i dont care if theres a genetic basis for being gay. i dont care if trans people’s brains resemble their gender. i don’t care. can we please stop focusing on answering why people arent cishet and more on how to actually stop homophobia and transphobia? because going out of our way to show that trans and gay people are weird variants on “normal” cishets isn’t helping.
why are cishet people so insistent on “solving” gayness and transness anyway? why not just accept us how we are. how’s that for a concept
My girlfriend recently shared a 20-year-old quote with me from Patrick Califia-Rice, author of Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex:
“I’m very fond of the concept of choice as the basis for sexual preference. This point of view is unpopular in an era in which every claim for gay rights is based on pseudoscientific sulking about how we can’t help being queer; we’re just born that way. Thanks, but I don’t want to receive my civil rights as a charity fuck bequeathed on me by my genetic superiors.”
Day: May 26, 2018

Rhinoceros beetle hitching a ride in Costa Rica. These harmless beetles reach the size of 6.75 inches (170 mm) in length
shell puppy
there ought to be a word in english for “that specific kind of annoyance you feel when someone says something blatantly wrong about a topic you know very well”
On a slightly different track, an interesting thing to note:
I’ve frequently repeated the old adage that an untrained dog is not stubborn, because stubborn implies a willful decision to do (or not do) something, and an untrained dog that’s not listening to you is usually just… a dog that doesn’t know what you want.
But I also frequently tack onto that another piece of advice:
If your dog is completely unwilling to be lured or shaped into a specific position, no matter how many different tricks you try to get them to choose to go into that position themselves… take a step back and observe them out of training. Do they take that position naturally when they’re just hanging around in the house? If the answer is no, you need a vet.
It’s a hard one for a lot of my clients to hear, because it seems completely off the walls. What does not sitting when told have to do with getting a shot from a vet? Of course, it’s a lot more complicated than that.
The first time I encountered this problem as a ~professional~, it was with a chihuahua mix rescue dog that my mentor had assigned me to train to an “adoptable” standard. This little guy would do everything I asked him, with a lot of enthusiasm. Except sit. No amount of luring or shaping would get him to sit. Observing him offleash in the play rooms and in his crate, he never sat. If he wanted to not be standing, he’d just lay down. Forcing him into position would “work”, sure, but his position was hardly natural. He was adopted before I could get the rescue to push through paperwork to get him to a vet, but I’d bet money there was something orthopedic going on there.
In the past several months since I moved, I’ve encountered a lot of this. Not surprising, considering I moved to an area with a very high rate of tick-born lyme, and lyme attacks the joints and makes certain movements painful. In dogs, lameness is one of the most obvious signs. I would say one of every ten new clients has a dog that absolutely refuses to sit. I’ve advised each of these clients just the same- observe your dog at home and tell me if they sit on their own. If they don’t, take them to the vet.
Upon following this protocol, my clients have found everything from lyme to bone spurs to impacted anal glands to hip dysplasia to destroyed kneecaps. One dog had a bullet lodged in a nerve on her thigh. She was a recent rescue from a Southern shelter with a lot of mystery scars (what looks like an acid burn on her shoulder) and zero backstory. One was a rottie who was estimated to be four years old, with joint damage so bad on her knees and hips that the vet now thinks she’s closer to ten. One young puppy had an old break in a leg that never healed right- an injury that was completely missed until that point.
None of these dogs are stubborn. They are all in varying amounts of pain, and said pain prevents them from performing the fairly simple task I’ve asked them to do. If solvable- once the pain goes away, the dog sits and downs without question.
I notice the same thing with wide-chested dogs, and dogs with dwarfism. They frequently struggle to sphinx-down. They’ll lay on their sides, or with their back legs kicked out, but not as a sphinx. It’s almost like they get “stuck” halfway down, and then either choose to try laying on their side if they want the treat badly enough, or choose to walk away if they’re too frustrated. I warn all of my brachy breed and dwarf breed clients about this problem, and invariably almost all of their dogs struggle to do it. There’s something to do with the very structure of the dog itself, not allowing them to take a specific position easily. Many of the puppies of these breeds will eventually figure out how to sphinx-down comfortably and the problem goes away, but not all. Similar to how many puppies will sit with their legs kicked out at funny angles, rather than folded beneath them.
If you’re having trouble getting your dog to take a specific position, consider that it might very well be something to do with the way your dog was put together in the first place. Consider there might be more to the story than just what you see on the surface.
I was Jordan Peterson’s strongest supporter. Now I think he’s dangerous | The Star
Even if you aren’t anti-Peterson, or even a fan, I feel like the unique perspective, and some of the details I haven’t seen anywhere else, mandate reading this.
I have no way of knowing whether Jordan is aware that he is playing out of the same authoritarian demagogue handbook that he himself has described. If he is unaware, then his ironic failure, unwillingness, or inability to see in himself what he attributes to them is very disconcerting…
He may be driven by a great and genuine fear of our impending doom, and a passionate conviction that he can save us from it. He may believe that his ends justify his questionable means, and he may not be aware that he mimics those figures from whom he wants to protect us. But his conviction makes him no less problematic. On the contrary.
I was Jordan Peterson’s strongest supporter. Now I think he’s dangerous | The Star
I can’t even find one earlier post complaining about one ridiculous thing: fighting falling sleep whenever I mostly lie back with my legs propped up in the bed. Which I should be doing much more often trying to heal something, but not if it means a nap every time 😪
Sitting down for very long is bad enough that way these days, but lean back and get comfortable at all and it’s honestly kind of worrying.
Anyway, reading is a definite no-go. Watching something I’m engaged with is sometimes better for staying conscious, sometimes not so much.
But, I just discovered new depths of ridiculousness with it a little while ago. Caught myself dozing off while trying to go through a dungeon in Skyrim!
Didn’t even want to try anything but sitting totally up last night, but I figured actively playing a game should be enough to keep me awake. Tonight I could tell I really needed to elevate that leg (after not doing so all day), and…not so much. Trying to go out like a light anyway.
Taking a break and fortifying myself with caffeine right now, but yeah I don’t think I’ll try that again tonight.
Tiny Crisis
Hey, so.
We had a show last weekend that went really, really badly.
Like, really badly. It ended up costing us several hundred dollars instead of making us money. And even with @dadhoc driving Uber this week and me busting my butt on as many commissions as I can humanly take on for graphic design, we’re still gonna have literally like $20 in our bank account come Tuesday.
The money that’s supposed to come in from Etsy is going to be enough to pay our monthly Etsy bill and keep the shop online, and until stuff comes in from Patreon or other sources, we will have, like, nothing.
We’re going away this weekend, to a LARP, but only because it costs us absolutely nothing – the LARP runner is paying for our gas and food, and I wrote him some modules in return – and because we planned that over a month ago for my birthday. But I’d really like to be able to buy more groceries next week and pay the overdue gas bill and stuff like that.
Y’all know I hate talking about stuff like this, but this is the roughest spot we’ve been in since we started doing NerdyKeppie full time. Things will get better but right now we could use a small helping hand.
If you’d like to help us in an immediate fashion, maybe buy me a coffee or hit up our PayPal.
Thanks.

Florida Scrub Jay (Aphelocoma coerulescens)
I don’t have favorite birds, but I do have “tiers”. Scrub Jay is a top tier bird for me, next to Limpkin, Caracara, and Florida Grasshopper Sparrow.
Rockledge, FL

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