Do you realize that being fat isn’t always good? I mean if you’re still healthy it’s fine but once it gets to point it starts becoming a health problem. It’s not good for that to happen right? Do you want people to slowly waste away and die of heart disease? They’re basically killing themselves and it’s not a perfect comparison but if you meet a self garner do you want them to stop?




HUZZAH! This is my first psuedo-intellectual anon hate. And my-oh-me, it’s a doozy. I love the condescending “gotchya” tone in this, as if anon is asking ground-breaking, mind-blowing questions and not the same bullshit concern-trolling that has been debunked over and over again. But I’ll indulge anon’s ignorance for the moment, if only so that I have a comprehensive response to link to other fatphobic assholes in the future. 

Put simply, my dear anon, your questions are silly, and you should feel bad about how ignorant, hateful, and fatphobic you come off in this ask.


1. Health is a complex concept that is dependent on many individualized factors. Similarly, weight is complex and depends on many factors completely out of an individual’s control, including genetics, poverty and food insecurity, and trauma history. Neither exercise nor a “healthy” diet result in long term weight loss. 

2. Weight is a really inaccurate, non-evidence based proxy for the concept of health. Hate to break it to you, but the BMI is bullshit, and overweight and obese people actually have lower mortality rates than people in the “normal” category. Yes, you read right, evidence shows that being fat can be good for your health. 

3. Heart disease has links to several risk factors, and “overweightness” by itself does not reliably predict heart disease. In fact, some evidence suggests fat people are better able to survive cardiac events than thin people. Correlation is not causation, yes, even with conditions such as type 2 diabetes mellitus, so it is incorrect to say that having a lot of adipose tissue directly causes illness of any type. Being fat is not per se unhealthy. Additionally, invisible disabilities and illnesses exist, which precludes you from knowing whether ANY given person, whether they are thin or fat, is “healthy”. 

4. Based on 1,2, and 3, it’s clear that you have no idea what someone’s health-status is simply by looking at them. You have no idea whether someone’s weight is “killing them” or causing them to “slowly waste away”, and all the evidence suggests that it’s simply inaccurate to say being fat is enough, by itself, to kill someone. 

5. Linking someone’s health to their moral goodness or worth is inherently ableist. If someone is fat and unhealthy they are still a human being worthy of love and respect. If someone is fat and disabled they are still a human being worthy of love and respect. If someone is fat and eats nothing but “junk food” and never exercises THEY ARE STILL A HUMAN BEING WORTHY OF LOVE AND RESPECT.  

6. Shaming people into the weight loss you deem to be “appropriate” does not work and actually leads to increased weight gain and a myriad of negative outcomes (more discussed in 7 and 8).

For example, the “War on Obesity” has been linked to increased disordered eating in pre-pubescent children.  Harm reduction and trauma-informed, client-centered care works better than the shaming, 12-step, crash-diet, “I know more about what’s better for your health than you do” bullshit. 

7. Mental illness kills tens of thousands of people in the United States every year, and shaming someone’s body size under the guise of “health concern” has empirically proven negative outcomes on mental health

8. Fat stigma in the medical establishment and society at large arguably kills more fat people than fat does. Attempts to “correct” fatness such as repeated dieting and “lifestyle changes” have been shown to have negative health outcomes.  

9. Of all the complex health and mortality risk factors that exist, fat seems to be the only one that you care about. Why aren’t you yelling at people you see driving cars or smoking? Probably because your “health concern” for fat people is just thinly veiled fatphobia.

10. THE HEALTH STATUS OF OTHER PEOPLE IS NONE OF YOUR GODDAMN BUSINESS ANYWAY. Right to privacy in personal medical concerns is like, one of those inherent human right things that we have all these laws protecting to the point that it’s a crime to share someone’s private medical information without their consent.  

In conclusion, this fat ass is off to eat some cake, cuddle my cats, kiss my partner, and love my fat body just the way it is. 


Since we’ve been getting BMI questions, I thought this might be useful.  It has other goodness in it too, but check out the links in item 2. 

-Mod Siarl

Just a note:  I’m a wheelchair user. I cannot stand independently.

Therefore, my weight cannot be measured accurately on the kind of scales you see in physicians’ offices.

You know how many physicians have seen this as a problem? Or have been worried about this? Or have tried to get me access to a different kind of scale, that can be used to measure my weight on a regular basis? Over the last 22 years?

Zero. You read that right. Zero. Zilch. None. Nada. Instead, doctors simply keep track of whether my weight is fluctuating quickly – if I’ve gained, or lost, a substantial bit of weight since my last check-up. It’s the instability that causes a risk, and is a symptom, of something going wrong with my health. I also get regular blood tests to check for cholesterol and blood sugar levels, and to make sure I’m getting the nutrients I need.

That, right there, tells me that the only reason doctors use weight as a “measure of health” is that it’s easy to write down.

I was talking with a more conservative minded friend of mine and he asked why the Dreamers who were old enough had never applied for citizenship? And I didn’t know and you seem like the guy to ask.




Why don’t “they” just get into line?

A common refrain among the right, but an entirely misguided one. 

First, most undocumented migrants do not have a line to get into. There are four ways in which someone can become a Permanent Resident: Employer-based immigration, Family-based immigration, Humanitarian protection, and a limited-lottery. 

Employer-based immigration

To come to the United States for employment purposes—either temporarily or permanently—foreign workers must generally have a job lined up with an eligible employer who will sponsor them. An employer can request permission to bring in specific qualified foreign workers, but only if they meet the requirements, such as job skills and education level, and if the employer cannot find a qualified U.S. worker to take the job first. Most of the qualifying professions for permanent immigration require high levels of education and professional experience, such as scientists, professors, and multinational executives. There is a limited number of temporary visas for highly skilled or internationally recognized workers. There are also temporary, seasonal opportunities for agricultural workers and certain other “less skilled” workers. In most of these cases, an employer must petition for the worker.

Family-based immigration

Qualified family members in the United States can seek permission to bring in certain eligible foreign-born family members. U.S. citizens can petition for their spouses, parents, children, and siblings. Lawful Permanent Residents (LPRs, or “green card” holders) can petition for their spouses and unmarried children. There are always visas available for the spouses, parents, and minor children of U.S. citizens, but for all other family categories, there are annual numerical limits. In all cases, the petitioning family member in the United States must demonstrate an income level above the poverty line and must commit to supporting the family member they are seeking to bring to the United States. The foreign-born persons wishing to immigrate must meet eligibility requirements as well.

Humanitarian protection

Each year the United States sets a numerical limit on how many refugees will be admitted for humanitarian reasons. To be admitted as refugees, individuals must be screened by multiple international and U.S. agencies and prove that they have a “well-founded fear of persecution based on race, religion, membership in a particular social group, political opinion, or national origin.” Asylum seekers are individuals already in the United States who fear to return to their home countries, and they must prove they meet the definition of a refugee. An immigrant does not qualify as a refugee or an asylee because of poverty or difficult economic conditions in their home country. There are limited forms of temporary humanitarian protection available, but these are rare.


If a person who wishes to immigrate to the United States does not qualify for the family, employment, or humanitarian systems, there may be one more legal path. The annual Diversity Visa program makes 55,000 green cards available to persons from countries with low rates of immigration to the United States. People from Mexico, China, the Philippines, India, and other countries with higher levels of immigration to the United States are not eligible. To qualify, applicants must have a high school education and two years of job experience. Since millions of people around the world apply each year, the chances of obtaining a visa through the lottery are extremely low.

To top it off, if you are discovered to have lived here without proper documentation the punishment is deportation and not being able to apply for any form of entry to the US for a Decade.

This makes it very difficult to apply while you are living here without documentation since you need an address by which to apply. By filling out the application, you admit you are living here and will likely end up with ICE at your door. An even if you get into one of the lines, there are limited spots open for each one and could end up waiting to have a legal status for well over a decade.

And that is why undocumented migrants cannot just apply for legal residency, which they need to have for five years in order to get citizenship.

When my coworker was kidnapped by ICE she had been waiting over 13 years to hear back from an application she had put in.

This post is missing the most troubling and insurmountable setback for undocumented immigrants which is that in most cases you cannot adjust status from within the United States if you don’t already have a status. There are very very few avenues by which you can adjust status if you have been living in the US undocumented which include a few humanitarian visas and (in limited circumstances) marriage to a US citizen.

So why is adjusting from within the US so crucial? Because, as mentioned above, living in the US as an adult without proper documentation for over 6-months triggers something called the “bar” which is a ban from re-entering the country which ranges from 3 years to a lifetime.

So even if a DREAMer has their US citizen sibling or parent apply to sponsor them and they wait 15 years for their priority date to become current and apply for their green card they won’t be able to adjust status without leaving the United States and may then be subjected to a 10 year or permanent ban.

There is rarely ANY path to citizenship for DREAMers through no fault of their own. Many DREAMers don’t even know they’re undocumented until they try to apply for a job or college.

It’s devastating.

Watch out people, tumblr is fucking with dashboards again


   Last year we introduced Safe Mode, which filters sensitive content in your dashboard and search results so you have control over what you see and what you don’t. And now that it’s been out for a while, we want to make sure everyone has the chance to try it out.                    

   Over the next couple weeks, you might see some things in your dashboard getting filtered. If you like it that way, that’s great. If you don’t, no problem. You can go back by turning off Safe Mode [there’s a link here in the original mail] any time.

There is no information, NOWHERE, what will be filtered.

There is no information HOW we should even notice things getting filtered.


Do not punish the behaviour you want to see




I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

I demand to know why I can’t hit add a million more likes to this post.

This is like 95% of the reason I have so much resistance to trying new things or doing anything that I’ve previously displayed reluctance or disinterest in.