Relationships are scary and complicated ONLY when you start thinking of your partner as some kind of adversary.
You know how to stop being scared of relationships? Remember that it’s got a goddamn buddy system *built in*. That’s all a relationship IS: “Let’s approach life with the buddy system.”
Check on your buddy. Make sure your buddy doesn’t forget their lunch box on the schoolbus. Hold hands with your buddy so you don’t get lost. If your buddy wants to look at the monkey cage, look at the goddamn monkey cage with them. If you are the one looking at the monkey cage, ask your buddy what they want to do next, and when they want to feed the giraffe, help them find a quarter for the little food dispenser. Be a good buddy, and if your buddy isn’t a good one too, tell the teacher and ask for a new one.
This isn’t fucking rocket science, people.
I have reblogged this before. I will reblog it again. And it’s not just romantic relationships: it’s family members and friends as well.
This kind of woke my ass up because of the amount of times I’ve had a buddy who didn’t check on me, didn’t want me to check on them, but didn’t want me to leave.
The dog has an issue where his esophagus doesn’t work right; it doesn’t get food in there right because it’s all stretched out and stuff. So what dog owners (and cat owners and I guarantee you the cat ones look goofier) do is make a highchair and feed them upright so gravity can be a hero. It’s also really cute.
The disorder is called Megaesophagus.
Here is a cat with the same disorder in his eatin’ sock.
But plenty of us are semiverbal. Plenty of us are varying degrees of verbal. Some of us are mostly verbal, with periods of being nonverbal, or specific circumstances that will cause us to become nonverbal for a while. Some of us are mostly nonverbal, but will be verbal from time to time.
If you want to be a good ally to autistic people, understand that verbal status is not set in stone, and is not merely a dichotomy of verbal autistics versus nonverbal autistics.
Understand that verbal status does not indicate intelligence or willingness to communicate. Understand that verbal status can be very fluid. Understand that verbal status has no bearing on hearing status.
Every autistic person is different. Be wary of putting us into neat boxes.
To other autistic people, did/do you ever struggle to take notes during classes?
I don’t even try taking notes anymore. I’ll write down a due date or something a long those lines if need be but not much else. I can’t write and listen at the same time so if I try to write something down, even if I’m just copying from the board, I will miss what the teacher is saying. I can do slightly better if I’m typing instead of handwriting but not by much. Mostly I just focus on listening and have my hands stim with something.
Pretty much the same here. I’m also HOH besides the auditory processing problems, and it’s really hard to try to lipread and take many notes without getting totally lost. Typing might help some, but handwritten it just doesn’t work.
Tbf, that last awful GP I had was a British Asian guy who obviously grew up here. But, I have yet to get treated in the same low respect ways by another adult-immigrant from anywhere, working in the NHS. So, I feel safer taking my chances there.
Another thing that gets me with the ongoing healthcare access problems here is that I can’t even just say something like “I’d prefer to see a woman” or “I need someone who speaks Language X” (and probably comes from at least a more similar culture) to try and increase my chances of getting treated like a person.
The actual demographic I’ve had the most problems dealing with, for whatever reason(s)? White English people (with particularly bad reactions from some older women). And who’s liable to look like a racist crank, with no obvious more socially acceptable way to dress that up? Hmm.
bi women asking to not be written off based on relationship status =/= “forcing you to care about m/f relationships”, so jot that down
honestly this wouldn’t be an issue if people viewed bi women as fully fledged humans and not units within a relationship (usually m/f ones because people LOVE to treat us as extensions to men)
so what if she’s in a monogomous relationship with a man? she’s a whole person who has a whole world and identity outside of it. To deny her community based on relationship status is to deny her personhood outside of her relationships.
and to deny her personhood outside of her relationships is to isolate her and make her more susceptible to abuse from straight men!
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