Y’all understand that it is literally not possible for gay couples to be heteronormative. A masculine gay man dating a feminine gay man isn’t heteronormative. A butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian isn’t heteronormative. They’re fucking gay. Telling gay people they’re somehow enforcing heteronormativity by being themselves and dating another gay person is nasty and ridiculous.
God I think the problem you nasties have is you all think gay people are by default constantly trying to copy straight people. Like listen, I’m a masculine gay man, I have a bit of a preference for feminine men. A lot of you would say I’m enforcing heteronormativity, or maybe I’m trying to be straight, when in reality I just think feminine men are cute. That’s literally it.
The problem isn’t that i, a masculine man, like feminine men, the problem is the way straight people view gay relationships. Straight people see themselves as the default, so when they see a masculine man dating a feminine man, or a butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian, their first thought is “oh, they’re trying to copy us.” Even if two feminine men date or two butch lesbians date, straight people still look at them and try to find out who’s the “man” and who’s the “woman.”
Gay people aren’t the problem, the problem is the way straight people view our relationships.
This. I don’t like femmes because I’m heteronormative. I like femmes because I’m not.
Also, as a femme bisexual woman, MY PREFERENCE FOR BUTCHES D O E S N O T MAKE ME “BASICALLY STRAIGHT” “ACTUALLY STRAIGHT” “PRETENDING TO BE STRAIGHT” OR ANY OTHER GODDAMN VERSION OF STRAIGHT
Yeah, that.
Also, thank you for “femme bisexual.” I am so tired of “these are lesbian words, but we didn’t bother to tell you that fifteen years ago for some strange reason”
Our (lesbian and bisexual women) histories are deeply intertwined. Our language is shared. “Bisexual culture” was not a thing for women where I live until the mid 90’s or so (bisexual men were a thing about a decade earlier, but it was a weirdly specific lable for the “heteroflexible” guys who only dated girls but still liked casual gay sex). Prior to that, you were just a lesbian who sometimes put up with men. Definitions have shifted and bisexual culture has emerged as its own thing, but the damn language is the same. We split off from lesbians well after that language was established and used for us. 19 year olds on Tumblr acting like this is somehow not the case and our histories and language have ALWAYS BEEN SEPARATE, and omg you guys, BISEXUALS are OPPRESSING LESBIANS by APPROPRIATING THEIR WOOOOOOOOORRRRRDZZ drive me insane.
Yep. My last ex-gf and I called ourselves a butch-femme couple. We’re both bi. We didn’t say it all the time, and we certainly weren’t going to yell at ourselves… but I still recall precisely no one being bothered by it.
My ex before that was emotionally abusive, and would put me down and “joke” that I wasn’t butch and laugh. She was a lesbian.
Her reasons were always things like “those aren’t men’s clothes” and “you sometimes cry” (yes, she was making me.) Never “you are bi.” And yes, she knew I was bi and said other biphobic things.
What I found absolutely impressive and stunning about this comic is the way the artist explained the identification and elimination of the confounding factors in the Rat Park study. This is one of the hardest parts of experiments to explain to the public, and I think it was just brilliantly done.
murderer: (via text) im going to kill you
me: (a week later) omg im so sorry… i saw this when i was in the middle of doing something else and then just completely forgot about it
Urocyon's Jaunts 2.0 
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