beepbooperror:

agenericdiscourseblog:

liliac-gold:

heteromanticmarkiplier:

thyrell:

discoursers: aces dont belong in the lgbt community go make ur own

ace ppl: *make their own community*

discoursers:

Really bc the only response I’ve seen to “make your own community” is “that’s literally all we want you to do” but ok lol

Idk man,going thru tags like “ace positivity” ,“ace pride” or

ace ppl’s photos on tumblr and reblogging the posts with nasty comments, making and reblogging “ace donald trump/ronald raegan/margaret thatchers/or X horrible person” moodboards(thus equating aces with homophobes/facists)and making and reblogging those “cringey asexual” posts(thereby implying that there is something inherently “cringey” with  being ace)really dosent scream “Thats 

literally all we want you to do “ to me lmfao.

If the only problem with u is aces “invading” the LGBT+ community then dont  demonize asexuality itself and stop erasing and making fun of our struggles which is exactly what 85% of ur blog is about lol

The funny thing is hetmarki says this, but was literally 1 of 4 exclusionists who hopped on a non-discourse post, that was obviously not discourse, by a writer talking about ace headcanons and their own ace characters that got mistagged, and harassed them to the point where the blog’s owner had a relapse.

Tw for talk of genitalia and sex, harassment, relapse mention, mockery, and desexualization of aroace people

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So I’m sorry but I don’t exactly believe hetmarki’s “nobody does this, we want you to make your own community”.

They don’t want aces and aros to make their own community for support and validation. They want aces and aros to make a social community that doesn’t acknowledge any kind of systemic marginalization or societal difficulty, because a community based on support acknowledges systemic marginalization exists and therefore begs the question of why it has to be separate from the larger community of marginalized orientations.

They don’t want aces and aros to make a community that looks anything like the larger community (a big reason they whine about meme thievery). They want aces and aros to make a community that reflects their biases about us and only exists for the flag colors and cake jokes they think are all we bother to identify as ace for. They want us to make a community approved by them, and therefore are making efforts to stamp out anything else.

They say “make a community of your own” but they mean “acknowledge that you experience no marginalization and just form a social club like straight people do.” And that’s why they feel justified in shitting all over ace and aro spaces, because those spaces don’t look the way they think they should and – and why they consider ace positivity to be discourse by default, because anything that takes the position of aces and aros being in any way marginalized is, by default, a wrench in their entire position, even when it’s happening away from them, so they show up to stamp it out and tell us to do it over and get it right and admit that we don’t even need our own community at all.

They want us to know our place tbh.