Day: May 29, 2018

fierceawakening:

xenoqueer:

justonepurpose:

deetzcourse:

legsdemandias:

“cishet aces are are the biggest biphobes” 

Ah yes. I remember when ~cishet~ aces started bi discourse in 2013–those DARN cishet aces, they just have a STRANGLE HOLD on the community. 

i dont have to remember cishet aces making young bisexuals, most of whom are still trying to figure themselves out, afraid of LG people and afraid they’ll lose their community because it’s literally Happening Right Now.

also when is the last time you talked about biphobia in the community when it wasn’t related to ace discourse? it’s starting to seem like the only time this matters to anyone is when it’s related to ace discourse lmao

We talk about biphobia in Ace Discourse because a ton of REGs/exclusionists are biphobic. They continue to make up or change definitions of words and in doing so they constantly invalidate and erase bisexuals and other mspec folks. There’s a lot of bi/ace solidarity because bi people have already been through the shit REGs are putting aspecs through.

So try again with your “cishet aces are making bi kids afraid of LG people”. You know damn well there’s plenty of nasty biphobia in those communities and that bisexuality has historically been panned by gays and lesbians just as much as it has been by the straights. Bi people are afraid of the LG community because of those communities, not because of the nebulous cishet aces who are somehow responsible for all that’s wrong in the world.

More of my bi friends have been shit on by LG folks than aces, or are we forgetting that “bihet” shit that went around on Tumblr not three years ago. That wasn’t aspecs. Part of it wasn’t even straights. We’re just conveniently forgetting mspec antagonism from gays and lesbians because it’s the cool beans to shit on aspecs rn, are we.

Looks like you’re just as guilty of using biphobia as a discourse token as everyone you’re slagging off.

Oh, discussions of biphobia and monosexism have been happening non-stop, on and off tumblr, for literal decades.

If deetscourse here hasn’t seen those conversations, I imagine that’s a lack of effort not a lack of existence.

If you want to see more discussions of a subject, just find people talking about them.

Well, that and don’t spend years trying to silence those conversations, remove the language used to have them, redirect all of them to unrelated subjects like acecourse and lesbophpbia, etc.

It’s not bi people acting as ace allies that are ignoring or erasing these conversations…….

I honestly didn’t realize there was overlap until I dared ask aloud “wait so why does tumblr keep recommending me butch style/moodboard blogs but as soon as I look at the byf “this is not for bi women?”

An avalanche of angry people descended upon me to tell me of my “lesbophobia,” a word I’d never heard before.

THEN I started to understand.

If you don’t run afoul of Discoursey types you may not even realize they’re there.