) the learning of Latino and Native history in schools? Do you think he gives a shit about the history thatâs lost when indigenous land is bulldozed over? Do you think he gives a shit about the continuing loss of indigenous languages, religions, cultures, and people due to colonization?Â
Do you think he gives one second of a thought on Black and brown history? Hell no. His words are explicit. Heâs appealing to a very certain base here and thereâs a reason why itâs the same language we here from the Richard Spencers and the David Dukes of the world.Â
Truck With 20 Tons Of Nutella And Chocolate Vanishes; Police Hunt For Semi’s Sweets
folks, Iâm just gonna say it. I donât think it rains for long enough periods of time. it rains hard, it sounds good, Iâm comfortable inside, but within 5 minutes the jig is up. the dream is over. I think it should rain for longer periods of time than it presently does
op has never been to ireland
or scotland
or london
the WHOMST?????
Historically, there are major four groups that have commonly been described as âadventurersâ:
a. Pirates and bandits who realised that the real money lay in getting people to pay them to go pillage someone else;
b. Members of the idle rich who wandered about robbing tombs and subjugating the locals for fun rather than for profit, often distinguishable from the first group only by the presence of a âSirâ before their names;
c. People who just wanted to look at birds, but it sort of got out of hand; and
d. Lesbians.
Now, Iâm not saying that this taxonomy would make a reasonable basis for a class system in a tabletop roleplaying game, but Iâm not not saying it either.


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