Day: May 3, 2018

zanimez:

me: time for sleepy 🙂

my garbage body: hot hot hot no cold no HOT bad bad, throw up??? no, hungry, NO remember that mistake you made at work. Internalize it. Never forget. Back hurt yes headache YES hot yes roll over r-RA RA RASPUTIN, RUSSIA’s GREATEST LOVE MACHI-

jenniferrpovey:

cacopheny:

jenniferrpovey:

vampireapologist:

so i saw a discussion about feeling empathy toward children where an adult was explaining that they were worried something might be wrong with them bc they couldn’t feel empathy toward children and ultimately always sees them as “little adults” and didn’t want to comfort and nurture or protect them because all they saw was “someone who’d be an adult one day.”

and everyone went on reassuring them that nothing was wrong with them, they just weren’t a naturally parental person, which is fair and true!

but I didn’t see anybody making what I feel is the most important point, which is:

regardless, you still have to pretend empathy for the child.

No, you don’t have to have your own child, you don’t have to go out of your way to interact with children, and nothing is “wrong” with you if you largely find children annoying. you can tell your adult friends “I don’t have any patience for kids and prefer to not be around them,”

but if you view children as “little adults,” you HAVE to then logically say “but they’re not. they’re children, and I’M the ACTUAL adult, and it’s MY responsibility to treat them well and be nice when I’m around them.”

and I don’t want to see any comments like “must be nice to be neurotypical” on this, because I’m not, and there’s no mental illness that makes it okay to treat others badly, sorry. You have to be nice to children.

It’s just literally human decency. It’s one of the most simple rules of our species. Just be good to children.

I have no desire to raise a child. None.

But if a child asks to borrow my sonic screwdriver at a con so they can pretend to kill the life-size Dalek with it? They get to borrow it.

If a child wants to pretend to be the Dalek and exterminate me, I’ll gladly fall down and play dead for them.

Children live in a different world, and even if you struggle to see that, you can simply do what we all do sometimes: Play pretend.

And no, I’m not neurotypical either, and I do struggle to “like” kids. I find them very hard to deal with, esp. if their NT parents are around. But you know what? If you let them be kids, they are actually fun for a bit and when they aren’t yours you can always give them back ;).

and also, I don’t see how seeing kids as little adults means you can’t have empathy for them O.o like why is that a problem. empathy should be had for everyone, regardless of age…?

and I don’t like kids, either

I think when they say it in a negative sense, they mean not making allowances for the way children see the world differently.

nunc-et-semper:

iloveyoumorethancoffee:

signorcasaubon:

I usually don’t like posting low resolution images (for me: anything below 5MB) but this photo of the pulpit of Saint Hedwig’s parish church in Dobroszow, Poland was too good to pass up. Its corpulent cetacean form no doubt alludes to the Biblical tale of Jonah and the whale, and could have been a warning to rambling clerics to “say what needs to be said.”

A reading from the book of Om Nom.

oh my

spiralsunshine:

spiralsunshine:

I haven’t given an update in a few days, but Muñeco’s since been transferred to Gulf Coast Veterinary Specialists to proceed with his treatment. After some initial complications, he’s been cleared for surgery and is ready for it to be performed, but the hospital needs a $2850 deposit before they can schedule his surgery.

As his medical bills have completely cleared our savings & has caused us to borrow a lot of money, I’ve started a GoFundMe to help cover the expenses. Any amount & spreading the word would help

Donate here: https://www.gofundme.com/help-cover-muneco039s-hospital-bills

Please reblog & donate to help cover my dear sweet boy’s medical expenses

Source: spiralsunshine

fierceawakening:

shippingisnotactivism:

saxifraga-x-urbium:

moranion:

arashi-of-ota:

fierceawakening:

I don’t understand “the predatory lesbian myth.”

People say they are “countering the myth” but what I see looks an awful lot like “lesbians are pure and perfect and incapable of making someone sexually uncomfortable”

Uh… my ex gf pressured me into sex all the time. Yes, wlw can want people who don’t want them and push them into things they are uncomfortable with.

It’s probably a competing access needs thing but where you see “wlw aren’t like straight men” I see “yes they are. No man I dated never abused me.”

It’s random. It’s not a gender thing.

i see so much “if you’re a wlw your attraction and desire isn’t predatory! it’s beautiful and healthy uwu”

and i get what they’re going for! it’s not predatory to be gay and to sexually desire women! but unfortunately you have overlapped “it’s not predatory to be gay” with “no woman would ever sexually objectify another woman” and uh, no

this society tells us that when we look at women with desire, we are supposed to see objects, conquests, inferiors. and that message has been given to you too no matter what gender you are. you might be less likely to believe it because you’re a women too but you’re not immune to “one rule for me and another for everyone else”

i’m not feeling charitable, so

this entire site is deathly afraid of sex (the reasons for that are the matter of another rant, but so far it seems to be about 50% unexamined trauma and 20% USA conservativism with a rainbow hat, and a good 30% of SWERF/TERF sex- and man-hating idiocy masquerading as ‘radical’ ‘feminism’ – seriously, i need them to get their fingers off of that word) and sees it as a constant potential threat, so, the underlining reasoning behind all this bullshit goes like this, basically: 

straight men aren’t a threat bc some of them have troubling ideas about women and some have issues understanding consent, straight men are a threat bc they sexually desire women, and that all by itself is BAD, therefore

wlw (who were actually made to feel predatory on the basis of our desire being deviant and corrupting for Good Actually Straight Girls) were made to feel predatory bc they sexually desire women JUST LIKE STRAIGHT MEN, which are BAD and A THREAT, therefore

wlw are Pure Perfect Beings of Angelic Love who hold hands and braid friendship bracelets for each other and live in an alternate reality of pastels, bc they’re NOT LIKE MEN, especially NOT LIKE STRAIGHT MEN, which want to have the NASTY SEX, which is BAD and A THREAT. 

(meanwhile, any wlw with a high sex drive and lots of explicit fantasies about random women she walks by on the street, including myself, is now stuck feeling like Those Nasty Straight Men who actually Want To Have Sex, which is Bad and A Threat. Well fucking done, now go sit in a bloody corner for 10 years and think about what you’ve done.)

“this entire site is deathly afraid of sex” where’s my trumpet and my heralds i need to throw you the parade again

Oh my God thank you for that! I’ve been wondering why this rhetoric is making me feel uncomfortable as hell and making me question if I am actually a man (spoiler alert: I’m not. There is some non-binary-ness in my gender, but as far as I can tell, no maleness), because… I do have sexual desires for women. Even women who are strangers. Hell, just yesterday I saw a girl in one of my classes wearing a lowcut dress/top and I could see her bra and I was definitely into it.

I mean of course I tried not to stare or make her uncomfortable (and I didn’t stare or make her uncomfortable) but I still like… felt the thing.

Plus I am arospec so I don’t have romantic attraction to make my sexual attraction ~purer~ so I braid friendship bracelets or whatever. Make pastel edits? Make anti-kink posts phrased as progressive feminist rhetoric? What are the acceptable things to do when you are Tumblr Approved Pure™️ Sapphic?

Like I get where this is coming from, but at the same time. I wish it was phrased more as “wlw aren’t unnatural/gross for desiring other women” and less “wlw aren’t men.”

The sad thing is during the sex wars people argued about exactly this. I had hoped that the women who like sex with women won, but it looks like not.

I mean… we’ve even got a lesbian flag now that looks… less threatening and more pastel than… a rainbow?

I feel so old sometimes.