Gray Fox (Urocyon cinereoargenteus)
What’s
that, up in the trees, leaping nimbly from branch to branch like a
squirrel?It’s a Gray Fox (Urocyon cinereoargenteus), a canid that’s as
at-home in the trees as it is with all four paws on the ground. One of
only two canid species that climb trees, Gray Foxes grow long, curved
claws to scramble up into the branches.Their diet mainly consists of
more terrestrial prey like rabbits, rodents, and other small mammals,
but their arboreal lifestyle helps them avoid larger predators of their
own, including dogs and coyotes. Gray Foxes even sleep in the trees,
denning in tree hollows as high as 30 meters off the ground.photograph by Renee | Flickr CC
(via: Peterson’s Field Guides)
Month: August 2017
Troublingly, many of the ideas that doctors have about fat patients aren’t even grounded in medical fact. Indeed, too often it’s forgotten that the science around weight loss and health isn’t all that settled.
Does excess weight cause you to live a shorter life? Maybe, maybe not. Countless studies by BMI category have found that overweight people actually have lower rates of all-cause mortality than normal weight people.
Some researchers think that if you adjust for the increased risks caused by weight cycling (a.k.a. yo-yo dieting) and dangerous weight-loss drugs, you’d find the same mortality rates for normal, overweight, and obese people — yes, even very obese people.
And even without the adjustments, the increased risk for very obese people is only small — not the “you’ll be dead before you’re 30” nonsense often pedalled by purveyors of weight-loss surgeries.
But make sure you define “backtalk” reasonably. Don’t discipline it out of someone to be loud about what they prefer or dislike, even if they are raucous and you are quiet.
I’ve never understood this “talking back” thing. (I speak Russian with my parents so this isn’t a phrase I’ve seen used in real life, I’ve only seen it in books and gotten confused… like, you’re not supposed to respond to your parents when you disagree with them?? what??)
Can someone explain this please?
As I understand it, it means responding to someone’s reasonable demand by saying something bratty or surly.
So, like
“If you want to live in this house, you have to keep your living space clean. We’re starting to have vermin problems.”
“Fuck you and your stupid rules, man!”
But authoritarian types use it to mean any defiance of an order, which I think is bad.
As someone who got in a lot of trouble for talking back as a kid, it includes things like “asking questions judged to be unnecessary”, “making rude comments or complaining”, “verbally refusing a direct or indirect order”, or even “politely correct an adult about factual matters.”
I actually thought this was some kind of conservative parenting meme at first because of the use of the word backtalk.
I’m not sure what I think would be a good, healthy parenting approach to “backtalk” because I’ve seen permissively raised children being outright verbally abusive to their parents or telling them off in ways that would count as incitement if between adults. It’s also just not the way that you want your kids to behave in general, or be in the habit of behaving in their closest relationships.
There’s definitely such a thing as being too permissive, but I have mostly seen parents punishing children for not following orders with an appearance of a “good attitude” and performance of happiness, not just demanding compliance in action, but in emotion.
“I’m not sure what I think would be a good, healthy parenting approach to “backtalk” because I’ve seen permissively raised children being outright verbally abusive to their parents or telling them off in ways that would count as incitement if between adults.”
Yes, this. This is why I’m uncomfortable with the idea that backtalk is never a thing.
Some people actually do behave badly toward authority figures, either to test them or to express “I don’t respect you.” Think of like, the stories where a young, perky, well meaning Nice White Lady goes to a poverty-stricken school and the kids humiliate her as a way of showing “we don’t trust you.”
I do think intentionally bad behavior is a thing and is a thing that some people do. (G1 Starscream, anyone?) But I think it usually happens for a reason that’s more complicated than just someone being mean.
Usually it has to do with the kid not being listened to or not being respected. “If you don’t respect me, I won’t respect you.”
The medical community on literally every female specific health issue ever: “very common condition” “no known cause” “no known cure” :))))))
What the fuck is tumblr? Like honestly what is this? Do you guys pull shit out of the inner most depths of your rectum and then just throw it on your keyboard and have it turn into a post???? This site is something else what the fuck is wrong with you people????!?!?
Endemetriosis
Vaginal Thrush
Menorrhagia
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
Fibroids
Very common conditions, causes are unknown or only speculated, long term cures have not been found. Most can cause chronic pain or discomfort, all can seriously impact your quality of life.
Men are so damn privileged they can’t even imagine female bodies have different healthcare needs than theirs and that our healthcare needs are important even if they can’t be affected by one of these conditions.
Endometriosis causes excruciating pain and is a leading cause of infertility. Thrush is extremely
uncomfortable, and expensive to treat repeatedly; over-the-counter preparations rarely completely eradicate it. Menorrhagia, which I
have, makes you anæmic. PCOS causes hormonal symptoms that are socially
difficult (facial hair, acne, hair loss, weight gain). Fibroids are so common, and are often treated with a hysterectomy.Add in fibromylgia, which affects 8x as many women as men, as well as lupus (and almost any other autoimmune condition), systemic exertion intolerance disorder (SEID), iron deficiency anæmia (all of which affect more women than men), and you have well over 25% of childbearing-age women globally living with chronic pain and tiredness.
Chronic pain is overwhelmingly experienced by women, and women are less likely to be taken seriously or given treatment by medical professionals. I went through two years of diagnostics to finally find out I had occipital neuralgia; I felt doubted when I described my pain at every step of the way, but was lucky to have a partner who was persistent in helping me get treatment.
Basically, this is a huge problem, and also one of the reasons I have been considering medical school.
Don’t forget that most pharmaceuticals go to market without ever having been tested on people with a uterus, lest someone get pregnant… seriously that is the whole rationale behind not testing >50% of the population. This has been legislated against in some countries, but still persists in the of majority drug development because of other regulations, and traditions and laziness. The use of a drug is of course monitored in the population after release, but the people “trying” it in this capacity get none of the insurance, close and regular medical examination or monetary benefit of essentially being in a late stage drug trial. Drugs that are pulled from market after release are sometimes done so on the basis that the dosage is just too high for females/afab people and this is, of course, after they’ve experienced the adverse affects.
This is why if you get pregnant your doctor will take you off basically any and all medication you’re taking (including mental health medication, can’t imagine any implications/dire consequences there), not because they know it will have an adverse affect on the foetus but because they have no idea. How wonderfully kind of them to prioritise the health and life of an unborn foetus over that of a living person, let’s just hope they don’t become ill whilst pregnant. How charmingly logical it is that they wouldn’t even bother to test drugs in people with a uterus because it’s all too difficult and gosh, darn what an ethical conundrum we’ve been faced with, let’s just not! Which is so in the spirit of capital S, Science!
Sources: Nature, Nature, Medscape, Biomedcentral.
Indeed, the issue is so severe that, in many cases, folks with uteruses are routinely told that their diseases and disorders are not, in fact, disorders at all, and are just a normal part of having a uterus.
Take menstrual cramps, for example. Everybody knows that cramps are a normal part of menstruation, and that virtually all people who menstruate experience them throughout their lives, right?
Except that’s not right at all.
Yes, it’s true that about two-thirds of individuals who menstruate begin to experience menstrual pain during adolescence, but it’s basically a side effect of puberty, and normally subsides by your late teens. Only about 20-40% of menstruating adults experience menstrual pain on a regular basis – and according to some estimates, as much as 80% of that figure is due to undiagnosed endometriosis or some other underlying medical condition.
Yeah, roll those numbers around in your head: if you’re an adult who experiences menstrual cramps, it’s overwhelmingly likely that your pain is a symptom of some potentially serious medical condition.
And yet we tell folks it’s just a normal thing that everybody has to deal with.
Bonus round: Look up PCOS and gender identity.
Then look up PCOS and diabetes.
Ok, to show how incredibly important this post fucking is, I just looked up endometriosis and I match just about every sympton, and it would explain not just my incredibly painful periods but many other things as well. I had no idea this existed.
Please, read this post and reblog this so others can learn.
I will reblog this every time because my cousin (a cis girl) went through seven years of pain without being taken seriously until SHE suggested it was endometriosis. And that’s not even unusual – that’s the average amount of time it takes between first symptoms and a diagnosis of endometriosis.
NO KNOWN CAUSES OR CURES. JUST SUFFER. – the doctors diagnosing me with pcos, Fibromyalgia, and endometriosis.
I was diagnosed with endo when was in my early twenties. Their advice to me was hurry up and make babies because you could be made infertile.
Go on birth control
Or have a hysterectomy
Something else to know is endo spreads. So you can get misdiagnosed for everything but endo because of the location of your pain.
My endo spread to my navel, gallbladder, rectum, ovaries, and vagina. The gallbladder pain caused my side to burn. Went to the er for it 4 years ago and they told me it was acid reflux
When my navel started bleeding when I was at work last fall er docs told me if was an infection.
In both cases I said I have endo but the endometriosis causing these symptoms was ignored until I went to a specialist.
i’ve had endometriosis and pcos most likely since i was 15-16 years old. i was already infertile by the time i was finally diagnosed with both at 23. i’m 25 now and JUST started being treated for it. i went to doctors for years who didn’t take any of my symptoms seriously and tried to convince me over and over again that my symptoms were nothing to worry about, that it was totally normal to be having excruciatingly painful periods that prevented me from getting out of bed for days and that there was nothing that could be done. i’ve gone to the ER and have had doctors give me painkillers because my periods were so painful. before i knew i was infertile there was a time i thought i had a miscarriage and maybe just didn’t know i was pregnant or my appendix had ruptured because it was so bad. now i’m waiting for my doctor to figure out if i have fibromyalgia because there’s no actual test for it. these are only a few amongst a host of other health issues i have now, many of which developed from undiagnosed + untreated endometriosis and pcos. it took me over 10 years to find a doctor who is listening to me and taking all of my concerns seriously.
I have fibrocysitc breast disease which is extremely painful, a week out of each month, no cure, “common”. Nothing they can do about it.
Other female-identified issues that doctors ignore:
—Subchorinoic hematomas in pregnancy. I almost LOST MY SON because of these… And my male OB staff didn’t even bother to TELL ME about it, the ULTRASOUND TECH had to do it! “Oh it resolved itself” is what I was told when I asked the doctor I saw that day.
—PMS and PMDD
—Breast-related spinal degradation; there’s probably not a medical term for it but this is when the breasts are so heavy they literally pull down part of your spine, causing consistent subluxation, muscle and nerve strain, and neck issues. I need a reduction for this reason but doctors won’t take me seriously.
—Orthopedic damage postpartum. It’s been 14 months since I had my son and my hips are STILL really loose and almost detached.
Hey reblogging because I spent the worst year of my life trying to get medical treatment, being dismissed by every doctor I visited, and having to do most of the research myself to even be taken seriously by a specialist. Listen to women.
Doctors have said that I have PCOS and basically a couple years ago I had to be taken to charlottesville since I had heavy bleeding that resulted me to be somewhat anemic, took a palyp out of my ovary and place a IUD to prevent any further problems, I think I should check out more about this just in case
FUN FACT! I nearly died from the above!
I self diagnosed after ten+ years of utter living hell because an older woman friend mentioned “endometriosis,” I looked it up and found a list like this. Armed with that information, I sought out a COMPETENT gynecologist (not an ob/gyn – some are competent but a lot are too distracted, I’d seen so many before) who basically FLIPPED OUT and immediately rushed me into surgery immediately. They weren’t exactly sure why I was was not already dead because my entire insides had basically stitched together!
I’m still fighting “female condition” fallout (please ALSO look up “POTS” and “mast cell” if you’re one of so many women with the chronic fatigue/ME/fibro constellation.) Some of the super competent, skilled, cutting edge researchers I’ve visited for that suggest the above endocrine disorders are likely another branch of an overall problem that’s being systemically ignored… because, you know, ladies are so hysterical. Add to that racial bias in healthcare (and the fact a lot of patients with these issues may be extra likely to be fat) and yep, here’s a whole legion of patients completely ignored and basically left to die. Fun fun!
Do research, advocate for yourself, and don’t doubt what you feel. It’s real.
Nowhere near ‘serious’ for me, but I remember how much my period ‘cramps’ hurt for most of my life and how I’d try everything written about how to relieve cramps yourself and how none of it worked and then I had an emergency caesarean (I’d planned a home birth with a midwife and some doulas) and the surgeon casually mentioned I had a ‘bit’ of endometriosis and…oh. So. I’d probably never had menstrual cramps. (And I only knew what endo was because of knowing @mmymoon) (And later reading found some studies that suggest that pregnancy with endo may lead to complications…like needing a caesarean…)
So even if it’s not debilitating, not-knowing what’s really wrong can lead to years of taking the wrong approach to try to alleviate things. (Will also mention I had a bladder infection once that went diagnosed for a few days because I thought it was regular PMS pain, heh.)
God help you if you get sick as a teenage girl.
You might as well have a lazy moody timewaster written on your forehead because that’s what most doctors and specialists will see from your charts even when the answer is right there in the symptoms.
Wait….bad cramps arent normal past puberty? Wth why have I never heard this? I thought feeling like my insides are being carved out each month is normal…. is heavy bleeding even normal then? Wow…
In my understanding, if it’s endo, what you’d be feeling isn’t actually cramps, but instead it’s your insides sticking together, so people can absolutely technically say “bad cramps don’t last beyond puberty” and be right while also neglecting to mention all the other things that might be causing pain during periods…
(Emphasis on the ‘in my understanding part’–I’m nowhere near learnèd on this.)
Inappropriate Sinus Tachycardia.
– debilitating, chronic condition characterized by EXTREMELY high heart rate that TENDS TO GET HIGHER despite treatment.
– unknown cause
– no real treatment
– generally presents in young women with anxiety
– relatively new condition; poorly understood
– BUT TOTALLY HARMLESS!!!!
Completely unrelated: Women are dying from undiagnosed heart disease! Wear RED for awareness!!!!
(But sinus tachycardia causing you to pass out is totally harmless. You just need to calm down, young lady. I’m 100% certain ur fine even tho we still have trouble telling when a woman’s having a heart attack. LOSE WEIGHT AND EXERCISE!!!)
I actually got triggered worse by one reblog, partly talking about how much less than seriously gyno problems get taken pretty much across the board.
Yeah, I’ve strongly suspected for yesrs that I might have endo, with increasingly worse symptoms over time. Which have never gotten taken remotely seriously.
(Surprise, it may be even more common in people with EDS, and/or the worst of the symptoms may actually be coming straight from that with endo possibly overdiagnosed! “Menorrhagia reported by 77.6% of the patients” 😱)
Seeing another version of that post again now was not the best timing, a couple of days after getting another routine pap smear “invitation” letter. When not only do I not have any confidence that they would actually listen to what I am saying about those problems, I do not trust them at all and have not felt safe going back since what happened the last time. In 2005. (No really. It was that traumatizing. Pretty much all the content warnings you might imagine, for both those links.)
So yeah, literally anything could be causing this, and I cannot trust them far enough to even go for a routine exam. Much less try to look into the symptoms again, with the invasive stuff required if they do take it seriously. Even with backup along, and you can bet I really wouldn’t go into that room without someone I trust along now.
Getting brushed off and treated like a particularly stupid naughty child some more is not even the worst case scenario there. And it makes me very angry.
Its always good to know what to do when your baby is in danger.
This could save lives
I had to do this twice for my dog and it saved his life. Please reblog.
I can’t scroll by this, my baby and every other puppy has got me so whipped
this was the scariest thing i have ever had to do
The medical community on literally every female specific health issue ever: “very common condition” “no known cause” “no known cure” :))))))
What the fuck is tumblr? Like honestly what is this? Do you guys pull shit out of the inner most depths of your rectum and then just throw it on your keyboard and have it turn into a post???? This site is something else what the fuck is wrong with you people????!?!?
Endemetriosis
Vaginal Thrush
Menorrhagia
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
Fibroids
Very common conditions, causes are unknown or only speculated, long term cures have not been found. Most can cause chronic pain or discomfort, all can seriously impact your quality of life.
Men are so damn privileged they can’t even imagine female bodies have different healthcare needs than theirs and that our healthcare needs are important even if they can’t be affected by one of these conditions.
Endometriosis causes excruciating pain and is a leading cause of infertility. Thrush is extremely
uncomfortable, and expensive to treat repeatedly; over-the-counter preparations rarely completely eradicate it. Menorrhagia, which I
have, makes you anæmic. PCOS causes hormonal symptoms that are socially
difficult (facial hair, acne, hair loss, weight gain). Fibroids are so common, and are often treated with a hysterectomy.Add in fibromylgia, which affects 8x as many women as men, as well as lupus (and almost any other autoimmune condition), systemic exertion intolerance disorder (SEID), iron deficiency anæmia (all of which affect more women than men), and you have well over 25% of childbearing-age women globally living with chronic pain and tiredness.
Chronic pain is overwhelmingly experienced by women, and women are less likely to be taken seriously or given treatment by medical professionals. I went through two years of diagnostics to finally find out I had occipital neuralgia; I felt doubted when I described my pain at every step of the way, but was lucky to have a partner who was persistent in helping me get treatment.
Basically, this is a huge problem, and also one of the reasons I have been considering medical school.
Don’t forget that most pharmaceuticals go to market without ever having been tested on people with a uterus, lest someone get pregnant… seriously that is the whole rationale behind not testing >50% of the population. This has been legislated against in some countries, but still persists in the of majority drug development because of other regulations, and traditions and laziness. The use of a drug is of course monitored in the population after release, but the people “trying” it in this capacity get none of the insurance, close and regular medical examination or monetary benefit of essentially being in a late stage drug trial. Drugs that are pulled from market after release are sometimes done so on the basis that the dosage is just too high for females/afab people and this is, of course, after they’ve experienced the adverse affects.
This is why if you get pregnant your doctor will take you off basically any and all medication you’re taking (including mental health medication, can’t imagine any implications/dire consequences there), not because they know it will have an adverse affect on the foetus but because they have no idea. How wonderfully kind of them to prioritise the health and life of an unborn foetus over that of a living person, let’s just hope they don’t become ill whilst pregnant. How charmingly logical it is that they wouldn’t even bother to test drugs in people with a uterus because it’s all too difficult and gosh, darn what an ethical conundrum we’ve been faced with, let’s just not! Which is so in the spirit of capital S, Science!
Sources: Nature, Nature, Medscape, Biomedcentral.
Indeed, the issue is so severe that, in many cases, folks with uteruses are routinely told that their diseases and disorders are not, in fact, disorders at all, and are just a normal part of having a uterus.
Take menstrual cramps, for example. Everybody knows that cramps are a normal part of menstruation, and that virtually all people who menstruate experience them throughout their lives, right?
Except that’s not right at all.
Yes, it’s true that about two-thirds of individuals who menstruate begin to experience menstrual pain during adolescence, but it’s basically a side effect of puberty, and normally subsides by your late teens. Only about 20-40% of menstruating adults experience menstrual pain on a regular basis – and according to some estimates, as much as 80% of that figure is due to undiagnosed endometriosis or some other underlying medical condition.
Yeah, roll those numbers around in your head: if you’re an adult who experiences menstrual cramps, it’s overwhelmingly likely that your pain is a symptom of some potentially serious medical condition.
And yet we tell folks it’s just a normal thing that everybody has to deal with.
Bonus round: Look up PCOS and gender identity.
Then look up PCOS and diabetes.
Ok, to show how incredibly important this post fucking is, I just looked up endometriosis and I match just about every sympton, and it would explain not just my incredibly painful periods but many other things as well. I had no idea this existed.
Please, read this post and reblog this so others can learn.
I will reblog this every time because my cousin (a cis girl) went through seven years of pain without being taken seriously until SHE suggested it was endometriosis. And that’s not even unusual – that’s the average amount of time it takes between first symptoms and a diagnosis of endometriosis.
NO KNOWN CAUSES OR CURES. JUST SUFFER. – the doctors diagnosing me with pcos, Fibromyalgia, and endometriosis.
I was diagnosed with endo when was in my early twenties. Their advice to me was hurry up and make babies because you could be made infertile.
Go on birth control
Or have a hysterectomy
Something else to know is endo spreads. So you can get misdiagnosed for everything but endo because of the location of your pain.
My endo spread to my navel, gallbladder, rectum, ovaries, and vagina. The gallbladder pain caused my side to burn. Went to the er for it 4 years ago and they told me it was acid reflux
When my navel started bleeding when I was at work last fall er docs told me if was an infection.
In both cases I said I have endo but the endometriosis causing these symptoms was ignored until I went to a specialist.
i’ve had endometriosis and pcos most likely since i was 15-16 years old. i was already infertile by the time i was finally diagnosed with both at 23. i’m 25 now and JUST started being treated for it. i went to doctors for years who didn’t take any of my symptoms seriously and tried to convince me over and over again that my symptoms were nothing to worry about, that it was totally normal to be having excruciatingly painful periods that prevented me from getting out of bed for days and that there was nothing that could be done. i’ve gone to the ER and have had doctors give me painkillers because my periods were so painful. before i knew i was infertile there was a time i thought i had a miscarriage and maybe just didn’t know i was pregnant or my appendix had ruptured because it was so bad. now i’m waiting for my doctor to figure out if i have fibromyalgia because there’s no actual test for it. these are only a few amongst a host of other health issues i have now, many of which developed from undiagnosed + untreated endometriosis and pcos. it took me over 10 years to find a doctor who is listening to me and taking all of my concerns seriously.
I have fibrocysitc breast disease which is extremely painful, a week out of each month, no cure, “common”. Nothing they can do about it.
Other female-identified issues that doctors ignore:
—Subchorinoic hematomas in pregnancy. I almost LOST MY SON because of these… And my male OB staff didn’t even bother to TELL ME about it, the ULTRASOUND TECH had to do it! “Oh it resolved itself” is what I was told when I asked the doctor I saw that day.
—PMS and PMDD
—Breast-related spinal degradation; there’s probably not a medical term for it but this is when the breasts are so heavy they literally pull down part of your spine, causing consistent subluxation, muscle and nerve strain, and neck issues. I need a reduction for this reason but doctors won’t take me seriously.
—Orthopedic damage postpartum. It’s been 14 months since I had my son and my hips are STILL really loose and almost detached.
Hey reblogging because I spent the worst year of my life trying to get medical treatment, being dismissed by every doctor I visited, and having to do most of the research myself to even be taken seriously by a specialist. Listen to women.
Doctors have said that I have PCOS and basically a couple years ago I had to be taken to charlottesville since I had heavy bleeding that resulted me to be somewhat anemic, took a palyp out of my ovary and place a IUD to prevent any further problems, I think I should check out more about this just in case
FUN FACT! I nearly died from the above!
I self diagnosed after ten+ years of utter living hell because an older woman friend mentioned “endometriosis,” I looked it up and found a list like this. Armed with that information, I sought out a COMPETENT gynecologist (not an ob/gyn – some are competent but a lot are too distracted, I’d seen so many before) who basically FLIPPED OUT and immediately rushed me into surgery immediately. They weren’t exactly sure why I was was not already dead because my entire insides had basically stitched together!
I’m still fighting “female condition” fallout (please ALSO look up “POTS” and “mast cell” if you’re one of so many women with the chronic fatigue/ME/fibro constellation.) Some of the super competent, skilled, cutting edge researchers I’ve visited for that suggest the above endocrine disorders are likely another branch of an overall problem that’s being systemically ignored… because, you know, ladies are so hysterical. Add to that racial bias in healthcare (and the fact a lot of patients with these issues may be extra likely to be fat) and yep, here’s a whole legion of patients completely ignored and basically left to die. Fun fun!
Do research, advocate for yourself, and don’t doubt what you feel. It’s real.
Nowhere near ‘serious’ for me, but I remember how much my period ‘cramps’ hurt for most of my life and how I’d try everything written about how to relieve cramps yourself and how none of it worked and then I had an emergency caesarean (I’d planned a home birth with a midwife and some doulas) and the surgeon casually mentioned I had a ‘bit’ of endometriosis and…oh. So. I’d probably never had menstrual cramps. (And I only knew what endo was because of knowing @mmymoon) (And later reading found some studies that suggest that pregnancy with endo may lead to complications…like needing a caesarean…)
So even if it’s not debilitating, not-knowing what’s really wrong can lead to years of taking the wrong approach to try to alleviate things. (Will also mention I had a bladder infection once that went diagnosed for a few days because I thought it was regular PMS pain, heh.)
God help you if you get sick as a teenage girl.
You might as well have a lazy moody timewaster written on your forehead because that’s what most doctors and specialists will see from your charts even when the answer is right there in the symptoms.
Wait….bad cramps arent normal past puberty? Wth why have I never heard this? I thought feeling like my insides are being carved out each month is normal…. is heavy bleeding even normal then? Wow…
In my understanding, if it’s endo, what you’d be feeling isn’t actually cramps, but instead it’s your insides sticking together, so people can absolutely technically say “bad cramps don’t last beyond puberty” and be right while also neglecting to mention all the other things that might be causing pain during periods…
(Emphasis on the ‘in my understanding part’–I’m nowhere near learnèd on this.)
when stylists say “youll look bad with your hair short” they dont mean youll look bad they mean you wont look traditionally feminine and therefore youll look bad. its irrelevant how bad or good you actually look.
think about this: most men in western society have short hair. do people ever say to these men, “no your face shape won’t work with this haircut.”
no; because every face shape works with short hair.As a stylist, I hate when other stylists will say “you’ll look bad with ____ hair” because like op said it’s absolutely not true. The ONLY hair that looks (what they’re calling) “bad” on someone is short, men’s cuts on a square jaw, because it IS associated with traditional masculine cuts.
I understand their concern, because some women may be wanting a short cut while still wanting to maintain a stereotypical feminine look.
But as I was taught, and continue to believe, hair doesn’t have a fucking gender.
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