vaspider:

lindzbizkit:

celestialmoonchild:

Intimacy is beyond kisses and cuddles and sex. Intimacy is getting a headache and taking a nap, and waking up to your laundry folded and your partner rubbing your back. Intimacy is crying and yelling at night about your past to someone who listens and comforts you. Intimacy is watching shows in your pjs for hours and eating pizza together and being able to communicate love through holding hands. It’s never running out of conversation but doing it anyways to enjoy silence.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If it isn’t like this, guys, don’t get married.

That the Blood Stay Pure: African Americans, Native Americans, and the Predicament of Race and Identity in Virginia by Arica L. Coleman — Reviews, Discussion, Bookclubs, Lists | Goodreads

That the Blood Stay Pure traces the history and legacy of the commonwealth of Virginia’s effort to maintain racial purity and its impact on the relations between African Americans and Native Americans. Arica L. Coleman tells the story of Virginia’s racial purity campaign from the perspective of those who were disavowed or expelled from tribal communities due to their affiliation with people of African descent or because their physical attributes linked them to those of African ancestry. Coleman also explores the social consequences of the racial purity ethos for tribal communities that have refused to define Indian identity based on a denial of blackness. This rich interdisciplinary history, which includes contemporary case studies, addresses a neglected aspect of America’s long struggle with race and identity.

One from 2013 that I had somehow not run across before that story about Mildred Loving I linked as a quick reference earlier.

I really don’t have the Sanity Watchers Points to start into more history like this right now, but it does look like a good resource without having read it yet.

(And I’m from a part of the state with some different history from the Slavery Belt, which probably doesn’t get covered as much here. Doesn’t mean the same shit isn’t continuing to impact us in too many ways, and causing a lot of pain still. I don’t need to go on more right now. But, the Commonwealth of Virginia has a lot to answer for, ever since it took over from the Crown.)

Definitely recommended in a similar vein, focusing on some longer term history further South among the Creeks: Claudio Saunts’ Black, White, and Indian: Race and the Unmaking of an American Family

Slightly different details and pressures, but overall some depressingly similar divide and conquer themes. And resulting terrible effects on actual people.

That the Blood Stay Pure: African Americans, Native Americans, and the Predicament of Race and Identity in Virginia by Arica L. Coleman — Reviews, Discussion, Bookclubs, Lists | Goodreads

the-knight-and-the-general:

ichigostormchild:

sh00sher-n00b:

vip-status:

charlottelevi:

vip-status:

I just got the 

cutest

thing

ever

!!!!11!1!1!!!!11

OMFG where can i get this?

i got mine here! They have some sale going on and i ended up buying it right away(*•̀ᴗ•́*)و ̑̑

um i clicked on the paGe and the next thing below it was called a ding dong squishy toy…

I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS THING GLOWS IN THE DARK. I LEGIT WOKE UP MY ROOMMATE, BURST INTO HER ROOM SQUEALING, BECAUSE THIS DAMN THING GLOWS IN THE DARK. IT IS THE CUTEST FUCKING THING I EVER SAW.
Also if you look really close it has a SMILE that goes :3 It also has a cute little butt. You guys don’t understand, I bought 4 of these fuckers. They are perfect and everyone needs one!!!!

ohmygod they have them for Samsung cases too, not just iPhone. I NEED ONE RIGHT NOW but I’m broke UGH

motorcyclegrrl:

faedreamer:

writlargefic:

p1ratew3nch:

wombatking:

jazz2midnight:

barefootdramaturg:

squirrelswithmakeup:

amuseoffyre:

Just had a thought for an action hero thing: 30-something woman hero is doing her ass-kicking thing. One day, her boss shows up at her door, and tells her she has to stand down, or there will be consequences. “Honey, it’s not that you’re too old. It’s just the public don’t like to see a woman of your age saving the day. It feels emasculating”.

So woman is stripped of her support team, fellow agents, and is pretty much put on the shelf. She tries to do heroing, but keeps getting cockblocked by younger women or superhero men she used to work alongside.

Just when she’s hitting rock bottom (and sitting in her house wearing pyjamas and eating ice cream), there’s a knock at the door. Judi Dench is standing there, and our heroine assumes it’s a charity collection.

“Oh no, dear,” Dench says, smiling. “We’ve come to recruit you.”

“Recruit me? For what?”

“To do what we do best: save the bloody world.”

And all at once she’s part of a covert ops team made of all the older women who have been retired and who currently are holding the reins of managing the world.

pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase

I am here for this plan.

Oh, yes.

Of course, a few older women heroes and vigilantes don’t take the offer. Some are too embittered by the rejection they’ve faced and decide to show the world exactly why they’re still to be feared. 

Enter Judi Dench’s arch-nemesis, Dame Helen Mirren.

I need this like air

Look – here’s your casting call:

  • Sigourney Weaver – 67
  • Pam Grier – 67
  • Lynda Carter – 65
  • Linda Hamilton – 60 
  • Angela Basset – 58 
  • Michele Yeoh – 54
  • Ming-na Wen – 53
  • Famke Janssen – 52 
  • Halle Berry – 50
  • Tia Carrere – 50
  • Carrie-Anne Moss – 49
  • Lucy Lawless – 49
  • Lucy Liu – 48
  • Uma Thurman – 47
  • Angelina Jolie – 41
  • Milla Jovovich  – 41
  • Sarah Michelle Gellar – 40

The Recruit:

  • Jessica Alba – 36
  • Emily Blunt – 34

sign me up I’m on Helen Mirrens team.

Oh dear God in heaven!

Those new pants for Mr. C did get delivered earlier, and I couldn’t resist opening it up for a look just now.

It’s kind of hard to see here, between the lighting and laying charcoal grey on top of black. But, compared as flat as I could get them? This new pair does seem to have more leg room than the new Horrible Trousers on top which prompted me to try to find some that fit better. The other pair in that order look about the same leg width, comparing.

So, hopefully these will have more room, and fit decently otherwise. *fingers crossed* I’m not bad at eyeballing fit for him too by now, and these at least don’t look blatantly wrong.

They’re definitely not smaller through the legs, at least. And he should be able to return them easily enough in store if he doesn’t like them, worst case.

discoursedrome:

amodernobject:

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: feminism is the embodiment of all the stereotypes it claims are false.

sigh

so the single most important rule when evaluating internet news is “if it seems too good to be true, it probably is”, and yes, “good” includes “likely to go viral by confirming people’s suspicions about their enemies”,

Even a cursory google on the subject (e.g. here or here) will show that the actual objection was that the woman was that “that four colleagues bullied and harassed her, including sexually” over a period of 21 months, and then when she finally snapped and reported it to her manager, he responded with the headline comment.

This is a bit old but the reason it’s making the rounds is because BAE is appeaing the amount of damages; the interpretation taken from the headline is the argument being advanced by the defendant’s lawyer, someone who is required to misrepresent situations in his client’s favour as part of his job.

I didn’t bother trying to dig up all the proceedings since this thing has been ping-ponging around the tribunal for a while, but here (.doc format) is the first decision I was able to find relating to the case – it’s from one of the cross-appeals relating to the amount awarded. As a general rule, judges’ decisions are a drastically better source of case details than newsmagazines. A few excerpts:

There were a number of allegations made by the Claimant about the period of 21 months leading up to a particular incident in April 2006.  On 26 April 2006 the manager, to whom we have already referred, made a remark to the Claimant that the Employment Tribunal dealing with what has been called the liability hearing, namely the Employment Tribunal presided over by Employment Judge Cook (“the Cook Tribunal”), decided was an act of sex discrimination contrary to the Sex Discrimination Act 1975.  The Claimant described this as “the last straw” and she went off work the following day, 27 April 2006.  Just over a year later, she asked to return to work, but putting matters briefly, the Employer refused to allow her to do so and subsequently dismissed her on 23 July 2007.  She complained to the Employment Tribunal and her complaints were heard by the Cook Tribunal, which found that her dismissal was because she had raised allegations of sex discrimination.  It therefore amounted to victimisation contrary to section 2 of the Sex Discrimination Act 1975.  It also held that the refusal to allow her to return to work without conducting any risk assessment and without making any reasonable adjustments to take account of her ill-health amounted to disability discrimination contrary to the Disability Discrimination Act 1995 and by its decision of 8 October 2008 the Cook Tribunal also held that, because the dismissal was sex and disability discrimination-related, it was an automatically unfair dismissal.

Based on other parts of the document, BAE’s counsel appears not to dispute that the history of harassment and discrimination occurred – his argument is based on the fact that these individual incidents were either not brought to the tribunal as distinct complaints, were rejected, or were determined to have happened too long ago to warrant awards. He’s therefore arguing – as I understand it – that the manager’s comment is the only one that “counts” on the basis that it was the only case upheld as sex discrimination under the letter of the law. The plaintiff’s argument, which appears to have won the day, is that the context of the complaints matters because a) the business knew about it and b) it’s not possible to split off just the harm done by that one incident without taking the others into consideration, even if the others by themselves would not have received a reward.

Needless to say, it is a lot of trouble to dig into this shit even a little, and no one who read the original post is going to fucking see this. The “teachable moment” lesson is as follows: this is why it’s important to have a low-cost bullshit screen before stories go viral.

butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway:

eyelander:

if you’re in New Orleans & need your brake lights fixed, DSA New Orleans is offering to fix your brake lights for free.

WHEN AND WHERE:

August 26 from 10:00 AM – 3:00 PM Broad & Orleans

September 16 from 10:00 AM – 3:00 PM Baronne & Euterpe

CONTACT: hello@dsaneworleans.org

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These kinds of services are a fantastic brand of grassroots social justice by the way. Replacing tail lights, free haircuts, work clothing and food drives, charitable babysitting groups, things that support and improve individual daily lives.