we-are-knight:

thebibliosphere:

vultureculturecoyote:

The reason I hate this royal wedding is personal…

I know a lot of people can’t stand this stupid royal wedding nonsense, but for me this really is sickening to watch. Prince Harry gets to marry his Canadian finance while my partner and I have been separated by immigration laws for 4 years and counting. Never allowed to marry or even LIVE TOGETHER IN THE SAME COUNTRY.

What makes their situation any different from ours? Money.

In order for me to immigrate with my British partner he is required to me making an income of over £18,900 per year. (Which might seem reasonable to americans but Only 14% of British citizens make enough money to meet the spouse immigration requirements!)

Of course, because the royal family are wealthy nobility they can bypass any immigration requirements and live happily ever after, while tens of thousands of families are separated by the insane financial requirements of British marriage immigration visas.

I don’t mean to “reblog beg” but it would really help if you reblogged this to get this information out there. One of the reasons these visa restrictions are still in place is because people aren’t even aware they exist.

These restrictions were brought into place less than six months before ETD and I were due to be married (5 years ago now) and we were told our spousal visa would be denied because I didn’t make enough money to support him. We had to completely change our wedding plans, as well as our life plans.

At the time I was earning over 16k a year with over 10k in savings, well over the UK minimum wage. But that, I was told, was not a “living wage” therefore I could not sponsor my partner, whom I had been with for 7 years, regardless of him already having paying work lined up. I have friends and family in the UK whose entire families are expected to live in less than 9k a year, but the govt deems that acceptable.

They deem a lot of things acceptable. Provided they only happen to the vulnerable and poor.

Also the people in the comments sneering about how the average UK minimum wage is 20k and if you’re not lazy and work hard you can earn more: fuck you that’s not how that works and you know it.

16k was what I earned working full AND freelance work. And I worked damn fucking hard for it, 12 hours a day. That you are priveledge and lucky enough to have a job that pays you over minimum wage, does not negate the fact that a large portion of the country, particularly the North, are not and are surviving thanks to food banks and charity run organizations.

So instead of looking down on people and sneering that maybe people should just “work harder”, maybe you should self examine why you’re so invested in supporting a system that never wants to see you rise higher than “just enough to Survive” and vilifies those who cannot.

Same here, honestly.

Knight and Beguiler are limited by the EXACT same restrictions above.
Basically, unless I can afford to move to London in the near future and get some half-decent job there, things are bleak. That or work two jobs or more, which in the UK is not a common occurrence.

I’m trying whatever I can to meet the requirements, but the system is rigged in favour of those in the wealthiest parts of the UK, and naturally, the Royal Family get an automatic pass. 

It’s also absurd because it does not count the partner’s income AT ALL. Your foreign partner’s income has NO BEARING on the financial requirement, it’s all in the hands of the UK citizen to meet an income requirement set up decades ago, and that has been ruled as “fair in spirit”.

heelgripper:

thebibliosphere:

vultureculturecoyote:

The reason I hate this royal wedding is personal…

I know a lot of people can’t stand this stupid royal wedding nonsense, but for me this really is sickening to watch. Prince Harry gets to marry his Canadian finance while my partner and I have been separated by immigration laws for 4 years and counting. Never allowed to marry or even LIVE TOGETHER IN THE SAME COUNTRY.

What makes their situation any different from ours? Money.

In order for me to immigrate with my British partner he is required to me making an income of over £18,900 per year. (Which might seem reasonable to americans but Only 14% of British citizens make enough money to meet the spouse immigration requirements!)

Of course, because the royal family are wealthy nobility they can bypass any immigration requirements and live happily ever after, while tens of thousands of families are separated by the insane financial requirements of British marriage immigration visas.

I don’t mean to “reblog beg” but it would really help if you reblogged this to get this information out there. One of the reasons these visa restrictions are still in place is because people aren’t even aware they exist.

These restrictions were brought into place less than six months before ETD and I were due to be married (5 years ago now) and we were told our spousal visa would be denied because I didn’t make enough money to support him. We had to completely change our wedding plans, as well as our life plans.

At the time I was earning over 16k a year with over 10k in savings, well over the UK minimum wage. But that, I was told, was not a “living wage” therefore I could not sponsor my partner, whom I had been with for 7 years, regardless of him already having paying work lined up. I have friends and family in the UK whose entire families are expected to live in less than 9k a year, but the govt deems that acceptable.

They deem a lot of things acceptable. Provided they only happen to the vulnerable and poor.

My Scottish husband and I had to move to America because of these laws. He’d just graduated university, there was no way he was going to bring in that kind of money (and he’d have to be earning it for SIX MONTHS before he could APPLY for the visa. That’s a mandatory half a year’s separation for a married couple.) 

Want to know the fun part? 

The amount you must earn goes up for each kid you have together, making it harder for families with children to stay together. 

People celebrated when Margaret Milk-Snatcher died. Similarly, I will survive to pee on Theresa May’s grave. That’s what keeps me going. 

Boundaries, Part Whatever

jimhines:

You have the right to say no.

If you’re on the receiving end of that “No”? You don’t have to be happy about it. You can feel hurt or angry or whatever. But you still have to accept it.

You have the right to say no, even if you said yes in the past. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to decide that today you want to set this boundary, regardless of whether you set it yesterday or not.

You have the right to set rules and boundaries in your own space. You decide who can and can’t be in your home. You decide who can call you, text you, talk to you online, and so on. You have the right to tell someone to leave you the hell alone, and to block their ass if they can’t respect that.

If someone tells you to stop talking to them? Stop talking to them! Don’t argue. Don’t whine about how it’s unfair. Don’t keep coming back to explain yourself, or to try to get the last word. Grow the hell up and get on with your life.

To put it as simply and clearly as I can, you don’t have a right to another person.

Continued at http://www.jimchines.com/2018/05/boundaries-part-whatever/

When Old Comforts Bite.

nudiemuse:

When Old Comforts Bite.

I’m anxious today and as is my habit I turned to an old fave audiobook for comfort. If you know me you probably already know that the Gunslinger is one of my favorite worlds and I put on the audiobook as done by one of my favorite narrators.

I started up the Drawing of the Three (*amazon affiliate links in the house) and for a while enjoyed it.

Until as with so many of Kings other books, somebody…

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