Month: May 2018

Doxxing White Supremacists Is Making Them Terrified

kyraneko:

naamahdarling:

vaspider:

kittykat8311:

republicansareahategroup:

GOOD

DESTROY THEIR LIVES

Let me be clear, as much as I want to just respond CRY MORE, BABIES I object to the use of the word ‘doxxing’ in this case.

I have BEEN doxxed. I have been stalked online. I have had people go through my journals and my pictures to try to identify me for malicious purposes. I have had people search me on court websites to try to find the charges I filed against an ex when he stole from me, for the purposes of trying to humiliate me about an online roleplaying game. (No, really.) I’ve had people try to match up pictures of the flowers outside my synagogue and the building in the background with pictures of synagogues in the Philly area to try to fuck with my life.

So I know the kind of gut-clenching, cold down the back of your neck, hands-shaking fear that comes with being doxxed. I do. It’s happened to me more than once. It will probably happen to me again, because I’m a loud fat queer femme Jewish disabled activist, and boy does that piss people off.

But let me be clear: I was existing as a person that someone else didn’t like in those cases. I was existing as queer, I was existing as ‘someone I don’t like on a game.’ I was not showing up in public, carrying a torch, and advocating for the massacre of millions of people. When you show up in public carrying a torch, you are not being doxxed.

You are being IDENTIFIED.

This is such a fantastic distinction, THANK YOU.

When you show up in public carrying a torch, you are not being doxxed.

You are being IDENTIFIED.

This is a very useful distinction from the “so-and-so’s a Nazi, here’s their address” sort of thing that can be so easily thrown at non-Nazis just as easily as Nazis.

Doxxing White Supremacists Is Making Them Terrified

lord-kitschener:

tomcats-and-tophats:

@thisisbeabe jumping in on this reply chain the only way this stupid website will let me —

Firstly, as everyone else has kindly pointed out, this is about bi people who only date the same gender describing their same gender attraction as gay, while also retaining the bisexual identity due to its personal significance to them.

Nobody here is suggesting that identifying as “bi lesbians” or “homoromantic bisexuals” isn’t ridiculous. Nobody here is disagreeing in that it would be inappropriate for a bi woman to say “omg I’m so gay for my boyfriend” (but it is mysterious that this is seen as an inevitability for us to the point of demanding we alter our colloquialisms even surrounding our same-gender attraction 👀). It’s about language and ease of relating to material realities.

Would you suggest that a bi woman marrying another woman refer to all aspects of her marriage as a “bi marriage” instead of a gay or lesbian marriage? Should we add a caveat to the specific way we may experience attraction every time it comes up? When advocating for our own rights and lives purely within the context of our same-gender attraction do we need to add the caveat that we aren’t “fully” gay, even when the people oppressing us (often violently) don’t care enough to make that distinction? Because surprise, bi people describing our attraction and relationships with people of the same gender aren’t the reason that homophobes disrespect all of us.

To suggest that, say, women who only ever date women, who experience all the struggles of a woman who only dates women and only wants to spend her life with women, is committing an egregious betrayal by technically retaining attraction to men whilst identifying her attraction to women through common language (eg. “I can’t wait to get gay married/she’s so pretty I’m so gay/I love the gay community!”) despite that being a non-factor to the actual trajectory of her life, is impossible to divorce from the idea that the love a bi woman has for other women is less whole, genuine, and valuable, than the love of someone who is “truly” gay/a lesbian. That we have to qualify our love in a completely different way that makes it distinct from yours, despite it impacting our lives from the legal to the personal in identical ways.

This is NOT me, nor the OP, saying that the individual identities of “lesbian” or “bisexual” don’t matter, and in fact they said quite the opposite, by the statement that it’s important to respect the bisexual identity of a woman who only wants to be with women – and likewise, respect the lesbian identity of a woman who only wants to be with women even if she has complicated feelings on men. (I think the person replying directly above you was talking about the emergence of distinct lesbian and bisexual communities, specifically, though I see how their phrasing could be alarming). But all while respecting that both women, through their love of women, are experiencing gay attraction and the struggle that comes with it.

Also it once again places the blame for straight men’s violent entitlement on women and our perceived misdeeds. Str8 guys will harrass wlw whether or not some bi woman says “I’m gay for my girlfriend,” because straight men learned that they are entitled to harrass and bully women into giving them what they want from a misogynist, homophobic society, not from LGBT women.

Source: tomcats-and-tophats

memecucker:

i started reading “Feminine Fascism: Women in Britain’s Fascist Movement, 1923-45″ by Julie Gottlieb and I feel like the subject matter of the book is pretty relevant when it comes to understanding the idea of what people consider reactionary “white feminism”. Like not only did British fascism seemingly have a higher rate of female participation compared to continental European versions but its idealogical variations even had certain kind of twisted gender egalitarianism in the sense that many British fascists believed women were as equally responsible as men to devote the entity of their spirit towards defending “the nation” against subversive hordes of lower classes, foreigners and Jews (especially in the context of the counter-revolutionary activities conducted by the British right in the context of the 1926 General Strike).
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the-kalamity-kid:

libertarirynn:

Real talk.

When I told my mom she had such a huge panic attack and spent the next few years telling me I’m crazy while I went to therapy and took meds

Then she wonders why I don’t go to her for help or trust her to do what’s best for me

Closer to my experience, too. I never knew when my mom was going to totally flip her shit, and that didn’t exactly encourage trust talking about much of anything important.

When she walked in unexpectedly and saw that I’d been cutting when I was maybe 14, she screamed and bellowed up in my face for at least half an hour straight–and wanted to get me locked up as suicidal. Thankfully the therapist I was being forced to see actually listened to what I was saying when I could talk again, didn’t think that was an appropriate response, and talked her down.

(Not the only occasion either, and I was supposedly the Family Crazy Person 🤔 At least I did manage to shut down instead of melting down that time, or it would have been a psych unit for me anyway.)

Let’s just say that reactions like this are not so likely to encourage the people around you to openly discuss personal issues with you. Especially kids who are having a hard enough time already. Paternalistic platitudes are almost encouraging by comparison.

Source: libertarirynn

urbancripple:

neilnevins:

Mr. Rogers is a perfect example of doing something small and easy to accommodate those with a disability or making someone more comfortable that makes all the difference to them

An image of Mr. Rogers feeding his fish. The image reads:

“Mr Rogers made a point of mentioning out loud when he was feeding his fish on his show after he got a letter from a family whose blind daughter asked him to do so because she couldn’t tell if the fish were being fed.”

Below the image of Mr Rogers, the text reads: “One girl and her fmaily wrote to tell us there was a special reason why she wanted me [Mr. Rogers] to talk about feeding the fish each day.

“Dear Mr Rogers,
Please say when you are feeding your fish, because I worry about them. I can’t see if you are feeding them, so please say you are feeding them out loud.”

Katie, age 5

(Father’s note: Katie is blind, and she does cry if you don’t say that you have fed the fish.)

Since hearing from Katie, I’ve tried to remember to mention out load those times I’m feeding the fish. Over the years, I’ve learned so mcuh from children and their families. I like to think that we’ve all grown together.“

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Source: ultrafacts